Dear Dr. Laura,
I have a 2-year old daughter who started daycare for the first time 4 weeks ago.
I had to go back to work after a year of maternity leave but I negotiated a temporary part time schedule till I found a daycare. From 1 year to 2 years old, my Mom was taking care of her Mon-Tues-Wed and she was with me the rest of the time.
My Mom thought she needed to be around other kids, I felt she needed more of a routine. I had pressure at work to work more days. Staying home with her all day was getting exhausting for me as well. I visited several daycares and found one I really loved.
This is week 4 and while I feel she is doing her best to adapt to it, she still cries a lot. She cries on and off all day. She is engaged in the activities but when they transition, she cries. Sometimes she tells me she wants to go, then when I drop her off she screams to stay with me. When I pick her up, I observe her behavior and she is usually happy.
I read on your web site that the research shows that the ideal age to start daycare is 4 or maybe 5 years old..that they have elevated levels of cortisol being in daycare all day...
If this is really true, then should I pull her out?