That certainly is a big issue in the HB community (CPM/CNM). I was comfortable with an experienced CPM for my second birth but not the first. It isn't for everyone though, that's for sure. I think the community is pretty divided on the issue, actually. I suggest looking around and meeting some MWs. Ask your L&D friend if she has any feedback for the CPM you're considering. Also, look into ICAN - they may have some VBAC MW's for you too. Good luck!