Dd just started 7th grade. She came home telling me how bothered she was about a boy in her class who is being bullied by several students. She said he started out very friendly but now he's quiet and doesn't sit with anyone at lunch. The bullies do things like give him bad nicknames (Sir Man-boobs was one), baiting him to explain something about computers and then tell him he's such a nerd (but they used the r-word), when he gets up from the table at art class they all crowd around and don't give him his seat back and he's forced to stand. Dd has tried a couple of times to say "Come on guys, knock it off" but the kids don't listen to her and she's afraid they will turn on her next. She stated she's afraid he might think about suicide or something because he's acting so depressed.
So I encouraged her to go to the counselor and tell her what's going on. She did, and asked that it be kept anonymous. Dd told me today that the worst offenders came into class complaining that they got in trouble for bullying the boy, were given 3 lunch detentions, and then started accusing the boy of telling on them. Although dd reported that they did not bully him and pretty much left him alone after the accusation at the beginning of class, she's now somewhat mixed on whether or not she did the right thing.
Any thoughts or ideas on what could have been done to avoid this coming back on the boy, while still taking care of the bully problem?