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post #1 of 98
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I'll go ahead and start the new thread.

Life has been pretty good. I'm just trying to adjust to life with two kiddos. DH has been absolutely fantastic. The real work won't start until he goes back to work Wednesday.

I've been seriously stressing about finances. My leave is unpaid and I literally don't know how we're going to stay above water. I hate stressing DH out about finances because he already works so much... But it's to the point now that I'm afraid his car is going to get repoed. I'm almost to the point of reaching out to family. Ugh. I can't wait to get back to making money.
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CDsMom I feel exactly the same, I'm the only one working, so now I'm on maternity leave we have no money. Work messed up my last pay and gave me all my pay and holiday at once, it means I got taxed way more so lost a lot of my money. Now I'm stressing about paying the rent and bills, I've had to borrow money from my mum, which makes me feel even worse. I don't want to go back to work, but on the other hand the sooner I get back the better off we'll beūüėē
post #3 of 98

I'm sorry to hear about money troubles, hopefully you will find a way. what about getting a line of credit through a bank?

 

 

Serefina, I, too, am still pregnant. My due date was 20th and it's just a now? how about now? now? never ending refrain stuck in my head.

post #4 of 98

My due date starts in 90 minutes and I'm just getting grumpier and grumpier by the minute.  I mean I'm really losing my morale.  I'm just angry and sad and bitter and upset and short tempered and miserable.   I had so hoped these last three weeks that she might come out at least somewhat early and save me some of this being-9-months-pregnant-and-effing-miserable nonsense.  But no.  She's not coming at all early,  she's either going to be on time or late.   

 

Thanks for letting me vent everyone! :)

 

I did make a new friend today which happens rarely!  Another foreign woman around here (she's mexican) & she's 6 months pregnant with her first, 3 years younger than me, so quite a great friend candidate.  I spent 4 hours with her this afternoon, it was fun.  

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I try to remember it's a matter of days (possibly even hours) before I have the baby and no longer a matter of weeks. DD1 was 1 week late, I remember standing in the midwives office crying in desperation because I thought I was going to be pregnant FOREVER. I went into labour that afternoon after the stretch (but no sweep) at the midwives office. I'm hoping it'll do the trick this time as well. I go in tomorrow morning for that reason.

post #6 of 98

Good luck!!!!!!

I could start weeping right now, too.  I have never gone overdue before, but I guess you just never know.....

post #7 of 98
Being stressed about money is one of the hardest things to cope with. I hope you and your families can get things worked out. Cdsmom, they can't repo a car in a garage if it gets to that point. We've been there too. It sucks.
So I finally had our baby, "Avi", yesterday. Induction started Friday. I was 41w5d when she was finally born yesterday afternoon. Being over due is no fun. I hope the rest of you have on time babies. Playing the waiting game is not at all fun.
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I went three days overdue with my second child.  I had gone at 39 weeks with my first and I was so DONE being pregnant.  The halfhearted joke about how I was now TEN months pregnant instead of an already-crappy NINE was my only defense.  And to the sweet gossipy ladies who asked if I "had that baby yet"?  Well, it was nothing but ugly glares filled with vitriol from me.  I totally understand lateness (though the moms on here who went two weeks late get my ultimate sympathies!) and I am cheering the remaining mommies on!

 

Serafina33 - Oh, that must be such a blessing to have a friend candidate!  That's a rare thing in my area to be able to make friends while still pregnant/postpartum.  I am lighthearted with the joy of that potential happening for you!  Gosh, between the band, painting, and the pregnancy, you're doing great!  A fantastic example of putting yourself out there!

 

I am still just sort of trucking along, except with a newborn in tow.  Lots of odd looks from people that I am taking a newborn out "so early", which I find a tad comical, because I did this with each of my kids in turn.  I just am not the sort who coops up well at home.  Today was grocery shopping at Publix, tomorrow is taking the older kids to the health department for some vaccinations we missed during a billing dispute with their pediatrician.  Wednesday I am headed to Costco, but only with DS - the girls are going to Oma's, so hopefully that will give me more strength to deal with that.  Our Costco is a 45 minute trip away and I can't imagine doing a half day affair with three kids while I still have postpartum bleeding and a short temper!

post #9 of 98
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My newborn has been out every day since coming home, LOL. I think staying cooped up at home will make getting PPD easier and losing weight harder.

