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post #41 of 60
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This brings up a good point and something I've wondered about co-sleeping.  I didn't mind the idea of co-sleeping with my daughter, but after only a couple of days I had to stop.  After I had my daughter I was so exhausted, I didn't know it at the time but I had an fibromylgia.  I developed severe sleep problems, so bad I was missing days from work.  I wasn't diagnosed with these conditions until years later (after going to doctor after doctor).

 

I'm not saying co-sleeping caused my fibro or sleep problems, just that my health issues made it where I was physically unable to sleep with my baby anymore.  It was hard enough trying to sleep by myself, every time she sneezed or moved it would wake me up and I couldn't get back to sleep for hours.

 

How do those of you who co-sleep deal with the lack of sleep?  Or are you just able to fall back asleep easily?

 

And something else I've always wondered:  if your baby is always sleeping with you, WHEN do you have sex???

I used to think I was going to die from sleep deprivation, but I have somehow gotten into a rhythm with how dd sleeps and I actually feel pretty good most days- I actually never planned on bed sharing, it evolved that way because it was easier for everyone, and now I just love it.  As far as SEX, we take advantage of our spare room after dd goes to sleep :)   In regards to your fibro, I am so sorry you have been diagnosed, my sister has fibro and I have seen how she suffers, brightest blessings to you:heartbeat

post #42 of 60

If you are considering night weaning (or maybe partial night weaning, one thing you could try is for you to sleep else where for the start of the night, and then have your partner comfort the baby back to sleep the first time she wakes, and then if she wakes at 2 or 3 (or even later) then at that point you can join in the bed and have the snuggles and nursing, etc.  We did something similar to this, although it eventually involved a transition for DD out of our bed altogether, but I have definitely found that if you have the right partner, removing yourself from being available can really nicely help with a transition to less, and eventually no, night nursing.  Once that is no longer the expectation (for us it took less than a week with both girls for a new normal to be established) you can move back in, keep your DD in bed with you, and hopefully get a better night's sleep.  It could be just my kids, but it seems that it doesn't take much time to change the routine of a really young child - a few days of less availability at night might do the trick.  Good luck with whatever solution you find (and there is always a light at the end of the tunnel...the question is how long is that darn tunnel??? :rotflmao

post #43 of 60

Amber Most nights I fell back to sleep easily, occasionally not. For me the interrupted sleep was very difficult but I know DD would have (and then did when she slept on her own) wake and if she were in her own bed, require me to get up to comfort her/attend to her needs. Also, once in her own bed, DD did not fall back asleep as easily (meaning I could not fall back asleep as easily or quickly).

 

The sex issue was never an issue for us. We always found ways to be creative and weren't tied to being intimate in our bed. I feel like it actually made things better, as we connected and were playful and a got to be a bit sneaky. Being intimate while raising babies and toddlers is often challenging but it worked for us.

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I used to think I was going to die from sleep deprivation, but I have somehow gotten into a rhythm with how dd sleeps and I actually feel pretty good most days- I actually never planned on bed sharing, it evolved that way because it was easier for everyone, and now I just love it.  As far as SEX, we take advantage of our spare room after dd goes to sleep :)   In regards to your fibro, I am so sorry you have been diagnosed, my sister has fibro and I have seen how she suffers, brightest blessings to you:heartbeat

Thanks, sweetie.  I notice another important part of co-sleeping is having a supportive partner to help out as well.  Something unfortunatley I did not have.

post #45 of 60
Ds1: sometime before 2.
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My almost-3-month old has slept up to 7 hours at times. Other times he wakes at 3 hours. It just depends on how much he's nursed throughout the day, I think.

post #47 of 60

My child who has been a terrible sleeper her entire life, still sometimes does not sleep through the night at age 12 3/4 years old! We did manage to get her out of the bed before her sister was born, when she was 3 years old. Dh had to sleep on the floor next to her bed for a time to get her used to her own bed. I think she just is wired to sleep poorly. I give her melatonin when she's in a bad stretch.

