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Kerv is the tall one.smile.gif Love that you all had such a great visit.
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Ten hours of sleep should be enough...and yet they have not got up yet. Dh put up heavy curtains in all the bedrooms, which is nice, but does make it hard to get up, especially with a long day of catch-up work ahead! Gr.

 

Reading here: Zealot by Reza Aslan and listening to Sedaris's latest on audio, which is really fine work but so must-have-headphones-in. Almost time to hit the library site for more reading.

 

Kids are doing a bang-up job catching up. By week's end they will nearly be totally on track. Both are still ahead in math, and ds is ahead in Lit, too. I have them scheduled for an art/culture class this weekend, but might bail to give them a lazier weekend.

 

RR: About to head out for another walk (with Sedaris), and scheduled for yoga on the beach tonight. Also back to walking for groceries almost daily, and carrying them home, which should help my weakling arms come back. Hope to have my old, capable body back, maybe by December?

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Jooj - I would be the crazy lady laughing out loud while walking down the street if I listened to Sedaris on headphones!  Glad the kids are catching up so quickly on their schoolwork.

 

And speaking of schoolwork,  DD1 is literally drowning in it :(.  Last night she had swim team from 4:15-5:15, came home, had dinner and started her work at about 6:30.  She finally finished at 10:10.  No whining, no fussing, just straight work, all the way through.  She had to create a game (she did most of that over the weekend, but had a few finishing touches to add), prepare an oral presentation of her game (practiced that 3 or 4 times), plus a few other random things to finish up.  Then I woke her early this morning to study for a vocabulary test.  I was really proud of her for working so hard and not complaining, but still feel it's too much.

 

And a friend issue:  For the last 3 years, DD1 and her friends J and R have met at our house and gone trick-or-treating.  When I hadn't heard from either of their Moms, I told DD1 to ask at school if they wanted to come over again this year.  Well, it turns out J and R made plans to trick-or-treat with another girl, M.  And they didn't invite DD1 at all :(.  Her friend G has been increasingly stand-offish this year, although DD1 says they are still friends.  G's Mom is the same woman I was really close with a few years ago who ended up totally blowing me off as a friend. Last summer, she said G "couldn't" sleep over at our house anymore, but wouldn't tell me why.  And now this whole Halloween thing.

 

RR - maybe, but first, a haircut and groceries.  Priorities, you know ;).

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Flowers from C. Just because. love.gif I can't remember the last time anyone except my mom got me flowers...

2/3 nights at work done. Chili in the crockpot, and perfect sleeping weather. Ahhh. Life does not suck right now.
post #265 of 296
Gaye-C sounds great! Why didn't you see a long term with him? I can't remember.

Waiting to see ds2 post surgery. Got here at 9am for 930 surgery, they took him back at noon.
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Gaye-C sounds great! Why didn't you see a long term with him? I can't remember.
 

Seriously, me neither!

 

Yeah, Dingo meet-up! You guys look fantastic, and it sounds like a perfect day :love

 

What happened with your DS, RM? I must have missed something. Everything ok, I hope?

 

:( and :irked JG about the friends and trick-or-treating. Something similar - almost to a tee - recently happened to us. I had been fuming about it, but just today made peace with the situation. No resolution with the friends, mind you, but I have peace of mind, at least. I hope you can find some peace, too, especially so that you can explain it to the kids and help them understand it.

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Gaye-C sounds great! Why didn't you see a long term with him? I can't remember.

 
Seriously, me neither!
Me, either! ROTFLMAO.gif

Seriously, the more time I spend with him, the more I like him. It's been so nice that he was actually in town last week and this week, and I had the weekends off to spend some time with him and get to know each other better. I really like him. All my friends and coworkers keep telling me how much I smile when I talk about him. innocent.gif

jaygee~ greensad.gif I can't believe your DD had four hours of homework on a weeknight. That's crazy!

rm~Hope DS's surgery went well.

