I'm at the end of my rope. 8 yo dd has gotten reasonably good about doing chores maybe 2/3 of the time. Other times she just doesn't, no matter what I do. She is totally honest about having no intention whatsoever of doing what I"m asking.
6 yo it's hard to tell if she's even trying. She seems to have a lot of trouble with getting distracted by all the junk lying around (which is what I want to get picked up). I'd be seriously concerned if she weren't doing so well in school. The teachers never think she has the slightest problem with concentration or behavior. They love her. But at home, forget it. I ask sweetly, I instruct, I make a chart, I gently nag, I yell, I impound things, nothing influences her behavior in the slightest way. Seems like we've pointed out millions of times the consequences: eg, you don't have any clean socks because you didn't put your dirty socks in the hamper so I didn't wash them. It makes no difference.
Sometimes she might do a little bit if I'm doing it with her, but honestly I am overcommited (who isn't?) and I do not have the time to make every minute of housework a family moment. Am I expecting too much? Should a 6 yo be able to put away toys, sort dirty/clean clothes, put them where they belong, without supervision?