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Totally off topic, but what would you say to this co-worker about her baby?

post #1 of 6
Thread Starter 

A co-worker, who I have never worked with, had a baby in July and has taken a year off of work.  She brought him in to visit this week and I was surprised to see how small he is.  She mentioned being a "bit worried" because he was 8lbs5oz when he was born, and now 2 1/2 months later, he is 8lbs2oz.  She said she wasn't too worried, because he was meeting his milestones.  I'm a quiet person and didn't want to freak her with so many people around oohing and aahing over him.  Nobody else seemed concerned.  They were saying things like "everyone just wants a chunky baby"  "oh, don't worry. He's just fine."  I could literally see bones in this baby's elbows and head.  I know that this absolutely isn't normal.  I don't know if she's seeing a doctor.  I imagine she doesn't have insurance for herself, taking this year off, I'm hoping she has gotten state insurance for the baby. 

 

So, do I say something?  She's a first-time mom and clearly adores him, but doesn't seem to realize that something may be terribly wrong with him.  He's 3oz less than when he was born in July!  If we were close, I would definitely talk to her.  Would it be weird for a random co-worker to call with such concerns?  I was thinking I could express concern to a mutual friend.  What do you think? What would you do?

post #2 of 6
Personally I would say something. If anything did happen I would feel guilty for keeping quiet knowing I could have helped and prevented the situation from getting bad. Even if you have never worked with her she still should know something could be wrong.
post #3 of 6
Maybe call and offer to come over and do some laundry, errands, watch the baby while she naps, and just get some more general info on the situation? Strart by supporting her and the rest may follow.
post #4 of 6

yea,  I would definitely suggest talking to her.  That doesn't sound good. Is she nursing? She might not be nursing enough.  Poor girl

post #5 of 6
Thread Starter 

I did end up talking to her last night.  I just couldn't breathe easy, feeling like I had a responsibility.  She said she realizes it isn't normal, and since she's nursing basically all day, she thinks there is something wrong.  She said their doc is having her track how often he eats until their next appt.  She seemed appreciative for my concern.  Thank you ladies for your input.

post #6 of 6

:) I would appreiciate it if it was my first, especially since you seem to have broached the subject tactfully.  No one likes to be scolded but most new moms appreciate friendly concern and thoughtful advice.

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