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frustrated with another mommy board

post #1 of 11
Thread Starter 

They are scaring first time moms about birth and making it sound like your insides get ripped out and might as well be a victim in a horror movie.  Now I know the last little bit of birth is not roses and rainbows, but birth is so wonderfully beautiful!! Why can't moms just lift other moms up and support new first time moms? Why do we all have to be all Debbie Downer??

post #2 of 11

birth is beautiful.  its the hardest most amazing thing you will ever do. 

post #3 of 11
Thread Starter 

It is definitely the most difficult thing I have ever done. But on the other side, I felt so empowered and amazing.  It is a challenge and I told this first time mom that.  It is hard work and it is important to prepare physically but in reality it is not the scary and horrible scene they portray on tv and if you are on top of labor and do things to manage it it is not the most horrible thing you will do and not everyone has excruciating experiences.

post #4 of 11
That bothers me immensely. I have had these beautiful and peaceful births, but I did have to mentally, physically and nutritionally prepare well for them! People look at me like I'm crazy, but I love being pregnant and I love labor. I used to be a competitive runner and it's the challenge of pushing through that point where your brain knows more than your body. Yes, it's hard. Like I like to tell people it's not like someone is sawing your leg off, with constant pain. The pain ebbs and flows and if you can relax and release during those valleys, you will enjoy your labor so much more!

We wonder why epidural and c-section rates are through the roof in our country... Predicating an environment based on fear is not helping anyone!

What board is it? Tell her to leave! smile.gif
post #5 of 11
I avoid all other boards for that reason. I can't have negative thoughts or they stick with me. I had a mostly positive labour last time though it was overly managed so I hope to avoid that this time around.
post #6 of 11

Yeah, I hate that kind of attitude!  I tell first-time moms that giving birth is an extreme sport: train for it, like a marathon, and expect it to be hard work but WORTH IT!!!

 

I really appreciate that my mother, my mother-out-law, and my aunt all did natural childbirth in the 1970s and all were very encouraging to me when I was expecting my first.  I also loved the advice I got from a friend who gave birth 11 months earlier: "Remember it's only one day in your life.  No matter how bad it gets, by this time tomorrow it will be over."  That thought was my focus during transition, which was the hardest part for me--and when it finally let up and I looked at the clock, I realized that had been only 20 minutes of my life! 

post #7 of 11
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I tell first-time moms that giving birth is an extreme sport: train for it, like a marathon, and expect it to be hard work but WORTH IT!!!

 

"Remember it's only one day in your life.  No matter how bad it gets, by this time tomorrow it will be over."  That thought was my focus during transition, which was the hardest part for me--and when it finally let up and I looked at the clock, I realized that had been only 20 minutes of my life! 

 :) True fact.  Its a gut wrenching 20 minutes, but so empowering when all is said and done.  And what are you going to do with your body that is more amazing than make babies?   I still look back at my labor and am in awe that G_d got me through it... plus  with my hearing intact (and my husbands, he was a trooper, I am soooooo loud!).  But its one of those things I refer to when I doubt myself right now (pregnant with two kids! ack! I'm overwhelmed! Okay, stop whining, this is nothing to labor!).

post #8 of 11
Thread Starter 

LOL somedays I might prefer labor to 1st trimester! I feel horrible and on top of it I think I am getting a cold.  My throat hurts and my body aches a little

post #9 of 11
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 LOL somedays I might prefer labor to 1st trimester!

Oh, I know!!  I find myself daydreaming about giving birth and how great it's going to be, as an escape from how I feel now!  The last few days have been better than Monday (which was awful) but the yucky taste in my mouth, tired breathless feelings...uggh.

 

I hope you can fight off the cold!

post #10 of 11
Labor is certainly shorter than first trimester!
post #11 of 11

Labor hurts a lot, but I would totally trade going through it a couple times to skip the first trimester!

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