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post #41 of 2728
Whoa you need to take it way easier on yourself! 9 months on, 9 months off is normal and healthy. Don't put too much pressure on yourself, you JUST had a baby.
post #42 of 2728
I'm only freaking out because I'm supposed to wear jeans! And of course I automatically assumed my current ones would fit, minus my muffin top. I didn't realize my thighs/ass got bigger.
post #43 of 2728

Nicole, It's NEVER, EVER, EVER a good idea to try on pre-pregnancy jeans 2 weeks after having a baby.  I couldn't even pull mine up to my knees!  Just wear the khakis and they'll have to be flexible, they are hiring you willing RIGHT AFTER you had a baby.  It'll be fine.

 

Well, Kevin SEEMS okay, but he tends to put on a happy face for people.  He's not a person that likes to inconvenience anyone with his despair.   My mom is going to take tomorrow off from work and make sure that he does something fun to take his mind off off it.  It's so much more complicated than just having a dog die, since he's got a serious depression issue where he binge drinks until near death (but doesn't drink any other time).  It's a bizarre complicated problem.  Sigh, it's a crappy day at our house too.

post #44 of 2728
That's so hard about your current situation, Ash. Ugh. I can't believe your DH has to work for free. It blows.

Abra, I'm so sorry to hear about Barbara, and the complicated family situation.

I can't remember who's s hugger and who isn't, but my arms are out, the hug is yours if you want it.
post #45 of 2728
Ash, do those pay better than stripping? For real, though, if you apply for emergency food assistance, with an income of zero, you should be able within a week to at least know that your kids will be fed.

Nicole, I think if you remind them of the recent birth, they will be cool with scrubs or khakis. I would probably opt for whichever scrubs look most like jeans (dark blue in my house). I totally carried my last pregnancy in my thighs, too.

Abra, good luck with that mental health situation.

Of course Mal's not a catfish. Y'all must be sending the wrong snaps, I saw her face last week. Lol, the only snapper's face I haven't seen is Sonja. Hmm, I'm breaking my own don't/ ask don't tell snap policy.
post #46 of 2728
Ash, I'm sorry about the situation with your dh's job. greensad.gif Hugs to you. I hope you can figure something out. Thinking of you.

Abra, so sorry about your dog and your mom's boyfriend's situation. Hugs to you, too.

Nicole, good luck today!!!
post #47 of 2728
Can you apply for food stamps right now? I thought everything was on hold... Like, current people will still get it but no one new can. Same with unemployment. Maybe I'm wrong.
post #48 of 2728
Thread Starter 

Good luck Nicole!  Let us know how it goes!!

 

Abra, how are you doing this morning?

 

Ash, how are you doing today?

 

Austin woke me up at 5:30 and after I put him back to bed, Avery woke up at 5:40.  Way too early this morning!

post #49 of 2728
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Can you apply for food stamps right now? I thought everything was on hold... Like, current people will still get it but no one new can. Same with unemployment. Maybe I'm wrong.

Everything I'm reading online says SNAP yes, WIC no. Even if it's a no right now, 30 days after the government comes back up is a long time without pay. It's not the first weeks that are the worst without money, it's the last. And I'm going to repeat, emergency assistance. To just straight up apply for food assistance, you will starve before you see a dime if you're already in crisis.
post #50 of 2728
Ash- what a stressful situation. I hope there's a resolution soon. Can you apply for food aid like Sara suggested?
Abra-I'm so sorry about your dog. Is your mom's boyfriend getting any help?
Nicole-good luck today. I'm amazed at how you're up and doing so much so soon after having Layla.

I have had a hard time connecting with other moms at groups here. The one I've gone to a few times, it does seem like there's very little in common. We don't seem to share parenting philosophies and a lot of the moms are or seem so young (yep, now I do sound like an old lady at my ripe old age of 35).

I know I missed people, I usually do since I have such a hard time keeping up despite reading multiple times a day. I'm already at 11 weeks this week and feeling better. I get my genetic screening done and the results next week. Cause you know, Im at that dreaded advanced maternal age. Can't wait to go on vacation next week, I feel like I've really earned it. I have some very stressful stuff at work going on and I will be relieved when that's done.
Hugs to all of you that accept them and good thoughts to all (even if you've never seen my face).
post #51 of 2728
Thread Starter 

Hey Amber!  Good to hear from you!  Wow, 11 weeks!  That must feel pretty good... to be coming out of the depths of the first trimester.  Where are you going on vacation?

post #52 of 2728

I was supposed to leave for work 15 minutes ago but DH still hasn't gotten home from work yet. Odd... He usually texts me if he's running late... Well, good thing I'm salaried. If my boss gives me grief for showing up late, whatevs.

 

Sora is wearing a t-shirt two sizes too big right now because I'm behind on laundry. Haha.

 

Abra, I'm so so sorry about your dog. That is heartbreaking. :( I hope your mom's boyfriend can find a resolution for his situation. I feel for him.

 

Ash, I can't believe your DH has to work still but without pay. I'd be pissed. Wow. I hope you guys can find a way to make it work financially in the meantime!

 

Jaimee, Sora walked into a door this morning. I thought of you.

 

Nicole, good luck today!

 

Sonja, I hope you're staying dry today.

 

Amber, good luck on the fetal screening!

 

Sorry if I missed anyone. Now I'm really freaking out that DH hasn't contacted me yet. *going to make a phone call*

post #53 of 2728
Nevermind, DH is fine. Whew. He got blindsided by an unscheduled yearly eval his boss called him in for right as he was leaving work. Eesh. Good news is he's getting a 3% raise! I'm so thankful! (I feel bad sharing good news like that right now... I hope I'm not being insensitive.)
post #54 of 2728
Joanie, I'm glad everything is ok.

