When my son was 22 months, he decided he wanted to learn to use the potty. I was assuming that he wouldn't potty learn til closer to 3 or maybe even 4, because he is showing signs of sensory processing disorder and has speech delays, so we didn't expect him to start on the earlier side of things, but we went with it.
He started out GREAT. I took his pants off, showed him how to sit on the little potty, he kept going over to it and sitting and peeing in it, and doing the happy dance when he did, etc. He even pooped in it like it was no big deal.
Fast forward 2 months and he is still having TONS of accidents. I have to tell him when to go every 20-30 minutes (sometimes we go longer) and he is starting to fight back and not want to. But only occasionally will he go on his own. He is at the point now that when he needs to have a bowel movement and is not wearing pants, he may go himself, but usually I can smell that he needs to go and tell him to go sit. If there is anything remotely fun/interesting happening, forget it -- he doesn't go on his own and will often have an accident and not even say anything about it.
To make things worse, he is going to play school 2 mornings/week, and they were supposed to be helping him learn, but all they do is have him sit maybe every hour and then change him when he has an accident. He is there for 3 hours at a time, and can wet through 4 pairs of shorts in that time.
He does not wear underwear or pull-ups; he goes commando. Part of that is to make it easier for him to do it himself (he still has trouble pulling his pants up and down -- he can do it, but chooses to "need help" most of the time). And part of that is b/c when I had him try on underwear, he complained they were too tight, even though they were too big and therefore loose on him.
I don't want to keep pushing him if he's not actually ready, but I also don't want to go back to diapers. I have seen him stop, look down at his penis, and spread his legs a bit when he feels the pee coming, and I catch him and have him sit on the potty. Or he'll have a small accident, stop himself and sit on the potty to finish. But lately he's just been seemingly oblivious to it all and having bigger accidents.
How can I help him learn to feel when he needs to go, and help him learn to deal with his pants so he feels empowered to do it himself? I know he can do it, b/c he has done it before, so it's getting frustrating that he's struggling now. I want to help him through this but I don't know how. Doctors and OT have no suggestions on how to help him potty train.