The wine did nothing. Lucky me, that sounds awful, abk!
If I didn't get quality sleep while tummy to tummy with baby sidelying nursing or ready to do so, I'd be exhausted too! I have no advice other than to try to train yourself to sleep well witht baby right there next to you. I don't see long stretches of time away from mom's smell being something your baby will be interested in, for quite some time...and presumably not a good idea even if he tolerated it, as it could be bad for your supply to go more than 3-4 hours between nursing in the first few months.
Sorry I have no advice for how to get what you want! Remember, these early months with a small infant go by so fast and a more normal routine will happen in time with an older baby who has a bigger tummy who can consume more calories to last them through "the night".