I know that there must be other WAHMs in similar situations to mine. I’d love to rack your brains for advice, suggestions and even, perhaps, camaraderie as our challenges are so unique.
I won’t go into extreme detail, but basically, I’ve been WAH for almost three years - since my oldest son was born. (I have two now.) I work a demanding job that routinely requires longer hours but does also offer some flexibility and leeway. Except for about 90 minutes in the morning, I work WHILE watching my two under-three sons. My DH works out-of-the-home.
I’m struggling because I really feel as if my husband doesn’t respect my job, the fact that I do my job (which is equally as demanding as his) while also caring for our sons, or that I do the majority of the housework and meal preparation. He doesn’t prep lunches, make breakfast and he’s not home at night to make dinner or put the kids to bed.
At this point, I’m just at a loss. I feel upset that I truly feel my husband doesn’t appreciate my struggles or how hard I work. We have talked on multiple occasions and I’ve told him how I feel. He hasn’t made an effort to wake up early to spend time with me, to wake up early with whichever child is up first (he always wakes up w/ the child up last) or even to help much more with housework. Nothing gets done unless I'M the one to put in the effort - and that includes staying awake in the evening to spend time with him.
Is anyone in (or has been in?) a similar situation? How do you keep life/work/children balanced? How do you get your SO to recognize and respect that you’re more than a SAHM?