Hey, Darcy! We are also in San Diego, and we have actually now been to the three main REs in San Diego county, so I can tell you all about them.
We started up at HRC in Oceanside because they actually had a page on their website about same sex couples. Turns out you have to do a lot of things at their Newport office, which is just too far for us to do on a regular basis. We LOVED Dr Coffler and were less thrilled with his nurse, who made some big errors (like switching our blood samples for our genetic testing)! We did all of our testing through them, but soon realized it wasn't practical to drive up there multiple times a month. Too much time off from work.
We found FSMG because they were much closer and also had a page about same sex couples on their website. We would return to them for IVF because they're less expensive for it than where we are now. They do charge MUCH more for IUIs including really ridiculous "sperm fees" and when we told them other practices charge less, their financial person told me we were misinformed (we weren't; we just wrote a check for our $700 IUI clomid and ovidrel cycle--at FSMG it's 1180 plus 200 for "receipt and thawing of sperm"). It's a shame, because lady and I would probably have preferred to stay with them, since every time you switch practices, you have to do another 2-hour consultation, where they do an ultrasound, get your history, and then have you meet with someone from financial to talk about your benefits.
Even though San Diego Fertility said they charged $275 for this consultation session, we still were going to save money on an IUI by switching to them, so we finally did after our second IUI with FSMG. Turns out we only had to pay a 35 copay for it, so it was a better deal than we thought. The locations are great for us, Dr Park is a dream to work with--intelligent, friendly, straightforward--and we are saving HUNDREDS. It's great to hear that Sandiego78 loves them too, because we JUST did our first IUI with them today and are excited. They charge significantly more for IVF (mostly their surgical facility fee) so we probably won't go with them if we get that far, as FSMG and HRC are both cheaper for it. Biggest complaint right now is that we've had four appointments so far at two different offices and they've never been on time for a single one. They even rescheduled lady's IUI to an hour earlier, then made her wait 40 minutes in the waiting room until she asked someone what was going on.
btw, Lea, can you move us to TWW? this was the first appointment i've ever not made it to with lady, but I had to give a midterm, so we actually recorded cell phone videos for each other to play during the actual insem.
oh, ps Darcy, we also went to a 2 hour consult at Suzann Gage in North Park, she does natural IUIs, but doesn't do any monitoring at all, just IUI. she teaches you a lot about tracking, but we felt like for now we would take advantage of the precision offered by monitoring and Ovidrel, since frozen sperm has such a short life span. hope that helps!
Edited by sandiegongp - 10/25/13 at 6:50pm