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To Have and to KEEP

post #1 of 6
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Ladies:

I am starting to think that June Cleaver may still have something to teach us.  Just go with me here.  Have you ever caught yourself talking to your husband like he was another one of the children?  Why does the grocery clerk get a warmer smile than my husband?

Don’t get your pantyhose out yet.  I am talking about small changes here.  I am not a stay at home mom.  By the time I get home from work I too am tired, distracted and not at all interested in cooking, cleaning or overseeing homework to name a few.  Here are a few ideas I had, would love anyone else to share.

I put one load of laundry in the moment I get up in the morning. If you do not have a programmable coffee pot, INVEST.  By the time I crawl to the kitchen, coffee is ready.  I then, while I am fresh, spend 20 minutes cleaning something.  It is well worth the 30 mins of lost sleep to get up and accomplish something before the rest of the house is awake.  This of course cuts into my check e-mail, Facebook and blog time.  Well worth it to accomplish tasks while I am fresh instead of being met at the door with them after 5.

My husband has started to notice that the house is cleaner and I am less harried in the evenings.  This has impacted for the better how I treat him at night and he is more helpful when I am not grumpy.

I am continuing to tweek things, will keep you posted.

post #2 of 6

Baby steps and routines are all that ever work for me. It can be hard to keep them all going, but it does keep things moving more successfully!

post #3 of 6
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I posted this same thread on another mothering forum.  One of the ladies shared this idea -

"I set out the "special markers" (those that only color on paper not everything else) and set the timer for 30 minutes.  The girls sit at their small table and chairs and color while I clean, dishes, laundry or whatever.  They only get to use the "special markers" during that time.  IF they do not sit at the table and color the markers go away for a week and they have small chores to do during my cleaning time.  Works great for me.  Not sure how that would fly with boys."

I may give this a try.  I am feeling motivated to get organized and have more time with my husband and children.

post #4 of 6

Wasn't June Cleaver a SAHM with two in-school kids? We don't exactly see what the Cleaver household was like when Wally was a newborn. Beav and Wally are also 5 years apart, so she never managed to do all that while taking care of a toddler AND infant.  Would she have been able to do all that if she was also homeschooling her kids or working/going to school?

 

If you're both working- you can both contribute to housework/cooking/childcare/etc. If we don't like the amount of time we're spending together, we BOTH do what it takes to fix that. Why should the onus be on one partner over the other?

post #5 of 6

I put one load of laundry in the moment I get up in the morning. If you do not have a programmable coffee pot, INVEST.  By the time I crawl to the kitchen, coffee is ready.  I then, while I am fresh, spend 20 minutes cleaning something.  It is well worth the 30 mins of lost sleep to get up and accomplish something before the rest of the house is awake.  This of course cuts into my check e-mail, Facebook and blog time.  Well worth it to accomplish tasks while I am fresh instead of being met at the door with them after 5.



 



I have an automatic coffee maker. He gets up every morning at 4:30 to make my coffee. One of the many reasons why I love him so much! smile.gif I leave for work before 5, and he usually sticks dinner in the crock pot, throws in a load of laundry, and sometimes does the dishes. Then he gets the kids up, feeds them breakfast, and gets them ready for school. After I pick the kids up, I throw in another load of laudry/fold it, help with homework, and finish dishes. If there's time, I might sweep the floor or vacuum or something. By the time DH gets home, we all eat dinner, and then relax/read/clean up dinner dishes. Pretty far from June Cleaver, but that's the way we like it!
post #6 of 6
I agree with getting up 15-20 minutes early in the morning and getting stuff done, I love doing that! Doesn't have anything to do with my DH or June Cleaver, just some nice time to myself for chores and whatnot. DH is not a morning person, so he tends to do his stuff on the weekends or after bedtime or while I am on all three kid duty (often it's me on twin duty, him on DD1 duty because of BFing).

So yeah, getting up early and splitting the load with DH works well for my family and already DD1 is starting to help with cleaning up her messes/toys so we'll just keep spreading the work to everyone.
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