Hi all! I tried to find some posts like my situation and did find a few, but wasn't satisfied with the amount of answers I found... So I hope it is ok to post this. Anyhow, here I sit glaring at my darling 20 month old daughter feeling awful and grouchy and defeated! Maybe this is a sleep regression thing? Maybe it's my "fault"? Maybe DH is a culprit? I don't know but here goes-
We've coslept since day 1, DD is a BIG snuggler and is usually in the crook of my arm (yep, even now for about 50% of the night). She is and always has been a boob addict. DD naps 1-2 hours around 1pm and goes to bed at 9pm, waking 8-9am. We have bedtime rituals of course (not always perfectly on time, but we try), and I nurse her to sleep. Once she is asleep I put her down in our shared bed (sometimes takes a while) and she's fine for usually an hour or two. She cries ( dream, teething, or woke herself up) and I go in and nurse her back down (although now FINALLY my DH is starting to help resettle her!) . This has been the way it is for a year or more. She is now waking every 30min to every hour! She demands "nanas" (boob) each time. And then around 11 or 12pm when I join her in bed she has been nursing like crazy for the majority of the night. I can't sleep through it and she wants to switch sides frequently. My DH sleeps like a rock and sadly doesn't realize what is going on. I have had a really rough time getting enough sleep since she was born which is at odds with my desire to give DD what she seems to need (cosleeping and nighttime nursing).
My DH is trying to step up and help, he can now actually sometimes get her to fall back asleep and put her back down! However when he can't she is so worked up it takes me 5x as long as it might of initially. I'm exhausted. And now with tons of friends and family announcing new pregnancies, DH is trying to convince me it's time to make #2! How can I have another and be this tired??
I will NEVER CIO, DD crying just a little sends me to mom hell. I want to nurse as long as we can, but am open to night weaning. Although since DH is very hard to wake in the night I don' t know how that'd work. She has a little bed in the garage for when she is ready, but she is super clingy and I'd be shocked if that worked. I'm at a loss and could use some perspective...
Thank you so much!