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october chat thread!

post #1 of 88
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hey mamas! i'm carrying our chat onto this thread. 

-breastfeeding!

-AF (this term kills me)

-planning for time change if applicable

-milestones/what is your baby doing now

 

 

teles, my boobs are always full it seems, and naomi eats all the time. i donated the last of my frozen milk so i had to buy more storage bags, so i'm going to start pumping again. hope your tatas feel better!

 

no period yet for me. i've had cramps and such but fleeting.

 

naomi goes down for bed around 7pm, and doesn't sleep without me which means i'm also in bed at 7pm. i am not about to go to bed at 6 with the time change. not happening. i got this from a mama in my local club this morning:

 

Clearly Benjamin Franklin was not very involved in the daily care of his young children. Otherwise he never would have come up with the crazy idea of changing the time on the clocks twice a year. One of those times is upon us again. Daylight savings ends Sunday November 3rd at 2:00am
 
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When you're young this is the best night of the year. You get an extra hour of sleep. 
 
If you are the parent of an infant or young child, it just means getting out of bed an hour earlier. Young childrens' circadian rhythms don’t change because the clocks do. The time change just moves your child’s entire schedule up an hour. While the rest of the world plugs along at a the new time. The 9am class you usually go to, is now when baby takes what use to be a 10am nap. This can create a huge blip in schedule for weeks where everyone is just a little, or a lot, off.
 
If you want to avoid the possible crankiness and chaos the time change can bring there are a few simple steps you can take.
 
Evaluate your current sleep situation:
Is baby going to bed to early, too late or at the perfect time? Are nap times at a time that works for you? Could a little shift in the time make your day flow better? If your child’s sleep schedule could use a little tweaking, the time change can be just the thing to get you on track. You are wanting baby to go to bed earlier. Do nothing and on November 3rd -POOF- bedtime is an hour earlier. 
 
Move bedtime later:
Start now by moving bedtime later in 15 min increments every 4-7 days. This will allow the bedtime and wake up time to adjust. You want to move slow to allow the the morning wake up move later too. Moving the bedtime an hour later all at once will just remove an hour of night sleep. Start now and take it slow. When the clocks change, bedtime will be right where it was before. Minus the frustration or loss of sleep.
 
Nap:
In the fall, with shorter days and cooler temperatures our bodies want to sleep more. Your toddler may want to add an evening cat nap. Your infant may start to sleep later in the morning. While more sleep is never a bad thing, you want to watch for too much day time sleep. This can cause your infant or toddler to be restless or even awake in the wee hours of the morning. 
 
Spend timeout Outside:
Even with the cooler temperatures it is still very important for your child to spend time outside everyday. The exposure to sun and fresh air is what resets the sleep cycles each day. Bundle up and go to the park or take a walk, it does wonders for good sleep.
 
If you want more help with ways to get ready for the time change stop by for a Sleep Group or Schedule a Private Consultation.
post #2 of 88

Interesting-- thanks, KB!  Miss L has recently shifted her bedtime a little later...  She started out around 12:30-1:30 am (not as bad as it sounds since DH and I are night owls) and slowly, slowly, made it to 6:30-7:30 pm.  But the last week or so, it's been more like 8 pm.  Hope that makes DST a little easier for us.

 

Breastfeeding-- My right nipple is SO sore!  And has been for more than a week.  What I thought might be a milk blister... I can see milk coming out of it when I squeeze.  There's no other obvious issue, visually, nor is it thrush, nor is it on both sides.  I'm stumped.  Anyone?!

 

Otherwise, BFing is going pretty well, and I'm so glad I waited out the first 6-8 weeks, which were easily the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life, especially physically, but psychologically, too. 

 

AF-- I think I've already gotten 3 periods, and my next is due any day if the pattern continues, even though I'm seriously doing everything 100% "right."  Oh, well.  Interestingly enough, if the pattern continues, my cycles will be around 28 days with a decent luteal phase-- when I was TTC (and before I was on BC), they were always 32-35 days with a short LF.  Could pregnancy/birth have made me even MORE fertile?

