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post #121 of 161

That is a baby, Roisin!  Awesome photo.  Isn't that amazing?!

post #122 of 161

My best friend and mother in law finally got together on doing a shower for me...but it won't be until Dec 7th, when I'll be 36 weeks...and it will be at my house...and I have to do most of the cooking (at least it's simple). Oh well, I suppose I'm happy that it's happening and I can stop stressing out about stocking up on diapers at least!

post #123 of 161

roisin, that is an adorable photo. I go for my "growth scan" today for my twins at 32 weeks. I wonder what they will look like today.

 

crazykittymommy, hope the shower turns out fun.

post #124 of 161

OMG, the squishy baby ultrasound.  I love it.  My close friend had her second daughter 2 weeks ago, and we spent some time visiting with them yesterday.  As usual, I had totally forgotten how tiny and amazing newborns are.  Suddenly I am feeling really connected to this roly poly creature inside me.  I feel him move, and visualize that little newborn I just held, and it seems so real!  I may be unusual (or maybe not?) in that in my past pregnancies, I always felt really disconnected from the idea or reality of the baby until it was actually born.  I like this way better (though I feel a little guilty/bad for my other two children, who I really do love dearly, now!).  

 

We are on the last day of daddy on week long travel, and it looks like he is also going to be accepting a job offer at a different company, to start in a couple of weeks.  No stress!!  So I have wrecked myself this week just trying to get the bare minimum done around the house (feeding us all, keeping it clean enough that we don't get bugs, making sure we have clothes to wear) and I am totally stressing about how I am going to manage to be full time in charge of everything 2 weeks post partum.  With the other two, we dragged out his paternity leave (going back part time, and for a few days a week, working from home a lot) until 6 weeks, but that is obviously not going to be an option at a new job, where he isn't eligible for FMLA and no one really knows him yet.  I have informed the baby that he must come at 39 weeks, to allow the end of DH's paternity leave to line up with the start of DD's 2 week school vacation (it's a half hour commute each way!).  Think he will cooperate?

post #125 of 161
That is stressful, Court. This Christmastime baby thing seems either perfect or extra-stressful! My h is a teacher, so we are really hoping the baby comes so that we get both holiday vacation and parental leave back to back.
I'm also feeling way more excited for this squishy newbie- the last time it was totally abstract, almost even after she was born. This time, knowing how hard the newborn postpartum weeks are, ive almost been dreading him! But now Im starting to feel excited and ready to dote on his fat little self.
post #126 of 161
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Originally Posted by CourtBChase View Post
 

I may be unusual (or maybe not?) in that in my past pregnancies, I always felt really disconnected from the idea or reality of the baby until it was actually born.  I like this way better (though I feel a little guilty/bad for my other two children, who I really do love dearly, now!).  

 

I'm exactly the same way. It's hard for me to connect the bumps and thumps and rolls I feel going on inside to an actual, real baby. I mean, I "know" it's a baby in there causing all this but it just doesn't seem like a real person yet. Even after mine have been born they almost seem like two different entities-the baby that was inside me and the real baby that is now here. I can't wait for my baby to actually be here but for now she's more of an abstract idea, something I'm picturing in my head but not quite real. 

 

I'm starting to have my "removable baby dreams" now though. With each pregnancy around the 7 month mark I start having dreams where I can either see through my belly and/or temporarily take the baby out and see them/hold them then put them back in until they're done. It's kind of cool but kind of disturbing at the same time. 

post #127 of 161

Hello ladies--I came accross these when I was crip mattress cover shopping and wanted to share with the rest of you. They are having a promotion this mornt--buy one get one free. Since I am having twins, it works out great for me, but maybe this would be helpful for other mamas on here are well. Here is the link http://harlowsearth.com

post #128 of 161
I did go ahead and blow up the birth ball. It's so comfortable and nice to sit on! In fact, I had a lot of lower back pain on Wednesday, so I took my ball to Bible study and sat on it there! :-P Luckily we have a Suburban, so plenty of trunk space.