 

My second child was an awesome sleeper pretty much from about 1-2 months old. She loved her crib that we started in our room. She would get tired and rub her eyes and lean towards it from my arms when she was about 5-6 months old, and would settle herself and go to bed. To this day she will put herself to bed and falls asleep within minutes. She only asks to sleep with me when she's sick. She's 9 1/2 years old.

 

Just goes to show, every kid is so entirely different.

post #48 of 60

My first child night-weaned when I got pregnant again, when he was a little over a year. It took about a week of my husband managing his night-wakings, but after that he started sleeping through the night and continued to sleep in bed with us.

 

My second child is 18 months and still wakes up at least once a night. Sometimes I can whisper "Nummies in the morning" to her and rub her back and she'll go back to sleep without nursing, but at least half the time I end up nursing her so I can go back to sleep right away. However, I just found out I'm pregnant again, so her night-nursing days are numbered.

post #49 of 60

My firstborn (now 13) slept through the night from birth.  She would sleep 7 hours in a row if she was in a cosleeper, and 12 hours if she was directly next to me.  I would have to wake her a bit to get her to nurse.  By the time she was a year, she'd sleep 14 hours if she was directly next to me. 

 

My son began sleeping through the night at around 13 months.  He went from waking 2 - 3 times to sleeping soundly for 12 - 14 hour stretches.

 

With my third, I didn't cosleep for the first 5 months with my 3rd because she was a preemie, had a worn mattress and was so exhausted that I feared I wouldn't wake if something happened.  She is 3.5 now and still isn't a good sleeper.  For the most part she started sleeping through the night at 19 months.

 

My 9 month old wakes 2 - 3 times.  Once in awhile she'll decide that it's playtime at 3:00 and it'll take an hour or two to convince her that it's sleepy time.  However, when she wakes to nurse, she's so quiet about it that I hardly notice. 

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My firstborn (now 13) slept through the night from birth.  She would sleep 7 hours in a row if she was in a cosleeper, and 12 hours if she was directly next to me.  I would have to wake her a bit to get her to nurse.  By the time she was a year, she'd sleep 14 hours if she was directly next to me. 

 

My son began sleeping through the night at around 13 months.  He went from waking 2 - 3 times to sleeping soundly for 12 - 14 hour stretches.

 

With my third, I didn't cosleep for the first 5 months with my 3rd because she was a preemie, had a worn mattress and was so exhausted that I feared I wouldn't wake if something happened.  She is 3.5 now and still isn't a good sleeper.  For the most part she started sleeping through the night at 19 months.

 

My 9 month old wakes 2 - 3 times.  Once in awhile she'll decide that it's playtime at 3:00 and it'll take an hour or two to convince her that it's sleepy time.  However, when she wakes to nurse, she's so quiet about it that I hardly notice. 


This is interesting. What do you attribute to the differences in your childrens sleeping styles?

Its nice to hear other stories about young babies who sleep long stretches. People are always skeptical when i tell them about my first two who were good sleepers, like im lying or something....

post #51 of 60
With DS1 he was 25mos, right as he completely weaned after a late miscarriage (no more supply I guess). DS2 is about to turn 1 in a few days, and it is fulltime feeds all night long. He wakes like every 30mins lately and will not sleep unlatched. I am so tired! DS1 wasn't so bad as this...
post #52 of 60
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With DS1 he was 25mos, right as he completely weaned after a late miscarriage (no more supply I guess). DS2 is about to turn 1 in a few days, and it is fulltime feeds all night long. He wakes like every 30mins lately and will not sleep unlatched. I am so tired! DS1 wasn't so bad as this...

