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post #81 of 98

Ugh, 3 months is a long time to cope. Hopefully it won't take quite so long. I hope it doesn't get too tough for the rest of you.

post #82 of 98

I don't want to jinx myself here, but I may have figured out why Robin has been crying so much. I think we've been mistaking  tired cues for hunger cues. They say to bottle feed on demand, but we've been doing it at the wrong times resulting in an angry baby who only eats 20mls at a time. Since midnight I've been back to feeding him every three hours and rocking him when he cries the rest of the time. The results are a baby who finishes his bottle and sleeps! And of course much less crying which can be easily solved now. If every day goes as well as today then I'll be very happy!

post #83 of 98

Fingers crossed that you have cracked the code, nettlesoup!!!

post #84 of 98

My ex husband handed me two pieces of luggage filled with stuff of mine that has been in his storage since I fled the marriage with only what I could carry, and the bulk of the loot was..... my sons' cloth diapering stash from 2003-2008!  I was quite the addict and there was thousands (maybe 3-4 thousand) of dollars worth of hard-to-get-at-the-time hyena goodies (if you don't get the reference, don't ask....or check out hyenacart.com and get the reference if you really care enough to check!) there.  Most of the elastic on the AIOs was shot,but 6 really beautiful hand dyed and appliqued fitteds still had excellent elastic.  Mostly though, it was wool.  Wool sweater/longies/hat sets that were hand knit from hand dyed yarn and hand appliqued with amazing wearable art fantasticness.  Wool knitted rompers and soakers and longies in all kinds of amazing, soft-as-cotton wool yarn that I spent years trying different types to get my absolute favorite.  Original maria made kiwi pie wool diaper covers with custom appliqued beautiful designs on them that I dreamed up myself.  All of it was custom work that I dreamed up myself and had the WAHM create for me from the finest materials.  SIgh.  I never thought I'd see this stuff again.  But now it's all here, all this heirloom goodness.  Oh, speaking of heirloom, a ton of hat/bootie sets that my mom had crocheted for my sons were in there too.  

 

It was like Christmas morning opening up this suitcase full of fluff!!!!!


I wonder if my ex's girlfriend has used the stuff for her daughter (who is now 3) in these years past or if they have literally just been sitting in that suitcase for five years.  Oh well, the wool is all fine.  Too bad the AIOs are pretty useless from an elastic point of view but I can use them when I'm not worried about a sloppy poo falling out the legs (i.e. when baby is older and has solid poops and predictable pooping times and I can be confident that a mushy poo is not going to happen).  Assuming the PUL is still waterproof which I think should be fine.

 

I visited a far more natural-birth friendly hospital which is twice the distance away from us than the standard hospital we were planning to go to.  Now, the standard hospital is fine too, in terms of having a high likelihood of having a very natural birth experience, even a tub to labor in, but that one takes a dozen women per day on average.  This even-more-natural-birth-oriented place gets on average one person a day, so far more peaceful and getting all the attention from the staff and having no issues 'waiting in line' to get into the birth tub.  And the tub was amazing!  The birthing stool, the delivery room, everything was really nice.  They let dads room in with mom and babe unless they happen to have such an unusually high number of mothers there that day that there isn't enough space to give private rooms.  Usually, though, at their rate of delivering mamas, there are lots of empty rooms at any one time.

 

I think I'll go there unless when I go into labor I really don't think I have 35 minutes to spare to get there (the standard hospital is 15-20 minutes away, so if minutes really count, which if it's like my first birth they will, then we have no choice).  I'm going to have a dr's appointment there on Wednesday, which is my original due date, to discuss how to proceed, since I'll be 9 days overdue according to the adjusted EDD at that point, and 14 is the limit before they start reviewing induction options.  I will try to convince him to disregard the adjusted EDD and go by the original LMP due date when considering my time limit to let labor happen spontaneously.  But of course that depends on how much fluid is there, and his general assesment of how baby seems to be doing in there.  So far everything seems very ideal for her and there's no reason not to wait so I'm hopeful.


