Hi all, this is my first post but I have been lurking a bit ever sense my hubby and I decided that we where going to TTC #2.
I live in TN, but unfortunately there are only a few (well, actually only one) homebirth midwives with-in a hour of my home. Luckily I did find a midwife that was willing to drive the distance to my house. I have been more or less stalking her website sense then, lol.
I talked to her on the phone briefly and she seems very sweet. She even worked in the Nurse-Midwife clinic I saw while I was pregnant last time, and I remember her from there. The mid-wives at the clinic rotated who you saw at each per-natal visit, so I even worked with her a bit, though I ended up with a doctor delivering me and not a midwife.
Anyway, up until a couple days ago it seemed she would be a really good fit with us. But when I was checking out some of the links to the forums she has new clients fill out (they are about her philosophy, payment options, ect.) I ran across the info that she is very religious and active in the pro-life movement.
While this would normally be a big plus to most people here in the bible belt, this is actually now something I am worried about.
Her being a christian isn't itself a problem for me. I honestly think everyone should believe how they want. But I am now worried that my cussing may offend her. I am being honest with myself when I say I probably wont be able to NOT cuss while in labor.
The big issue here for me though is the pro-life stuff. I am pretty active in the local women's rights movement, I'm very pro-choice, and I had an abortion about a year and a half ago.
I dont feel I should have to hide my actions from her, as I am not ashamed, but I also do not want to be judged by someone who is suppose to be supportive during a venerable time. I also worry that her pro-life stance could be a problem if something horrible where to happen with the pregnancy and we ended up needing an abortion for medical reasons.
So what should I do? Is there a good way to bring the topic up to her?
Sorry for any typos and such. I am dyslexic.