Hi everyone! This is my third pregnancy and I am considering hiring a doula. For those of you have used one before, did it help? Worth the money?
I will be having a hospital birth (like my previous two). My first birth was filled with interventions (still vaginal though and a healthy baby), my second was less intervention-y, but not the labor of my dreams. I guess I have poor confidence in regards to birthing. I educate myself and feel prepared when I arrive at the hospital - but I never stick to my guns when the doctor comes around. I would love to have a birth where I can labor while standing, no epidural, no artificial rupturing of membranes, etc. I don't mind having a saline lock and I don't mind external monitoring. The previous two times after arriving to the hospital (at 5cm & 7cm), I became scared of the pain, and (sadly) didn't want to be perceived as a "bad patient." I didn't talk to my OB last time about how I really wanted the birth to go - he's a very "in and out" type of doctor, not the greatest bedside manner. I plan to talk to him this time. I also had family in the deliver room the past two times - this time I will not - I realized that I felt like I had to be stoic in the face of pain and that caused my resolve to crumble.
So, do you think a doula would help things?