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Am I the Only One to Chicken Out?

post #1 of 16
Thread Starter 

So it was grocery day & I got my first big family comment at Dollar General. A biker looking guy asked "Are all them yours?" & said I had to be a saint when I answered to the affirmative. Now I am not a saint & my (4) children are not terrible monsters but it flustered me because I was there to buy toilet paper, dish soap & pregnancy tests. The tests are behind the counter (only $1.00!) & have to be asked for. The store was packed & I could not bring myself to ask for the tests, carrying my 3 month old. My husband & I don't wear wedding rings & I was imagining other peoples thoughts & they bothered me. Comments on my family don't bother me, usually they're from nice older people but secret imagined thoughts did, for some reason. I slunk out like a 19 year old being kicked out of the bar. This is out of character for me, but how do you mama's handle pregnancy tests?

post #2 of 16

haha, I make my husband buy them! LOL

 

Seriously, I haven't bought a pregnancy test in public since my first... I do make my husband buy them because I get embarrassed, too. I think I would buy them online from dollar tree if you can, or just buy a bunch online from amazon if my DH refused.

 

hang in there, people have their opinions about everything! I don't know why they feel like they are allowed to comment on the size of our family.

post #3 of 16
I hate that you have to ask for pregnancy tests. I guess I can see that they're more likely to be shoplifted, simply because they can be embarrassing to buy, but it sucks that the solution is to make it more embarrassing. greensad.gif

I usually buy them at the grocery store right by my house where everyone knows me, because I can ask the manager who I know is friendly and thinks our family is great. I don't bring my other kids with me, mostly because I don't usually take them for small errands. But also I don't want the kids to get excited about a possible pregnancy, and it doesn't hurt to not have strangers see me buying pregnancy tests with seven kids in tow.
post #4 of 16
Anotherblessing.com has them for less then a dollar. Then It's free shipping. You have to buy at least 2, but that's still under a $2 for the 2. Walmart lately has some on an end rack for less then a $1. Then you can tuck them under other stuff and use the self checkout. Otherwise, at the dollar tree I try to only buy them there if I don't have an infant with. But I have bought them while carrying an infant carseat. smile.gif

Good luck and now I'm going to be curious how you go about buying some and what the results are. smile.gif
post #5 of 16
Thread Starter 

Oh, I don't think that I am pg., I haven't had a cycle since baby has come. A friend gave some NFP books & I think I'm seeing some signs of ovulation. I've just been so tired, falling asleep in the middle of reading aloud & that trips an alarm. I've nursed while pg before & it's not the same kind of weak tiredness I would get. I thought if I bought 2 people would assume I wasn't pg, then I figured they would assume I'm trying, lol. 3 months out is too soon for me to actively try to jump back in.

post #6 of 16
Not sure where u live, but here in NJ the Dollar Tree has pregnancy tests at the checkout aisle...right next to candy & gum...LOL! I usually buy 2 or 3 at a time so I don't have to go back smile.gif
post #7 of 16

I have chickened out before! It was at a Publix near my work and I saw a coworker so I just bought some tea and snacks for the office, completely skipping the pharmacy section. :Sheepish

 

I never take my kids with me. Well let me take that back I never take the kids that understand what I am buying and what it is for with me. I've lost a couple of pregnancies so I wait until I am in the safer zone to tell them. fingersx.gif

 

The funniest story I have about buying a pregnancy test - I was six months pregnant and my sister who had been trying for a while had just missed AF. She was nervous to test and didn't have any tests. I told her I would buy the test and meet her at my house so she could take it. So here I am very visibly pregnant with baby number 6 and I am buying a pregnancy test at Target. The lady at the checkout looked at my huge preggo belly and said, "This isn't for you is it? because you don't need this test, I can tell you that you are pregnant!" I told her that it was for my sister and had a good laugh. My sister got a positive and her baby is turning two this October.

post #8 of 16
Thread Starter 

100% mom, thanks for that site! I'm like to contribute to family economy when I can.

post #9 of 16
No problem, I've bought many tests that way. smile.gif
post #10 of 16

Yeah, I make the hubby buy them too. My kids know what they are and are all up in my face if they see them in the house, cause they love the babies so much.

post #11 of 16

That's too bad that you have to ask for pregnancy tests. At the Dollar Tree where I live I didn't have to do that.

 

Thanks so much for telling us about anotherblessing.com! I will tell my friend about it who has lots more children than I do and loves to keep them coming.

post #12 of 16

whenever I've gone to buy pregnancy tests (especially with a baby in tow) I always get a bunch of other stuff so it's less awkward. My purchase always includes a reece peanut butter cup bar- for celebration if I am pregnant and consolation if I'm not (or vice versa if I had a 2 month old, but fortunately that never happened) definitely awkward that you have to ask for them though!

post #13 of 16

My last pregnancy, I kinda slid the test to the cashier under something and gave her a sneaky look and she gave me a sneaky look back and bagged it separately and handed it to me lol I never was embarrassed to buy one, I was always excited and hopeful.

post #14 of 16
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I have chickened out before! It was at a Publix near my work and I saw a coworker so I just bought some tea and snacks for the office, completely skipping the pharmacy section. :Sheepish

 

I never take my kids with me. Well let me take that back I never take the kids that understand what I am buying and what it is for with me. I've lost a couple of pregnancies so I wait until I am in the safer zone to tell them. fingersx.gif

 

The funniest story I have about buying a pregnancy test - I was six months pregnant and my sister who had been trying for a while had just missed AF. She was nervous to test and didn't have any tests. I told her I would buy the test and meet her at my house so she could take it. So here I am very visibly pregnant with baby number 6 and I am buying a pregnancy test at Target. The lady at the checkout looked at my huge preggo belly and said, "This isn't for you is it? because you don't need this test, I can tell you that you are pregnant!" I told her that it was for my sister and had a good laugh. My sister got a positive and her baby is turning two this October.


OMG that is funny, but where I live, there are enough women who LOOK 6 months along and aren't, that that could have been an embarrassment for the clerk, instead! Imagine if you had said, "No, I just have problems with my gut, but thanks for noticing~!"

 

Almost nobody here dares assume a woman is pregnant or make a comment on it, unless the woman herself mentions it first! HAHAHAH

post #15 of 16

Ha ha, I almost wish that was true for me! I am about 20-30 pounds more than I was for most of my adult life (not obese but still I look pregnant while I'm not), and at least twice in the checkout lane at Publix, and more at a few other places, I've been asked about my unborn baby. Sometimes I tell them "No, I just have poor posture" - I try to suck it in - and one I said "No, my baby is 3." I don't know who is more embarrassed, me for not having lost that belly weight yet or the cashier.

post #16 of 16
I only ever buy them online. When I've had to buy them at the store in the past, I always pretend I am buying them for someone else! 😊
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