We're actually on our way home now from dinner and the park.
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Just wanted to chime in with the other 'overdue' mamas out there. My dates were changed to a few days early, which means I am now a few days 'overdue' with no signs of labor. My first was induced at 42 weeks and my second went naturally to 42+5, so I am trying to let my mind believe that this will be an October baby. Even though I have been through the wait twice now, I still find it challenging as each day passes with no labor signs. Hang in there for those of you who are late!
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Mama- it's good to hear there are others like me who just seem to go post-dates. My mom was the same way. I was able to go longer than 42w with my first bc I was planning a home birth. I still ended up being induced at 42w5d and he was born the day after. I always wonder when he would have come if on his own accord. The induction actually went beautifully and I was able to have a natural birth. This time I am planning a hospital birth so 42w is the latest I'll be allowed to go. I really hope I don't get that far. Although my induction went well last time I'd greatly prefer baby to come on its own time. For me, it's more mentally draining to go overdue. I want to be in the birthing mindset but still try and go about my days without it consuming me. I've been listening to my Hypnobabies a lot which does seem to help. Also wondering if this baby will prefer to be an October one : )
post #12 of 98
I've not left the house since I got back from the hospital 12 days ago. I'm just so scared that I'll need to breastfeed her in public
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CDMom-- so feel you on the finances! I just decided to look at it like a blessing having DH home since he was basically laid off for asking to bond with new child! We are so angry about that still. We talked to a lawyer and at-will saves the bastard employer so we can do nothing.

Could you cut out some bills to keep from getting the repo? I've even heard of paying half your payment just to keep things current. I know I've paid late several times and it's never been an issue. What about having that crazy sister of yours help out? wink1.gif We are going to be so broke soon. I just am numb about the whole thing.

About your DH being fantastic-- mine is too but I still want to murder him sometimes. Especially over getting the crazy 3yo to bed. I nurse her tho barely and that's really not working so great with a fussy 4weeker. How are you handling that? Please give me tips! We are so DONE at night that it's just chaos! DD1 ends up overtired waiting for me to get bebe settled so I can put her to sleep. DH tries to rock DD1 and half the time it doesn't work and I just take over anyhow. It's really not working. DD1 is so hard to put to sleep. I actually started a thread in the main parenting forum because I'm losing my mind.

Serena-- I hear you on BF in public. Oh I hate doing it! And it's so constant in the early days/weeks/months I really just rather stay home. I've done a few errunds with DD1 but have only driven with DD2 twice to go to the ped and out with her for walks. People say annoying things to me about how small she is so it's been painful. I don't go out long enough to have to nurse but to just get some much needed fresh air. Start with that then work your way up to going to the market then maybe even lunch. I didn't go out with DD1 for like 3 months so you shouldn't feel like you have to-- totally normal. Not good for any baby blues tho for sure.

And to all you overdue mamas omg I envy you but then again am SO happy to not be pregnant. I am doing so much better walking fussy baby around at 6am in a sling in my living room then the constant get-up-to-pee can't sleep or eat because of heartburn crap so I'm hoping you all deliver soon! I really am sad I didn't get a September Libra though! Anyone think Virgos are better? Convince me!

My due date is in 5 days. It's bittersweet. I still can't believe I'm not pregnant.
Edited by tillymonster - 9/24/13 at 7:13am
post #14 of 98
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I've not left the house since I got back from the hospital 12 days ago. I'm just so scared that I'll need to breastfeed her in public
OMG, at this point I think every one in the Pacific NW has seen my boobs. I will whip 'em out in a heartbeat. Baby needs to eat, after all. wink1.gif
Drape a receiving blanket over your shoulder and go to town.
post #15 of 98
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I've not left the house since I got back from the hospital 12 days ago. I'm just so scared that I'll need to breastfeed her in public
OMG, at this point I think every one in the Pacific NW has seen my boobs. I will whip 'em out in a heartbeat. Baby needs to eat, after all. wink1.gif
Drape a receiving blanket over your shoulder and go to town.

