peppered moth- having had scans with all four previous pregnancies, they'll see it, It is really rare for them not to. Usually when they measure the femur. It is my intention to let the tech know I do not want to know and I will look away when they're 'down there'.
But I do want the anatomy scan, to make sure we're still planning a homebirth.
My kids have a strong preference, too, which is actually why we aren't finding out. We're embracing the complete lack of control we have over the gender of this child and I think it has been helpful. In my past two pregnancies we found out and dd, my only daughter, was glum for week and weeks. She really has her heart set on a sister and who can blame her? So this time, we're waiting. The kids will be present at the birth, so it will be dd's job to announce the gender and choose baby's first hat. She is very unlikely to be sad once she's holding her precious sibling. And this waiting time is giving us lots of time to talk about the exciting aspects of both genders.
I have to make or buy all new stuff, too. It's been 5 years since my last baby! I'm making and knitting things in all bright colors, including fuchsia and purple, because I don't mind using those things on boys or girls. My youngest boy wore sleep gowns for most of his newbornhood, often with flowers, but he's just fine.
Selissa- I know finding out really helps, to choose a name. This time I don't have that and we're being much slower about choosing names. It's a whole new sort of process. Usually we'd be finding out soon and then choose that gender name right then, middle names and all. We're just going to have to call ours "baby" until it is born, but that fits well with our church tradition because we don't name the baby until the 8th day.
Oh, well, even if I am all alone, I'm waiting!