When I say giving attitude, I don't necessarily mean giving to the poor or giving things away, though those are certainly very good things. I'm thinking about helping to pick up a mess even when you didn't make it, and simple, usually easy things like that. How do you encourage a good attitude about these things? I need help with my almost 8-year-old daughter.
Encouraging a giving attitude among siblings
I have had this problem with my middle daughter, and I agree with what the others said. I also think it is a matter of maturity. As they get older, they are better able to understand the other person's perspective, and how nice it is for them to receive your help. I also try to make a point of good manners, so that when you help out, the person you helped needs to say, "Thank you!"
Thank you. I also make a point of good manners. But when it comes to helping them, I need to work on that. For example, when there's a mess on the floor or in one of their rooms, I am more likely to say "You made the mess, you pick it up" or "It's in your room, you pick it up" than "Here, let me help you" although in practice I end up helping anyway because they do it so inefficiently or not at all.