One more night of work here. I hope. I'm on call tomorrow night, but really hopeful I won't get called in. Staffing numbers look good, and while we're busier than we were over the weekend, it's not crazy like it has been. fingersx.gif I have a LOT of stuff to do before my flight Friday morning, and having Halloween Thursday night is not helping matters!
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I'm sorry, I was being cheeky about the altitude, I really didnt mean to offend redface.gif

RM - goodvibes.gif on ds' recovery. I dont know what its about either but I hope its not serious

NRR: I think i finished the IRB application joy.gif Only took 2 months bag.gif

Tonight dh told me something DD1 said to him today. He took the older two on a mtn. bike ride, and he was changing his shirt at the trail-head and DD1 says "you know what's funny? Yours and mommy's boobies are the same size" ROTFLMAO.gifROTFLMAO.gif

This after Dh tells me about the enormously long hair he pulled out of his ear tonight ROTFLMAO.gif (I told him that's even more reason to get on the fish oil - which I regaled/harassed him about tonight b/c of a NPR report about a study showing it lengthes telomeers - I told him fish oil would make the hairs in his ears recede and come out of his head lol.gif) It's a hoot around here tonight

So we're calling the personal trainer and the cosmetic surgeon in the morning ...orngtongue.gif
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1jooj--hopefully you will be where you want to be physically by December. I'm hoping to deal with my poochy stomach by then too!

JayGee--is DD1 in high school now? I can't remember. The friend thing sounds awful, though I hope it leads to better, stronger, more positive relationships with better girls in the next few months.

tjsmama--how sweet!

RM--hope the surgery went well.

Pics from Saturday's half-mary:

A crazed Minnie Mouse jumps into this man's otherwise good picture. lol.gif This was barely a mile into the race, downhill and wicked fast. I passed all of these people. orngtongue.gif
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Right around mile 12:
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The finish line!
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These are the best race photos I've ever taken while running a PR. Apparently I need to run as Minnie Mouse (who always smiles) if I want good photos. Also, I should have used fabric paint for the polka dots on the top. I used shoe polish and it was ok but not great. Also, R reports that my shirt smells like shoe polish. Oops.
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Real, love.gif those pics!
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JayGee--is DD1 in high school now? I can't remember. The friend thing sounds awful, though I hope it leads to better, stronger, more positive relationships with better girls in the next few months.
That's the crazy part, Real. She's 9 and in 4th grade eyesroll.gif! Awesome pics, by the way. Go Minnie!!!

tjsmama - you sound way more excited about C than you ever did about J orngbiggrin.gif!

sparkle - Yay for the finished IRB! Too funny about your DS's comment!

NRR - DS is 12 years old today joy.gif! I am amazed that I have a 12 year old, and that it's been that long since I brought home that screaming, crying, nursing-all-night baby boy. He's turned into quite the wonderful kid. DH decided that every 12 year old needs a cellphone (actually an iPhone 5S which will be the first smartphone in our family). I disagreed, but DH already bought it eyesroll.gif.
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Sorry I thought I had mentioned it but guess not, lol.  Ds2 has this thumb nail that went wonky about 4 years ago and we have seen all kinds of docs and all kinds of treatments, testing and surgical removal last year and the darn thing keeps coming back!  It's like a horse hoof material, seriously.  It is so thick (think half inch high off of finger) that it put pressure on the bone under it to cause it to start growing curving up toward coming out of the top of the thumb! They had to cut down the bone last year.  So yesterday they removed the nail and the nail growth plate part and took a skin graph from his inner arm to place full skin thickness of top of the thumb that we hope will never be able to grow a nail again!

 

RR: none yet, was at the surgery center for 6 hours yesterday that I didn't expect and it's almost an hour drive each way.  Then an hour wait at pharmacy for pain meds for ds2.

 

My RP for the marathon, her MIL is on her death bed this week so she is drained in every which way.  Her and her husband are both respiratory therapists and switch days of working 12 hour shifts, have three kids and drive an hour to the hospital to sit with MIL.  She said she is running the marathon with me though.  WE will both be drained (getting up all hours of the night for pain meds and this weeks crazy schedule for both me and my dh are wearing me out).

 

NRR: see above.  :)

 

Jo~you always amaze me at how quickly and seemingly seamlessly you can get your family across the world and right back into life without missing a beat.  :Bow

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Real, you do look fabulous in your race picks. Maybe you were just meant to run as Minnie Mouse. Like, all the time. Seriously.

 

JayGee, I AM that crazy woman laughing with headphones in. Some people find it amusing. And I think a lot of people think I am on the phone. Sad about the girl stuff. I am always amazed at how much drama there can be. Sometimes all it takes is three girls. And meh on the cell phone. Of course my kids have smartphones, but cheaper ones, and no data plan. They use them on wifi at home and otherwise as normal phones. I let them walk alone a bit here, and whenever we separate they have to have the phone. It gives me no sense of security, except that they have a phone. But if I am out and they are home, dd likes to Whatsapp me.

