I'm basically here to vent, so I apologize in advance. My daughter is now 3 years, 3 months and I have been struggling with her sleep since the day she was born. Starting in the hospital, she would cry and cry if she were put down, so she slept with me in the bed during the three days and nights I was there, and this continued on after that point. She would wake multiple times through the night to nurse until about two years when I weaned her and got her into her own bed. She continued to wake in the night, but it was for the most part tolerable. What has been the most challenging, throughout her life and during recent times, has been getting her to fall asleep at night. It is so difficult! Take tonight for example, she was obviously tired and ready to sleep, but once we got up there she fought sleep for two hours! It's the most frustrating thing I have experienced. If she were there by herself doing this it would be one thing, but she needs me or my husband there with her to fall asleep. It used to be that on days that she would not nap she would fall asleep within minutes, but something happened over the last two months and this is no longer the case. She didn't nap today and took two hours, and fell asleep at 9:00. She used to fall asleep between 7:30 and 8:00 when she didn't nap. My husband and I had planned to watch a movie tonight (which never happens), thinking she would be to sleep early, but nope. On nights where she has napped she hasn't been falling asleep until 10:00! I'm ready to sleep at 9:00.
Bottom line, I am so sick of this. I have no time to myself in the evening, and it's driving me nuts. Lying there with her for two hours is maddening! My husband puts her to sleep once in awhile, but not nearly enough. He does wake up with her in the night though, which is extremely helpful. I have a one-year old that sleeps with me and wakes at least once in the night too.
Soon we are moving to a new house and I am hoping that we can start a new routine there and try and get her to fall asleep on her own. I can't imagine it happening, but I know I have felt that way about every new change before it happened.