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post #221 of 328

I'm so sorry for those of you struggling with PPD. I've had a few angry and weepy moments, but nothing really persistent. Randomly the other day I was thinking back on the day my milk came in and the day after, when Ava refused to nurse. Those two days were filled with tears from both of us. We got through it, and it could have been so much worse, but the despair I felt then was so strong. Reflecting on it now, I think those moments were more traumatic for me than the birth and its following complications. I've had a few cries about it the last few days.

 

I woke up to red spotting today. Am I getting my period already?! I know a couple other ladies here had bleeding recently... I'm 8 weeks PP and have been nursing practically non-stop!

post #222 of 328
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Originally Posted by gracisue View Post

 I didn't think DS3 was having a problem adjusting to Ivy, but I was wrong. He adores her and is still very affectionate with me, but recently he's been more difficult than usual. I'm hoping that soon I'll have more time to spend with him instead of just the odd cuddle on the couch when my arms are free. I miss him.

 

graciesue, my older son is going through the same thing. He loves his little brother so much and is still my sweet cuddly boy but he has also become much more difficult and totally deaf to our warnings when he's being too crazy.  Its so hard because it is very obvious that he's just desperate for the attention he has lost. I figure we'll all make it through this period and at least he isn't taking out the jealousy on his brother.

 

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I woke up to red spotting today. Am I getting my period already?! I know a couple other ladies here had bleeding recently... I'm 8 weeks PP and have been nursing practically non-stop!

 

After my first pregnancy I got my period back at about 10 or so weeks and I was EBFing.  This time I had some spotting and major bloating at 8 weeks that I'm pretty sure was a very light period and I'm nursing like every hour during the day and only getting a 4-5 hour break at night (at best).  I've always been so jealous of friends who didn't get their periods back until after they stopped nursing.

post #223 of 328
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After my first pregnancy I got my period back at about 10 or so weeks and I was EBFing.  This time I had some spotting and major bloating at 8 weeks that I'm pretty sure was a very light period and I'm nursing like every hour during the day and only getting a 4-5 hour break at night (at best).  I've always been so jealous of friends who didn't get their periods back until after they stopped nursing.

 

I've only gotten a 4 hour stretch during the night maybe 2 or 3 times ever. The majority of the time she still wakes up every 2.5-3 hours. Good thing DH and I still haven't done the deed yet. 

post #224 of 328
Oh my gosh Ciga I could have written that post about my son. He looooooves his little sister and is so sweet with her, but he is acting out in his own way (mostly being hyper and not listening on task related things). Honestly sometimes it drives me insane... But I'm so thankful it's not jealousy directed toward the baby.
post #225 of 328

We too have an awesome big brother, its so cute the way he gets a high pitched baby talk voice when he talks to her, always saying how cute she is...makes my heart melt! :love  Yesterday he actually tried to pick her up, right next to me of course when I went to take a bite of food, he didnt get far before I stopped him and shes fine but now Im freaking out about leaving her even for a second! Poor little guy has been acting out as well since he doesnt get all the attention now and I hate to see him so emotional when I cant do our normal daily activities together. Before baby we would frequently go to the zoo or museum, hiking in the woods behind our house or to the park, now he gets out maybe if hes lucky 1 time a week. Lucky for us we have a lot of snow right now so we are cooped up inside, but struggling to find fun indoor activities now that I can actually be a part of...its so hard when I have to keep stopping what we are doing and nurse or change a diaper. He is however learning to play on his own better which helps.

 

As for me, Im still bleeding at 5 wks pp and it sucks majorly, Im so ready to be done with pads!!!

post #226 of 328
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I hate to see him so emotional when I cant do our normal daily activities together. Before baby we would frequently go to the zoo or museum, hiking in the woods behind our house or to the park, now he gets out maybe if hes lucky 1 time a week. Lucky for us we have a lot of snow right now so we are cooped up inside, but struggling to find fun indoor activities now

With DD we would get out and do fun things. And then baby came and now its once a week if that. Sometimes its too much to just go in the back yard a nd play. I hate to see her get so bored when im busy with baby. I try to find fun indoor activities for us. But a lot of times i cant babywear too. I feel bad when baby sits in his bouncer by himself staring into space while I play with DD. It is a balancing act for sure!
post #227 of 328
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With DD we would get out and do fun things. And then baby came and now its once a week if that. Sometimes its too much to just go in the back yard a nd play. I hate to see her get so bored when im busy with baby. I try to find fun indoor activities for us. But a lot of times i cant babywear too. I feel bad when baby sits in his bouncer by himself staring into space while I play with DD. It is a balancing act for sure!