Thanks for listening! :)  I'm verbose today....

post #85 of 98
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I don't want to jinx myself here, but I may have figured out why Robin has been crying so much. I think we've been mistaking  tired cues for hunger cues. They say to bottle feed on demand, but we've been doing it at the wrong times resulting in an angry baby who only eats 20mls at a time. Since midnight I've been back to feeding him every three hours and rocking him when he cries the rest of the time. The results are a baby who finishes his bottle and sleeps! And of course much less crying which can be easily solved now. If every day goes as well as today then I'll be very happy!
When I saw this I looked on Google, and I think we've been doing this sometimes too. Liv gets so tired her arms and legs jerk all over the place, she makes noises, eyes wide and very frustrated and angry if I try and nurse her. We thought if she was fussing when we put her down it was wind or she was hungry but I think sometimes she's just tired and we need to leave her to sleep, I just don't like to leave her if I think something's wrong, a FTM thing probably 😏
post #86 of 98

I seem to have sprung a leak.  This is exactly the sign of impending labor I would not want to see come first.  I hate the idea of being put on a clock for risk of infection and having the threat of pitocin hanging over my head if labor doesn't go into full swing within 24 hours from when I first noticed the occasional trickle.  :(

post #87 of 98
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Vegrunr; congratulations!

 

Does anyone else have a baby who cries constantly, and won't be calmed for long by anything? It seems like he hardly sleeps either and I don't know how I'm going to get anything done this week, or how I'm going cope with all the crying for the next however many weeks. My daughter was so easy and now he's the opposite and I'm barely coping. I seem to be constantly moaning on here, sorry about that :(

 

you are not alone. one of my twins is inconsolable. if the other twin wasn't such an "easy baby," i would think we were the worst parents in the universe due to the six weeks of screaming torture we've been through. my hope is that he outgrows it soon. i've heard from a lot of people that it gets better around 12 weeks. i can only hope that's 12 weeks of age, not adjusted for gestation. because i am DONE.

 

idk if you have seen this already or not, but i wanted to pass it along.

http://purplecrying.info/index.php

post #88 of 98

Serafina; good luck! I hope things happen within the time limit.

 

Serena; it really is a big guessing game, isn't it!

 

Things are still good during the day anyway. Last night I went for a nap but Robin raged the entire time and for some reason my partner couldn't calm him, so I had to get back up and got him to sleep in 5 minutes. The nights are the worst part for me right now.

post #89 of 98
Liv was such a chilled out baby but now she's getting over tired, fussy and hard to get to sleep. Today the only thing that got her to sleep was having the Hoover on! Although I don't know how long she'll sleep for. I feel out of my depth now, I just don't know what I'm doing
post #90 of 98

Serena; I know exactly how you feel! You can get 7 hour you tube videos of hoover noises if you're ever stuck! Robin actually fell asleep mid cry when my partner put one on, it was quite funny. Hopefully things will get easier for us soon.

post #91 of 98
It's not amniotic fluid, probably very watery cervical mucus. No time limit until Monday when I'm 42weeks.
2cm dilated, anterior, fully effaced but no active labor yet.
I have been in tears worried about induction but also because every extra hour of this pregnancy feels like a lifetime of torture.
post #92 of 98
I hope it happens soon for you. Sending labor vibes.
post #93 of 98
Thinking of you Serafina! If it's any consolation, I am not even dilated, haven't lost my plug or had any real signs of labor and my 42 week mark is on Saturday! My midwife is willing to allow me a home birth if baby comes within a few days of my EDD, but I will have to have a consultation with a hospital OB on Friday. I completely relate with feeling done and uncomfortable and just plain ready to meet this little one! Hang in there, you are not alone!! Xx
Edited by Mama on Flora - 10/1/13 at 11:27am
post #94 of 98
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Originally Posted by Mama on Flora View Post The stillbirth baby phrase was used at least 30 times in that conversation  

jaw.gif  Seriously?  Sheesh, how horrible they tried to rattle you like that.

 

I'm sorry I'm complaining so loudly when you are a few days further than me and no cervical developments yet.  I feel like a big baby.  I hope we BOTH spontaneously go into labor asap!!!!!

 

I'm having pretty uncomfy contractions regularly, a bit more than any other evening, and we are using the TENS machine now, so that when real labor comes, we are pros.  

 

I just watched the movie What to Expect when you are Expecting and although it was a crap movie, I loved the scene when the author on stage rants about how "pregnancy sucks" and lists all the horrible sides of being pregnant.  

post #95 of 98
Crap. Started bleeding again yesterday with lower abdominal pain. 10 days postpartum. I have been on antibiotics for 5 or 6 days for a bladder infection, now my OB wants me to go in for an ultrasound to rule out retained tissue in the uterus. Going in later today. Hoping it's just that I need a different antibiotic.
post #96 of 98

Wishing you all the best, Jennyanydots!

post #97 of 98

As for me I saw some bloody show just now, and contractions getting more serious but not more frequently than every 8 or 9 minutes so I'm not getting my hopes too high..

post #98 of 98
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