Most of this has been said, but FWIW I think he needed the structure removing the x-box provided because the OP's son wasn't showing he was ready to self regulate. As has also been said, what might be better is a shorter period of restriction. Personally, when I've taken electronic privileges from my children over longer periods, they have behaved and spoken as if there wasn't much use in trying to improve school, work or social habits (fighting over media use has also led to its restriction in our house) as they couldn't picture a point that far in the future when they could regain privileges. Usually, we deal with week or so chunks at a time, now, for serious matters and for more minor issues we just have conditions for the media usage (as in after homework, chores and time outside has happened).
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Do you agree with taking away video games and computer for not turning in homework assignments... - Page 3post #41 of 4211/3/13 at 5:04pmpost #42 of 4211/4/13 at 3:57pm
I would try to reframe the whole thing.
me: do you want to do well in school?
him: yes (hopefully he says this!)
me: do you think the amount of time you spend on screens is interfering in this
me: what do you say we try to limit times to 2 hours a day plus whatever you have time for on the weekend (or whatever scenario works for your family) and then we can re-assess in one month?
me: do you think the amount of time you spend on screens is interfering with your work?
him : no
me: I am a little worried about it. You re not getting your work done. What needs to change so you can get your work done?
him: blah, blah, blah...
In any event, I would try and get buy in from him and come at this in a problem solving kind of way as opposed to a top down thing. He is 14, after all, and it is his grades.
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