 

RM, wow. I hope ds's thumb heals painlessly and perfectly this time. And no, far from seamlessly, ha! But kids are amazingly resilient. I hope the recovery goes better than expected and you get the sleep you need. Good luck, mama!

 

My kids are still doing school now (7PM) , after our beach club visit this afternoon. They swam and played in the pool for an hour, and I just could not pull them out to work on writing, especially in the heat. Then they wanted to swim out to the raft the hotel has anchored out in the Gulf. How could I say no? So now, they write, and attend online lessons.

 

I walked about 5 miles this morning with a little running in the first half. Yoga in an hour. I canceled the art/culture workshop. I'd forgotten it's F1 here this weekend, which means concerts on the beach, lots of celebs around (most are def not A-list, though), and serious traffic and parking issues. So it's better I not attempt to get to the island that's between ours and the one with the F1 circuit, right? duh.gif So...yeah. I guess Ludacris and Ciara? And it's free? Anyway, maybe we'll go see some of the Arabic singers, or some other cross-cultural thing.

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RM - awesome pictures! You look so happy and cute and fast orngbiggrin.gif

JG - That just sucks about DD1. I too had to look at her birthdate in your sig to check age wrt that kind of peer behavior. Ugh. It would be hard for me to stand by and let her navigate that without myself confronting the mom(s) to just put the cards on the table. I hate all the duplicity and obfuscation of it. I am such a call-it-like-you-see-it kind of person, not in a rude or confrontational way, just a clear the air and get on with life kind of way, but I think others can take that badly redface.gif I am already dreading when this starts to happen more with my kids, just watching them get hurt and not be able to fix it hug.gif

NRR (might as well skip the "RR" for now eyesroll.gif):

I had an interesting realization this week (that might resonate with you Nic, I dont know). I started streaming the show Parenthood on Netflix last month (which I found a relief from the depression/anxiety - embarrassing, but I'd curl up in bed at night with my computer and watch an episode and it made me feel a little better). Anyway, one of the children in the show has Aspbergers (I dont know if the actor does, but the character does, and he is based on one of the writers children). The show has been lauded for its accuracy, bla blabla. So there have been several times where Dh and I have given each other a sideways look when the character does something, b/c he reminds us SO much of DS (Dh doesnt watch it with me often b/c he goes to work at that time usually). As Ive made my way through seasons and the kid has grown from 6-11 (or so), there have been more resonant things. Two nights ago there was a scene where he gets in an argument with his parents and literally the entire thing was exactly the kind of arguments we have with DS. Dh and I really think he has some very very mild version, which amounts to meaning nothing, bc we already do all the things you're supposed to, and also bc he doesnt fit in many ways. I said to Dh, "even if that's true, it doesnt mean anything", and he said "yeah, but it makes me feel more patient with him about needing reminding about basic behavioral things", which is true.

The reason it really struck me is bc DS has had a cluster of weird characteristics his whole life, from sensory to obsessiveness, to lack of empathy, to high intellect, to having real difficulty with any change of routine, which have never been severe, but certainly have had an impact on us as parents/the way we parent him, and on his sisters. So to have all these dots connect in this way makes me strangely happy. I guess its like Dh said; I feel more forgiving of him and understand him more and feel more prepared with parenting tools.

I definitely chafe at the inclination to pathologize everything these days, and he would definitely be on the normal end of the scale, but it does answer a lot and feel like a big relief.

Do I sound like a j-a? maybe
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Sparkle, I would think the understanding helps immensely! It's not about changing him, but understanding what is going on. Isn't that true of all of our interpersonal relationships - we can't empathize unless we understand the person a bit. So I can totally understand your relief.

 

RM: Oh my gosh, you are so cute!! I love the race pics!

Here's hoping that this procedure is the one that does the trick! What a strange thing fingernails are! My FIL has a tiny bit of fingernail that grows on the inside of his pinky finger and it drives him nuts. I can only imagine how much worse that thumbnail was. Let's hope the skin graft does the trick. And so sorry for your RP :(

 

Jo: Sounds like the kids are settling in? Fun weekend ahead! Sure, I would go see that show if it was free - not really my style of music, but hey!