How exhausting. Do you dayfeed alot as well? He may be making up for less in the day...or alternatively, he may have sensory issues....does he eat something right before bedtime? I find that if i feed my now 20mth old plain yoghurt ( a tradition of  ours for all of us) before bedtime, she will wake less. If for some reason she falls asleep before then, she will wake more often. I always nurse her to sleep though.....just a couple of thoughts...

post #53 of 60
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How exhausting. Do you dayfeed alot as well? He may be making up for less in the day...or alternatively, he may have sensory issues....does he eat something right before bedtime? I find that if i feed my now 20mth old plain yoghurt ( a tradition of  ours for all of us) before bedtime, she will wake less. If for some reason she falls asleep before then, she will wake more often. I always nurse her to sleep though.....just a couple of thoughts...

I think my dd's problems with lots of night time waking has to do with not nursing enough during the day.  She is just so distracted by EVERYTHING she really only nurses when she lays down to sleep for her naps.  How often should a one year old nurse during the day?  How can I get her interested in nursing more often during the day?!

post #54 of 60

My first was just about two years old and it did coincide with night weaning. My second began STTN sporadically really early, like around 4 months old. I just felt super lucky since sleep was quite an issue with her brother.

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How exhausting. Do you dayfeed alot as well? He may be making up for less in the day...or alternatively, he may have sensory issues....does he eat something right before bedtime? I find that if i feed my now 20mth old plain yoghurt ( a tradition of  ours for all of us) before bedtime, she will wake less. If for some reason she falls asleep before then, she will wake more often. I always nurse her to sleep though.....just a couple of thoughts...

He feeds every 2.5-3hrs during the daytime, and has 3 meals (BLW), sometimes a snack if possible in the afternoon. I dunno what is up with him, but its been this way since he was born. We started off at every 45mins round the clock as a newborn. I am actually glad he can last almost 3hrs now. Whew! I have been trying dairy alternatives (vegan family), but he wont have any of it

post #56 of 60
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I think my dd's problems with lots of night time waking has to do with not nursing enough during the day.  She is just so distracted by EVERYTHING she really only nurses when she lays down to sleep for her naps.  How often should a one year old nurse during the day?  How can I get her interested in nursing more often during the day?!

I nurse on demand, and dont count. On the whole i  nurse at waking, after breakfast (and she eats alot at breakfast), maybe once or twice  in the morning, and then for nap. Once or twice in the afternoon, and then for nap, once before supper....then at bedtime...6-7 times a day maybe? It depends, sometimes its less.....

post #57 of 60
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He feeds every 2.5-3hrs during the daytime, and has 3 meals (BLW), sometimes a snack if possible in the afternoon. I dunno what is up with him, but its been this way since he was born. We started off at every 45mins round the clock as a newborn. I am actually glad he can last almost 3hrs now. Whew! I have been trying dairy alternatives (vegan family), but he wont have any of it

I wonder if you are consuming alot of gluten, that stuff can wreak the most unpredictable havoc.... a vegan diet can lead to a heavy dependence on grains/legumes...which might also have unintended consequences....

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I wonder if you are consuming alot of gluten, that stuff can wreak the most unpredictable havoc.... a vegan diet can lead to a heavy dependence on grains/legumes...which might also have unintended consequences....

Oh we are gfree too. Sorry forgot to mention... he is gluten intolerant
post #59 of 60

my older kids moved into their own beds at about 3, but probably didn't sleep through the nights all the time until 4 or so.  My 2 year old will occasionally sleep through the night but not usually. I don't think most people actually sleep non sto the whole night, but some kids need more help getting back to sleep than others.

post #60 of 60

My son weaned just before his first birthday and slept through the night after that.  He continued to sleep with me until we moved in with my DH and his girls.  It was an easy transition because he slept with girls the first few months.  

He is 10 now and sleeps all night in his big boy bed.  Trust me there were times I NEVER thought he would LOL

 

My baby girl is almost 4. She just weaned with in the last few months.  She still sleeps with us but we are ready to be in her own bed.  Next milestone right?  

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