 

Milestones-- 7 months old today.  She's just *starting* to say Dada, which makes 3 words (maybe), 6 teeth, very prominent, but not crawling yet.  Seems more interested in "walking" while holding on to our fingers, which we don't encourage, but what can you do?  Can't get into a sit yet, though she's getting close and does sit well unassisted if you put her in it.  She can get into a sit with slight assistance, but I'm hoping she figures out another way on her own, because the way we do it with assistance isn't the most natural, unfortunately (it would be extreme Pilates if she could do it on her own).  Whoops.  She is pretty good at turning and twisting, though-- whether seated or standing, she can twist 180 if she wants to.  IDK-- what are the other milestones for this age?  She's very social and says "Hi" to everyone. Her pincer grip is almost there.

post #3 of 88
Thanks for those tips KellyBeth! I'm going to consider doing the 15 min increment thing if I can. I definitely don't want to be up any earlier - she is usually up between 6-7 am as it is.

Breastfeeding - going well I think. She's not on much solids yet so I am going to try introducing a few again soon I think. Last time it just seemed to bother her tummy a bit. I always get really sore nipples when she has teeth erupting. Not sure if its the acid or the way she nurses but I've noticed that pattern. Right now I'm ok but she's starting to get really fussy and chewy again after just getting four top teeth. Poor thing can't catch a break! She's gnawing on her back gums too so I don't know if molars are making an early appearance or if its just referred pain ( she still needs her second set of bottom teeth).

Anyways. No AF here !

She's getting very strong with pulling herself along the floor. I don't think it will be long before she's crawling. She's got the beginnings of a great combat crawl!
post #4 of 88

Hi Ladies-

 

No AF here either, but didnt return till 13 months with DD1 and 15 months with DD2.  Not expecting her till at least 12 months this time and wouldn't be surprised if she stayed away till 17 or 18 months.

 

Nursing is going well.  DS is not eating any solids, so still full on nursing.  He was sick for 2 weeks and was either not nursing at all, or nursing all the time, I had a drop in supply when he stopped nursing, but I think we are doing better again.  He is still gaining, so that is good.  He has been nursing every 30 minutes to 1.5 hours at night.... makes for one tired mama.  he is also biting quite a bit, making me scared to nurse at night....so i wake up fully for all night nursing.  hope it passes soon.

 

DS is a mover and shaker (he will be 8 months on the 9th).... he has been crawling and pulling up like crazy for a little over a month.  He is even cruising a little.  Both girls crawled early and walked late, so he may wait till 14 months to walk too.  He has 7 teeth and seems like he is working on a few more. He doesn't wave or really talk at all except to so ma for anything to do with me (milk, up, mama, etc).  He was saying da for a while, but I don't think it was to dh or anything, he doesn't really say it much anymore either.  He loves to babble still though.   I feel a little bad that he really is just along for the ride most of the time.  I am not doing much reading just to him or talking directly to him about things.... he just sees what I talk to the girls about and is in my lap for long books.  

 

DH and I are each taking one of the girls on a date this weekend (I will have DS).  I am excited and we have been meaning to do special time with each of them.  

 

What is everyone thinking about baby spacing now that the kids are getting just a little bigger. I am still wanting another, while DH seems firm that he is happy with the 3.  

post #5 of 88
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Otherwise, BFing is going pretty well, and I'm so glad I waited out the first 6-8 weeks, which were easily the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life, especially physically, but psychologically, too. 

 

Absolutely my experience too...those first weeks were shockingly hard, but so worth it. I told my husband I thought the early BFing pain was worse than my natural labor, But I don't think he believed me. :-)

 

Kellybeth, thank you for posting that info about the time change and baby bed time. To be honest, I hadn't even though about it yet. 

 

No AF here nor any sign of her return, and I am super cool with that. 