 

JG: Happy b-day to your DS! Have a fun day of it. Wow, I am so not telling my kids what your DS is getting for his birthday. We just got DD a non-smart phone, and I'm hoping to hold off on another smartphone for at least 2 more years. fingersx.gif

 

Nerves before the big race. I can't believe I'm flying to NYC the day after tomorrow. uhoh3.gif

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Woot, Gaye, good luck! (and awesome flowers! :p)

 

So much to say, so little brain cell power. 

 

New mantra: G-d preserve me from other teachers on ego-power-trips with their panties in a wad. Sigh.

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Melissa and Gaye, I'm getting so excited for you!!! joy.gif

RM, how odd about the nail. I sure hope this works bc I'd find it so annoying, too.

Sparkle, I think I may need to put Parenthood in my queue.

Jo, glad you're settling into a workout and school routine again.

RR: swimming tomorrow if it's not raining too hard. I don't mind driving in rain but it's an hour-long windy country road drive with semis that fly on it like it's the interstate. So, fingersx.gif that I can make the drive. Then I can swim plus I have counseling scheduled. fingersx.gif twice.
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real~Love the pics! They're great! My pics from RnR Denver were actually some of the best running pictures I've ever had, but I can't bring myself to pay for them for no good reason other than that they're decent running pics. It's not like it was a special race of some sort, beyond being on my birthday and almost a PR. orngtongue.gif

jaygee~birthday.gif to your DS!

rm~Hope your DS's recovery is going well.

My work week is (hopefully) done. I got cancelled for the first four hours of my call and the charge nurse said to call in at 11 and she might be able to cancel the rest. It's looking pretty good...they would have to call in two other people before me. Last night was a pretty slow night at work, which is both good and bad. It was nice to have a kind of chill night, but it also kind of dragged.

I did get a start on my packing list and laying out my clothes to pack today, so that's something. I need to run a couple of errands tomorrow and pick up a few things like travel-size toothpaste and deodorant. I've got two different skirts and three tops (a singlet, a short sleeve, and a long sleeve)...wondering how many other race day options I should bring, lol!

Tomorrow is going to be jam packed...and then it's time to leave on Friday. Eek!
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sparkle--we've had similar conversations here. And I think it helps to think about it that way too. As we've discussed, DH has many of those characteristics and while he's not there, he's not far from it. Maybe the ideal is to just appreciate the person but that doesn't work for me. When one day can be full of typical interactions and the next day my spouse is hyper-defensive, sensory, anxious and difficult to communicate with, my reaction is "who are you and what did you do with my husband?" That's when it's most helpful to have a way to think about what's going on without feeling like it's personal--especially because at that time he blames everything on the "fact" that I'm a mean, mean person who exists solely to make him the most unhappy person on earth. Mind you, the theory is good but more often than not, even the knowledge of what's going on isn't enough to allow us to peaceful navigate those issues. (ETA: I blame our Chinese horoscopes. I'm a Tiger, he's a Rat, and much of what they say is spot-on.)

RM--I hope this last surgery takes care of that issue. How miserable!

JayGee--ugh. I forgot--she's just a little older than R, which makes the homework stuff crazy. R would be a basket case if she wasn't in bed until after 10 and had to be in school the next day.

lofty--have a good swim tomorrow. goodvibes.gif

tjsmama--yeah, I struggle to justify paying for race pics anymore unless they're really cheap. Happily, these downloads were free!! I may do this race for many years to come based on that alone. Good luck with everything between now and when your plane leaves!

1jooj--hope you're able to get to some of the concert. It sounds fun, at least as long as it isn't too crowded or loud.

RR: 4 plus 6 minutes on the stair machine. It's a real one too, looking a bit like a tiny little escalator.
Edited by Realrellim - 10/30/13 at 10:13pm
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Sparkle and Real...for sure. I have often thought about this, for dh and ds. Like you, they're not 'all the way there' so to speak but some of the behaviors and personality quirks are certainly reflective of that tendency. Not that I know what to do about that, precisely. shrug.gif

 

SOX!!!!!

 

Ok, got that out of my system. Ha. Safe travels Gaye!!! 

 

RR: 6 this morning in a thick fog. The fog did weird things to the lights and it was definitely Halloween spooky, that's for sure. Oh, and...my graceful self nearly got hit by a non-moving car (i.e. I almost ran smack into a parked car that was cloaked behind a giant pile of leaves). Sigh. Graceful, not so much.

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