1, 3 and 5. I guess I made a choice to be a SAHM with DD1. I planned on working part time but she was such an intense child/baby as in never stopped screaming that DH who was supposed to care for her on weekends while I worked, said that he absolutely could not safely care for her. She was so difficult that he was afraid of what would happen with him alone for 14+ hours straight.
As the years went by and the children came. It moved to where I didn't have any choice. DD2 had health issues and me being an RN was basically what allowed us to manage her at home often. As she got older and was no longer so dependent on medication and equipment, I did start with #5. That lasted a few years but DS1 has ASD among other conditions and it wasn't feasible for me to work anymore. Over the years, DH's work load has increased so much that he is always on call 365 days a year, 24 hours a day. he has to be able to go at a moment's notice at any given time. Childcare has been absolute nightmare because of this. I can schedule a meeting with DS1's social worker for 6pm only to return home to find DH gone into work yet again and the neighbor 13 year old girl watching my kids until I get home. This happens way too often. He leaves in the middle of the night, weekends, etc... We can't ever count on him ever actually coming home or picking up kids from school, daycare, anything. If I were to work these days it would require a full time, live in nanny. So instead I am a SAHM again.