DS just turned two at the end of August and is still nursing quite a bit. He is a BIG boy. Depending on where I am in my cycle I sometimes don't have a lot of milk and nursing a lot gets uncomfortable, after a point I have to say no. I always offer food or drink, just in case that is part of the problem. He is kicking and hitting a lot (pretty much every night) when refused "surse". I also offer hugs and sometimes he will lay on top of me, stomach to stomach, as a hug. It is especially bad in the morning.
He knows hands are not for hitting, gentle touches, that hurts mama, if you keep hurting mama you will have to get off the bed etc but it doesn't seem to help. We are ttc and I'm even more worried about him kicking me hard in the abdomen if we are successful. I get frustrated that DH doesn't really help, but he's at a loss as to what to do (other than help with the "that hurts mama. We do not hit." bits) because if DS wants me he just screams and is more violent when DH goes to him. I'm not really sure what to do at this point either.