I've been feeling kicks all over. Most of the time it feels like her head is down low, and I can feel butt and kicks just under my ribs. But almost as often, I feel a large bump on the right side of my stomach, and kicks on the left side at the same time - like she might be sideways! I really hope she's not! Or at least, I hope she's doesn't decide it's her favorite position! I've already had one vaginal breech birth that never should have been (double footling!), and I just want this one to come out head first like she's supposed to.
post #129 of 161
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Originally Posted by CourtBChase View Post
 

OMG, the squishy baby ultrasound.  I love it.  My close friend had her second daughter 2 weeks ago, and we spent some time visiting with them yesterday.  As usual, I had totally forgotten how tiny and amazing newborns are.  Suddenly I am feeling really connected to this roly poly creature inside me.  I feel him move, and visualize that little newborn I just held, and it seems so real!  I may be unusual (or maybe not?) in that in my past pregnancies, I always felt really disconnected from the idea or reality of the baby until it was actually born.  I like this way better (though I feel a little guilty/bad for my other two children, who I really do love dearly, now!).  

 

I haven't felt that connected to the last two babies in utero. I felt concerned about this with my third baby- maybe I wouldn't love him as much as a newborn. But the weird thing was that literally as SOON as he emerged from the water (birth tub) and was handed to me, I was instantly bonded. And actually I felt MORE bonded to him as a newborn than my first two babies (who of course I love dearly and I don't mind saying it.) I wanted to hold him more, protect him more, etc. So I'm grateful for that and hope this baby girl is the same way. Because this pregnancy has been so rough in many ways and I just want her out. 

 

When we start a November Chat, how about posting our screen name, our real name if we want to share, when this baby is due/boy/girl etc, and maybe a short sentense about ourselves (other kids, job, personality etc) that will stay on the top post? I can start the thread if yall want. I'd feel we can get to know each other better that way. Thoughts?

post #130 of 161

I just know that I have less time to spend connecting with the baby, talking with my belly and all that- usually only happens before I go to bed.  But like Kali, I just love my babies!!  I can't believe how yummy and awesome they are!  And I remember last time feeling more disconnected during pregnancy to the fact that it really was a baby (this time more so) so when he came out I just kept saying, "oh, my baby"... I'm definitely thinking more about giving birth, about meeting him and holding him, smelling him, nursing him, kissing him...but yes, hard to get somehow that this movement and what's taking up my belly space is him!  

 

I think that's a good idea, Kali, about the thread.

post #131 of 161

I am glad I am not the only one to feel this way when pregnant!  I think sometimes there is this mythology in our culture about how pregnancy is this amazing magical time, and we are supposed to be super connected and in love with our growing babies, and it feels...deviant when that is not your experience.  So thank you, ladies!

 

An intro post at the beginning of the next chat thread sounds like a good idea, and I bet there will be some due date babies (hopefully late) next month...

post #132 of 161
I agree with the intro post! I love how message boards facilitate that kind of thing. :-)

I don't know if I feel disconnected from my baby. I feel like I know her and love her already; I just feel like she's so far away! Is that pretty much the same thing? I'm not someone who has ever enjoyed pregnancy. It's just a thing you have to go through to get the baby. This is our last, and I will absolutely NOT miss being pregnant. I can say that with certainty because for almost five years I thought our youngest was the last, and as much as I missed breastfeeding and everything that comes with infancy, I NEVER missed being pregnant.

I can't wait to have my baby, though. I'm obsessed with everything baby right now. Today we're going to a reptile convention, and I'm sitting here wishing I could put my 5yo in the mei tai and wear him all day. :-P No way he'd put up with that!
post #133 of 161
I'm glad some of you brought up the disconnectedness thing, I've been feeling guilty about it. Sometimes I think that if I felt more connected to this baby it wouldn't be so difficult for me to make good decisions sometimes, like about exercising or eating healthy, or that I wouldn't feel so tired and lazy sometimes. We only did the 20-week anatomy scan and didn't find out the sex, so this baby is largely a mystery to me. I always hear, and you have echoed it here, that it all changes once the baby is born and bonding happens instantly. I really hope so and kinda can't wait!