I'm having an issue baby wearing as well and it's bumming me out. Back issues. I'm sure it will resolve as I heal a little more but it's frustrating.

I sometimes put my baby in the bouncer but I will also lay him on a blanket or mat on the floor next to me so I can sit next to DS1 as he plays. This is so good for the baby because he gets to move his head from side to side and check out everything around him. I will also place toys and safe objects around him for him to look at and eventually reach for.
post #228 of 328

My issue with time-sharing between my three is that my newest babe is screaming ALL THE TIME. No one even wants me to lay him down because then he's drowning all our conversation out. I wish I knew what was wrong. But as my husband said - both of our previous boys had a similar issue. I don't know if it's issues with my oversupply or what, but is is miserable for the first couple of months. 

post #229 of 328
Hi! Just thought I'd check in. My boy is 8 weeks now. He is super amazing- sleeps well and hangs out alone when he needs to. Funny because I'm still tired and worn out, but hey, I have six kids! Husband had a vasectomy. He was sore for about a week and a half. It felt significant but not sad really because I feel so sure this was meant to be my last. Ladies in your 20's,wow you should probably wait! I'm 36 and dh is 42. We have an amazing family. I've been helping my oldest prepare for college (she's 17!) with a baby in tow-- surreal!
post #230 of 328
Hey, it would be nice to be friends with some of you on Facebook. I'm Leslie Howard in Pennsylvania- hit me up if you like!
post #231 of 328
I tried to find you, Littlebird, but couldn't!
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Hey Mumma's sorry to hear some of you are dealing with ppd! Much love and care to you all right now!
Babywearing Mumma's perservere if you can it's such a life saver. I don't know where I'd be without my manduca Katherine slept in it for 3+hours in it while we took dh to the emergency room for a suspected fractured ankle. Terrible timing! Review in 5days. It has made today rather stressful to be honest, and I'm now a tired grumpy mumma :-(

Katherine is 10weeks old now and just the sweetest little dumpling! Huge smiles and and lots of "talking" when she's awake. She sleeps reasonbly well thank goodness, we've just moved our middle son back into our bedroom with us as he was night time toilet regressing. Poor darling has just had three major life events happen all at once - moving house, starting kindergarten and having a sibling. Poor blossom is a sensitive soul dealing with huge life events. It's so lovely to be able to watch him sleep.
I cannot believe its Christmas in just a fortnights time! We are sorted for gifts for the children & my husband. But so far nobody else *sigh*
Anyone else stressed about Xmas???
post #233 of 328
Ditto Dahlia ~ I'm Dani Bartlett in Auckland New Zealand if anyone wants to add me :-)
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My kids + fiance + mom are sorted with gifts, they are wrapped and under the tree, but I just ordered the christmas cards with the family pic on the front LAST WEEK so I don't know what day they will arrive, so they may not get to everyone around the globe on time.  I was late with that.  :(  I had shirts made up with custom text for all the girlfriends I have in this town last Christmas and mailed them out with cards and festive packaging, and received no cards in return and few even bothered to text a thanks for the package, a couple of these even stopped being in touch until my baby shower and I was amazed that they showed up (hadn't even known I was pregnant until the invite to the shower, since they had fallen behind on keeping touch with me).  One girlfriend has a birthday after Christmas so I got her a nice book that she said she wanted, and she still hasn't read it, one year later.  It's a bit of a deflating feeling, after a lot of fun giving the gift.       It's kind of hard trying to make friends at this stage in life.  I meet a woman I like, hang out a few times and start to try to really invest time and energy into getting together regularly, maybe twice a month, and after 6-12 months it sometimes fizzles.  Sometimes after about two years it fizzles and they slip by the wayside and it feels like a lot of time wasted.  I keep searching....

 

I just met three 30-39 weeks (currently) pregnant women this autumn/winter who are also foreign in the country I live in, all of whom are very fluent in English and chatty (Canadian, Swedish, and Mexican) outgoing type friendly gals who I really liked when I met them individually, so I decided to start a little weekly get together with the four of us so we would have company and empathy about being foreign with a baby this winter and then hang out by the sandbox/swingset next spring/summer together.  We met for the first time today and it was 2 hours of nice chatting in a cafe while I nursed baby and they talked about their impending births.  I was so glad to be on this side of things!  We agreed to make it a weekly event, so I'm glad that went well.  Really rare to find women who are really chatty, warm and outgoing in English around here, and they are all expecting their first babies and live nearby each other so if anything I did a good deed introducing them to one another.  A bit different situation having my third, but still glad my girlie will have two girls and a little boy to be friends with one day when she starts to play with her peers, whom I can speak English with their mommies!

