Hi everyone, sorry to bombard the boards this week, but it seems like this is our week for bad behavior.
Has anyone taken their child to visit a psychologist? I'm finding myself at a total loss with my son and the day care he's attending. Quick recap: his sister was born and almost didn't make it, and he began to act out being aggressive; pushing, biting, etc. We had numerous meetings with administration and were convinced that they were doing what they could to help him and they suggested we get him evaluated because they didn't know how to cope with his behavior. I thought it was strange - a day care that has never seen this kind of behavior? But i went ahead and tried to find someone to eval him. The kicker was, nobody would! I tried countless professionals and they all said this was typical for what he was going through, and it sounded like the environment was prompting it.
Turns out, these strangers were right. We found out months later that not only was the day care not trying to help, but that their form of "dealing" with the situation was actually taunting him and triggering him to continue and accelerate the behavior. We were furious. We have since met with the upper management of the day care, divulged everything that's happened, and outlined a very clear plan as to how to help our son.
While they've been hesitant to cooperate, things started to get better, until last week. Apparently my son bit another child, which we were lead to believe was a non-issue, but the parents have called and are waging war. The day care has not been discrete and I've noticed a lot of parents giving me dirty looks and turning their back to me when I come into the room. Funny, high school was a looong time ago for me. :) Bottom line is even though this day care has gone south, my son still now has a problem when he's provoked and bites/shoves/etc. when someone approaches him for something (I want that toy, etc.) Has anyone gone the psychologist route? I feel like a terrible mother as I should have seen what these people were doing to my son, and now as a family we're ostracized in the community. I can't believe I've raised a child so badly that he now needs psychological care at 3 years old!
Any advice would be helpful.