I've really gone into full-on nesting/preparation mode. I was speaking with a distant cousin at our shower who recently had her first baby 3 weeks early while they were in the middle of some remodeling so intense that they couldn't go home after they were released from the hospital. Not the best planning on their part, but sheesh, nightmare!! I am fully prepared to go over my due date but I never really considered that the opposite might be true. I'm 35 weeks so now I want to have everything mostly set by 37, and then I can relax/prepare mentally for birth after that. Bought all the essentials so now am just sorting/washing/cleaning etc. Also, I had the most hilarious time trying to pick out gigantic pads and underwear at Target yesterday, I had no idea what I was doing! I must have looked so hilarious diligently reading descriptions of every package and taking forever to choose anything. Lol.

Love the idea of the introductions, especially since I am new and have missed a lot. I got inspired to post in the "introductions" forum so you can read more about me there. I'm kinda embarrassed I wrote so much now Sheepish.gif oh well.
post #134 of 161

Right now I have the feeling that I will not be able to put this baby down once he's there... I know it's not true but I'm convinced I will hold him and try to get all that new baby smell :throb.  With DD I was in heaven over how sweet she smelled (they don't bathe babies here after birth).  It's weird but I really am so excited for him to finally be here!!

post #135 of 161
Lets totally do the quick intro thing on the november thread! There are a few new voices since I was last chatting away (geez first trimester?), and Id love to hear from all the newbies
post #136 of 161

I love how our DDC has grown in the past couple weeks!hola.gif to all the new mamas! 

 

Quick vent:  Having an annoying "discussion" with a co-worker, while trying to ignore Braxton Hicks = no fun at all!

I am sure I looked more pissed off than I was since I was working so hard to focus on the conversation! :lol

 

So I am 35wks today, and I am getting nervous and excited about being prepared.  I keep thinking this baby is coming early. I have a few things I would really, really like to get done by this weekend:

  1. labor music on mp3 player
  2. birth plan
  3. iPad cleaned up so DS & DH can use it at the hospital

 

Next week, I have my 2nd appt with the new midwifery practice, and I will meet with my doula for the 2nd time. Woo-hoo!  It will be six weeks since I have had a prenatal appt. I cancelled my previous appt to save a bit of money where I can. I have been checking my blood pressure and urine at home, and all looks well. I gained a couple pounds in the last week. I am starting to feel BIG & HEAVY!

 

Yesterday, I don't know what my baby girl was doing but all morning I could barely breath and barely eat.  She was way up high squishing my organs. 

 

Oh, one last thing, we hung up some newborn hand-me-downs from my neighbor...and just seeing all those lil girl clothes in the swaying in the sunlight was an awesome experience.  It is starting to feel real! :joy

post #137 of 161

I keep having feelings this is going to be an early baby too, but I think mine is mostly wishful thinking.  I have had so much more braxton hicks and pelvic pain than in past pregnancies, and the baby is soooooo low, but the experience of friends tells me that that can go on and on. My husband is starting a new job Nov 11, and they agreed to give him 2 weeks of PTO for the birth (thank god) so the baby coming before December would be non-ideal (for health insurance, and job transition reasons).  39 weeks, though, would be perfect.  ;-) 

post #138 of 161

Wow, some of you are 35 weeks already?!  Jealous!

I'm just 32 tomorrow...long way to go yet.  

 

It's good to be prepared in case baby comes early, but cervical cramping and braxton hicks and even dilation doesn't mean an early baby.  As you have more babies, the prodromal part of labor- where things are happening slowly over time before labor kicks in and you know baby is on its way- is stretched out more and more.  With my last one, I was writing in my journal on the 4th of July that I felt labor-ish, emotional, so crampy, and I was having boughts of contractions that woke me up and had me breathing a week later...he wasn't due til July 27 and wasn't born until August 8!  I could not BELIEVE he hung in there so long!  So this time I'm trying to be realistic- I'm due Dec 25 so my window of when I expect him is between Dec 20 and Jan 8.  That's a big window!  But looking forward to January and imagining him coming then will help me I think when January rolls around so I'm not shocked and depressed!

post #139 of 161

I wish this baby would be born early (just 1-3 weeks early) but its wishful thinking. All mine go to at least 40+. I have tons of BH, cramps, back aches, ect and yet... still they cook :) 

post #140 of 161

I am guessing early, just b/c DS came earlyish - 38wks3days. And I was so unprepared! But now that I have tried my hand at "predicting," I bet the lil lady will make me wait!

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