dollysods, wow, that does sound like you've had a hard first week or so. glad you're all better now!
serena, i'm glad you guys had a talk and your DB's helping more now!
i'm now two weeks into PP with my first baby. the first week we've had help from DF's father and godmother. we've managed most of last week by ourselves, and our biggest issue was the breastfeeding, which is going better now thankfully. we have this week left for the both of us to take care of the baby, and next week DF is going back to work. fortunately he's working from home though, so i won't have to be at home alone with the baby.
i am definitely feeling the hormones dropping and am glad i opted for the placenta encapsulation. the first week i was on a total oxytocin high, the second week i got anxious because of our helpers leaving, and now i feel like the hormones are going up and down. the breastfeeding issues are stressing me out and i'm trying out having a beer while nursing, following my LC's and my doula's advice. (although i don't feel comfortable with drinking while nursing, so i'm only having half a beer bc of the alcohol). i also find that chocolate calms me down when Sage is being extra fussy.
i really couldn't do it all if i didn't have DF's help. he's so helpful with everything. he helps with the breastfeeding as much as he can (brings me water, tells me when he thinks i need to adjust my posture, calms the baby down when he's being too fussy, etc), does almost all of the housework right now, is taking over the night shift so all i have to do is sleep and nurse him when he's up. and most importantly, we both watch out for each other's (mental) health since of course we will get overwhelmed, both of us, hormones or not. when that happens, the other one takes over. we remind each other that it will get easier. we also try to get some couple time in whenever we can.. watching a documentary or cuddling.. be it only for a few minutes.
i'm hoping to meet up with other parents this week to hopefully get our social life going again - and build a new circle of friends with kids in our area. i've been feeling isolated and overwhelmed, so leaving the house (if only to check the mail box or get groceries) has been really helpful in reminding me that life outside this house still exists.