 

I have a question for those more experienced - I have recently started working part time again. My son is just about 7 months old, and I felt that at this stage He'd be okay with being away from mama for a couple hours a day. It's really no more than that, but he just cries and cries while I'm gone. It's so incredibly heartbreaking. The second I pick him back up, he's fine, so I'm pretty sure it's nothing else that's going on. Any suggestions to ease this? Does this sound typical for a 7 month old? 

 

I absolutely love being his mom full time, but I have also relished the chance to step back into my profession and exercise that other part of my brain. 

 

For some reason the change to Fall weather has been making me think of this time last year, being newly-ish pregnant for the first time. It was right around the beginning of October that we found out we were having a boy. I think back on that time really fondly, especially now that he's actually here. 

post #6 of 88
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For some reason the change to Fall weather has been making me think of this time last year, being newly-ish pregnant for the first time. It was right around the beginning of October that we found out we were having a boy. I think back on that time really fondly, especially now that he's actually here. 

i have one of those 5 year journals where you write a little every day, and i love to look back and see what i was doing this day 1 or 2 years ago. i cried when i read what i wrote about finding out the gender. two years ago all i wrote was "made cookies." the journaling while pregnant was much more epic/emotional/scattered/vulnerable, but two years ago.. wow. who knew i'd be pregnant the next. still blows my mind. 

 

as for thinking about having another baby, i have been so scared of having another, was quite content with having one child, but i would like another baby. mostly when i reflect on how big she has gotten, pack up her small clothes or look at her infant pictures my heart aches. my baby girl!

post #7 of 88
The vague plan here has always been to wait until she's about 3 to even TTC. Right now I am thinking that sounds fine... If I even decide I ever want another one. And I'm extremely happy and not having a particularly hard time or anything... I'm just not one to commit to even the idea of having a kid before I'm positive I'm ready (ya think?). All I know is I'm not even close to ready to consider getting pregnant again... Like I can guarantee you, not in the next year (not on purpose anyway).
post #8 of 88

Hey mamas! I didn't even think of the time change coming up. That's always been a weird adjustment for the older dudes, so I hope it's as painless as possible for the little one.

 

I haven't gotten a period yet, but I'm expecting it sooner again this time. With DS1 it was 15 months (caught the egg) and with DS2 it was 11 months. We've started using condoms just in case.

 

Dia, I wish I had advice for you. I've been applying to jobs and will most likely be putting Lou in daycare soon part-time. I didn't do that with my older kids, so this will be new territory for me. Hopefully someone will chime in about how to alleviate baby's separation anxiety. I also really need to use the other part of my brain :).

post #9 of 88
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It's almost 3am and it's been a rough night. Naomi hasn't slept much at all. She has phlegm in the back of her throat and can't figure out how to cough productively. So I jumped in the shower with her to try to loosen things up. It helped a little but we are both so tired.
Gonna give her a nice massage and make an elderberry-banana mash for her this morning.
The mucous seems to have cleared up a bit after the steam shower and us if the nose Frieda.
Poor baby.
Edited by kellybeth - 10/3/13 at 5:52am
post #10 of 88

Aww...  I hope Naomi gets better soon, KB.  Wonder if it could be allergies?  My mold allergies act up this time every year.

post #11 of 88

-breastfeeding!

 

We are still EBF. I'm thinking of starting solids again at 7 months and will see how he does with that. I'm not looking forward to having to be on top of a whole other food schedule. I have enough trouble organizing my own! On another note I've been feeling really really exhausted lately and decided that I need to fortify like I did when I started breast feeding. I'm upping my calories (getting too thin again) and added some extra stuff to my smoothies. 

 

-AF 

 

No Aunt Flo here. But then we're EBF and I'm thinking we'll probably be doing a pretty high milk/food ratio till one year. Hoping that keeps me period free longer. ;)

 

-planning for time change if applicable

 

We have no really solid schedule at the moment and the earliest thing I try to drag us out for is at 10am. I think we'll just go with the flow here and see what happens.

