I am new to everything having to do with this pregnancy/birth/mothering business. Short of having a mom of my own I know next to nothing about children, having them and raising them. Up until recently I have had a pretty negative outlook on the idea of having children. But, I am now to the point where it is something I want to do and am planning to begin trying to become pregnant with my wonderfully supportive husband.
While my husband has been super supportive, I cannot say that I have found support from anywhere else. I spent the last several months listening to a pregnant co-worker discuss every horror story and negative thing she can think of about children/pregnancy/birth. Amazingly, every woman in my office would find pleasure in joining in with their own horror stories. I began to call it my daily dose of fear and have frequently broken down in tears to my husband and alone because of how afraid I have become. I've even begun feeling like this is the universe trying to tell me not to have children.
So here I am, on my virtual world hands and knees begging the mothering.com community to please help me. I vitally NEED positive feedback and advice. I know that I want to have a natural birth. I have begun trying to research Midwives and homebirths in the Fredericksburg, VA area. I desperately am seeking advice on how to prepare for getting pregnant. I know that I need to kick my coffee habit (yes, I know I should have done this a long time ago anyway), but what else should I be doing to prepare and try and make this the healthiest and hopefully also fairly easiest pregnancy and birth as possible?? What should I be sure to do at different points of my pregnancy? Is there a mothering.com forum or article that is essentially a "being a mom for dummies" that anyone can recommend?
Essentially, I am looking for any words of advice, helpful articles, dos and don'ts, etc. that are POSITIVE. If you are planning to write to me with anything scary or negative, please please keep it to yourself. I have heard all that I need to hear for a lifetime on that front. Thank you!!!