But the most important thing is the local mommy groups I joined (two, one in the nearby 'city' and one in the actual town I'm in) where I get a couple of hours per week to practice the local langauge.  I haven't really clicked with those mommies yet, maybe because of language barrier, I dunno, but I am going to keep trying!

 

But I think I won't buy any gifts for girlfriends this year.  It wasn't satisfying last year, although the planning and sending was a lot of fun.

post #235 of 328
Why not start a mothering october baby group on fb that might be easier to find and one stop shopping!
post #236 of 328

when my boys allow it, i'm a jewelry designer so i let all my siblings paw through my inventory over thanksgiving and pick their own xmas presents. i'm going for easy here.  for the grandparents i need to put together an iphoto book of the kids. we did that a couple years ago and they loved it. for my boys we're going simple. sled and maybe one other thing for ds1 and maybe just a stocking for porter. i'm not too worried about it. i know the grandparents will send a bunch of stuff they probably don't need and ds1 will get to open it all so he'll have a grand time. fortunately i've never been one to exchange gifts with friends unlerss i happen to make or come across something i know they'll LOVE.  we do need to take a walk down in our woods and pick out a tree, though i have no idea where i'll put it since the changing table has taken over it's usual spot this year.

 

serafina i'm totally jealous. i've been feeling rather isolated living out in the country here. no new mama friends and now that there is snow on the road i'm not going to drive into town much without the good car which is only home on the days DH works from our home studio. fortunately, we have a couple really nice families with older kids within walking distance. now, if ds1 could just kick this cold we could actually go visit them and get out of the house.

 

shiloh that's a good idea, i actually still keep in touch with a couple of the women i met in my first mothering ddc through facebook. it's kind of cool to be able to see pictures of their kids growing along with mine.

 

has anyone dealt with breastmilk jaundice? at his 5 week visit porter was still a bit yellow and his doc wanted me to take him to the hospital to have blood drawn. after talking it over with my midwives at my six week visit i opted not to do it because he was very obviously thriving and the yellow was clearly diminishing. we felt like it was an unnecessary trauma.  i can't see any yellow anymore but since i'm coming up on his 2 month appoinment next week i'm second guessing myself since if i'm just not seeing the yellow and the doc does i know I'll have to discuss my choice.

 does he look yellow?

AppleMark

post #237 of 328
My #3 had bmj.
I supplemented.
It was low but there for a while
post #238 of 328

supplemented with what shiloh?

post #239 of 328
Weird. Danielle, I think I found and messaged you. Maybe folks can find me using State College, PA. A Facebook birth club could be a good idea!
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I second a mothering facebook group!  :)

 

I'm sorry to hear about you ladies going through ppd. Big big hugs to you all! 

 

I can't believe it's almost Christmas!! Most of our shopping is done, luckily. I got some nice wooden grasping toys for Lily, and some little outfits. My little bug is 8 weeks old today! I can't believe how fast the time with her has gone. It makes me a little sad to see her getting bigger, but it's exciting at the same time. Very bittersweet :) She is holding her head up lots more now, and is awake a lot during the day, cooing and squealing and laughing. She is such a sweetheart, so cuddly and loving. She sleeps pretty well at night, for the most part. A lot of nights she'll sleep from 11:30/12 until 5. Can't complain! I just started pumping yesterday, and I'm worried that I'm not producing enough milk in my left breast.. Lily always prefers to nurse on the right, and that side always feels more full. I'm afraid to pump the right, and then not have enough for her to eat at her next nursing session, so I've just been pumping the left while she nurses on the right. I usually only get like 1.5 oz (mayyybe that much, sometimes closer to 1 oz) per pumping session. Is that normal?? Ugh, it's stressing me out. I'm going back to work at the end of January, and feel so lucky because I'm able to bring Lily with me. But it does mean that I won't be able to nurse every time, since I nanny and will need to be able to tend to the other kiddos as well. So, that means I need to get a decent stock pile of milk in the freezer before then. 

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