Weaning from Family bed w/ASD
Two (both are boys) of my five kids are on the spectrum. I weaned them to their own beds in a similar manner as I did my typical kids. One was three and the other was five when the transition occurred. I spent many nights laying in DS's bed with him until he fell asleep. Then I would go to my own bed. If he woke up I went back to his bed (many, many times a night, sometimes it felt like I had a newborn again). Of course we spent time, before this started, talking about his room, his bed, what he needed to be comfortable - weighted blanket, white noise machine. Some kids may like a vibrating stuffed animal. It took a long time (months, I don't remember how many but it was a long time) but they both go to sleep in their own rooms in their own beds just fine now.
I would put them to bed each night by laying with them until they fell asleep. When they woke up I'd either go sleep with them for a bit or I'd bring them into our bed. Over time they woke less frequently, but it was a long time before DD could go to bed without me laying with her to sleep, and DS still needs me. But honestly, he's my last kid and they are growing up so fast that I'm actually cherishing these times, even though there are nights when I wish I didn't have to.
DD is my last as well, and I feel just the same - trying to cherish these moments even when I'm exhausted.
this is a really great idea, I will have to try it. I'm already working on making her a weighted blanket, but I think she'd really like a vibrating stuffed animal.
Thanks to you both!