Yup. Except I'm in the Midwest. smile.gif
post #16 of 98
Lol, I'm gonna try sometime this week
post #17 of 98
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I wear a tank top under my shirt. So the tank top covers my belly, the shirt I pull up and it covers everything up top, then the baby covers the actual nipple. It prevents me having to use a cover. My kids sweat really bad so this is a good alternative.
post #18 of 98
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OMG, at this point I think every one in the Pacific NW has seen my boobs. I will whip 'em out in a heartbeat. Baby needs to eat, after all. wink1.gif
Drape a receiving blanket over your shoulder and go to town.

Me too! So far we've nursed on a train, a tram, a tram platform, in a bus, at my son's school, at 2 different doctors' offices, in a park, and in 4 different restaurants/coffeeshops. I usually don't bother with the receiving blanket over top, though I do wear nursing tanks and tops that minimize exposure.
post #19 of 98
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Lol, I'm gonna try sometime this week

 

I found going to stores that had dressing rooms was less stressful for me because I could just duck into one of those. I'm all for NIP and I eventually just stopped caring/worrying but those first few trips out I stuck to stores with dressing rooms! 

 
I'm sorry to hear some of you stressing about money. We have definitely been there and I know how that goes. My heart aches for you. Stupid money, stupid needing to have it to live. I just wanna give you all a hug. 
 
We are adjusting to life with a newborn. It's so totally different this time around. Just the simple fact of being home and not in the hospital is big for us. With DD we were in hospital for FIVE (long, boring) days. It's nice to be in my own space and having the midwife come to us for visits. We sent DD to Mimi & Poppa's for a few days so we could get used to Malcolm and learn his quirks and what not. Plus husband has a college exam tomorrow that can't be interrupted so having DD away has been for the best. 
 
Breastfeeding has been going well. It hurts when he latches but I'm pretty sure it's from the hormones. He's a vigorous little sucker but he does it like a champ. My milk is coming in and I'm hoping we don't hit any major hurdles like with DD. I've started rereading Harry Potter during nursing sessions, something I did with DD. I was going to read the 2nd A Song of Fire & Ice book but I'm just up for something as intense as that. LOL
 
I've had a few emotional moments, mostly when thinking about DD, about the birth, and other things. I feel silly about it cos it's small stuff but ugh it tugs at my heart strings. 
post #20 of 98

I used to think that breastfeeding in public would be a big deal but after awhile you just get over it.  I've nursed in the wrap/carrier, while walking up and down the aisle during transatlantic flights, not caring if some boob was visible.  I used BOOB tops, they're a swedish brand of very covering, hands-free-nursing-while-being-modest friendly fitted shirts in super-stretch cotton, where you can literally just expose exactly the nipple and nothing more, (the stretch in the fabric means it stays put where you situate it, around the openings)  and the baby immediately puts that inside his/her mouth and then there is no more flesh on display at all, so that helps me to be more confident, feeling like I don't have to tug layers into the right place and make sure nothing was riding up and exposing all the flesh of my side/tummy/chest whatever.  They are awesome tops.

 

 

I will tell a funny story.  On that flight I remember, I was nursing my son while most of the people were sleeping, and the lights were off and it was pretty dark in the plane..... and I walking up and down to get him to settle down, latch, eat, and fall asleep, in the ergo carrier with one of my arms pulled out of the shoulder to drop down 9-month-old baby diagonal across me and align his face with one boob.  I had overactive letdown though, and at one point, it started choking him so he pulled off and the shower spray of milk spouted from my breast and landed on someone's sleeping face.  I just kept walking and did nothing (what would I have done?  woken the person by mopping up their face for them?  with what?) and felt so bad that I had finally crossed some sort of line with my NIP antics that were definitely not cool.  I'm all about brazen nursing in public but I do admit that getting my breastmilk onto someone's face who I'm not related to is not an awesome way to spread public acceptance of nursing in public.

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