Amber, it's funny, when I was young, all the moms were old, now that I'm old, they're all young. Good luck with your screenings.
post #55 of 2728
Here goes nothing. I'll check in on my lunch break...
post #56 of 2728
Thread Starter 

Yay for good news, Joanie!  LOL, I'm glad I'll forever be associated with running into doors...

post #57 of 2728
Morning all smile.gif

Another rainy day in paradise ... Sigh

Been awake for a bit but it is so cold, don't want to sit here alone, would much rather be curled up in bed but laundry needs doing, otherwise dh has no scrubs to wear to work after his days off. Eli is out of pants because I let him walk in the rain a few times because he insisted and the pants are muddy. Right bout now I wish I had a washer and dryer up here so I could just do laundry whenever I had to.

I must be tired my spelling is bad and auto correct is making no sense of what I am trying to say lol. Anniversary dinner tonight, hoping it clears up because it is a restaurant on top of a hotel that has a view of the entire downtown including the harbour smile.gif. I am excited. The food is good... We squirrelled some money away a while ago so we could eat there. There is no way we could do it otherwise... We have no money left till next pay day ... I hope the rent cheque clears ... Story of our lives.

Ash, sorry to Hear about your current situation. I agree with trying to find some assistance. That sucks buckets...

Abra - sorry about your dog and the tough family issues.

Joanie, yay for raises! And I am glad your dh made it home safe! I worry too if dh is late...

Amber, glad to hear the pregnancy is going well... Hope the results are good.

Nicole, good luck! What kind of job do you do again? I am sure I knew at one point.

Sorry if it missed anyone! Oh Sara, I m real, but I am struggling with hormone induced acne (chin/jaw line) and pictures of myself are a no go. My hormones are all over the place, I am not sure what is going on. My bongos (auto corrected from boobs lol, I am keeping it!) suddenly felt fuller too, up til now they have been feeling saggy post weaning. Weird. It's never been this bad... I am too old to have to deal with acne...
post #58 of 2728

Joanie.  It's okay to share good news, yay for the raise!  That means now you can quit this full time job and make 22 more babies, right?  ;)

 

Good luck Nicole.  Is Layla taking a bottle yet, or are you just hoping for the best today?

 

Amber, I have a feeling that the right people are out there if you keep looking.  That, or you could always start an AP playgroup yourself.  I used to run and host a play group in Oregon, it was fairly simple really.  Good luck with the testing today.

 

From what the mama's here were saying (their dh's are all in law enforcement), they can not apply for any aid whatsoever.  I suppose they might be able to go to a food bank or something (if that's even available here), but I don't know that for sure.  Since they actually DO have a job and will be repaid for this unpaid time eventually, it doesn't count as not being paid.  This is why Dave Ramsey says to have 3-6 months of living expenses, because you just never know.  A lot of good, hard working people are really stressed out right now.

 

Well, my mom took the day off to go to Palm Spring with Kevin and do some shopping.  It's mostly to get him out of the house to do something interesting and keep his mind occupied.  He's getting the most help that he can, as there are literally no places here to see a therapist or get any long term decent care.  There is only an emergency mental health clinic where people can get their meds refilled every other week.  He has a cyclical depression issue (every 3-6mo) where he falls into a bad depression, then buys a huge bottle of vodka and drives out into the middle of the desert and drinks until he's nearly dead.  He doesn't bring food, water, a blanket, anything.  One time he was in such bad shape when he was found that he was medi-vac'd(sp) in a helicopter 110 miles to the next major town and he nearly died.  The last time he did this he was gone for a week and everyone was sure he was dead.  He's such a likable person besides this, it's just so odd!  He's currently taking a medication that makes him violently ill if he drinks, which does keep him from drinking, but it doesn't stop a depressive cycle.  He's tried antidepressants in the past, but really didn't like them.  Sigh...

post #59 of 2728

Sonja, Could you be pregnant???

post #60 of 2728
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From what the mama's here were saying (their dh's are all in law enforcement), they can not apply for any aid whatsoever.  I suppose they might be able to go to a food bank or something (if that's even available here), but I don't know that for sure.  Since they actually DO have a job and will be repaid for this unpaid time eventually, it doesn't count as not being paid.  This is why Dave Ramsey says to have 3-6 months of living expenses, because you just never know.  A lot of good, hard working people are really stressed out right now.

 

 

Yes, this is the case for exempt employees.  Someday, probably, eventually, we will get our money back so we cannot apply for assistance.  I looked around last night, and there is an energy assistance program I can apply for next month if we still aren't getting paid, and it will pay our electric bill.  And if I had to I could go to the food bank.  I could check into emergency food assistance after a while, but if they calculate last months income we wouldn't qualify because my DH actually got 8 hours of overtime.  It might be different when we have had 0 income for a month.  I honestly have no idea.

We did have savings, but you have to keep in mind DoD employees have been at 70% pay for almost 4 months, and we have been using savings to fill that gap.  Most people have nothing left. 

 

Thank you for being such a supportive group.  I generally try not to complain here because any problems I have are pretty petty.  But this is big.  Last night I was at the point where I had 3.5 hours sleep since Monday morning and still couldn't sleep because I was stressed.  So I took a sleeping pill at like, midnight.

 

Joanie you never have to apologize for something good happening!  Thats fantastic DH got a raise. 

 

Sonja, the boob the is suspicious.  They do tend to firm up a while after you quit nursing, though.

 

Amber, where are you going on vacation?

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