 

-milestones/what is your baby doing now

 

So fun! I LOVE this 6 month stage. This easy-going, laughing, babbling little cherub is just melting every heart in his path. He's just a joy to take places with us. We took him to another concert a week ago. It was a later night 8-10pm at an adult venue but they let us in and he was just silently fixated on the music and stage the whole time. So wonderful to still be able to get out and see music -- though we do folk and classical stuff to spare those little ears. Anyway milestones... here they are:

-Crawling forwards (he's been doing backwards for a while now)

-Pulling himself up to standing

-On all fours like downward facing dog

-Saying "Hi" and "Hey" in the context of getting people's attention

-Independant play. Sitting just playing on his own for really long stretches

-Car rides are finally OK. We did another 10 hour road trip last week and it was night and day compared to our last one. He was very content to play and nap and take bottles at mealtimes. Only got grumpy in the evening when he wanted to actually nurse for the comfort so we pulled off the road for a while.

 

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Originally Posted by kellybeth View Post

It's almost 3am and it's been a rough night. Naomi hasn't slept much at all. She has phlegm in the back of her throat and can't figure out how to cough productively. So I jumped in the shower with her to try to loosen things up. It helped a little but we are both so tired.
Gonna give her a nice massage and make an elderberry-banana mash for her this morning.
The mucous seems to have cleared up a bit after the steam shower and us if the nose Frieda.
Poor baby.

 

Same stuff happening here. We just had our first cold. The last few nights he's been waking himself up with the congestion. It's too far up and not loose enough to suck out so we did some squirts of saline up his nose at bed time and turned on the hot shower to steam up our place and I diffused from eucalyptus oil. Seemed to help. I'm looking at some humidifier options.

post #12 of 88

breastfeeding- we both super love it. I used to listen with mild disinterest when my MIL, who breastfed all 6 of her kids, would talk about how "weird" it is to nurse past a year old. now that I'm an actual nursing mama, I'm kind of offended at and saddened by her stance. I'm really hoping for an extended breastfeeding relationship with Margot! if she's down, I'm down. Margot typically only has one "meal" a day, at dinnertime. I give her a bit of mashed sweet potato, which she loves, maybe a bit of oatmeal/breastmilk/cinnamon mixed in if I put more effort into it. she gets probiotics at dinner, too. mostly we're doing baby led weaning, but aren't opposed to purees if she likes them better or it works better for us parentals.

 

AF- haha. hate that term. flo. shudder! no sign of any return to my fertility. I'm glad for that. we practice fertility awareness, sans barrier methods, and I'd like to squeeze as much out of Margot's babyhood as possible before we have another. we're thinking, if we can hold off getting pregnant another three months or so, we'll be happy. an 18-24 month gap sounds about right for us.

 

planning for time change- wow, that sounds like a good idea. haha. we have an EARLY bird on our hands who loves to wake at 5 am and is fine with it. so... yeah. I'm gonna get on that whole 15 min increments thing. 

 

milestones- saying dada with purpose,sometimes mama. pulling up to her knees. waving. WHINING. my goodness, the whining. (and of course, the sound she makes when she whines is MAMAMAMAMAMA). stranger danger like whoa! down dogs all day every day. what else? she's really good at playing "independently" for a long time as long as I'm in sight and pay attention to her when she yells for me. 

 

KB, so sorry to hear about baby sickies. we just had a bout of cold and an ear infection right as she cut her first tooth. baths/showers, nosefrieda, we got an herbal Vicks type stuff to rub on her/us. kind of kept her propped up while she slept, too. that and a whole lotta love/patience helped keep us afloat. so hard to see sick babies and know there's not a lot to do but try to keep 'em comfy. hugs!

post #13 of 88

answered most of this thread yesterday but baseball came along and those w/ testosterone in my house erased it..... 

 

 

-breastfeeding!

 

Love it.  always love it.  now that i've figured out that for the first 4-5 months i should pump and share, then it's a cakewalk, i love it.  i love nursing at this age (sometimes the gymnastics get a little irritating) and plan on enjoying it to the end.  My mother also weaned all hers at 12 months and thinks anything beyond it is 'weird'- but i'm always weird.  hoping this guy goes PAST 18 months.  which is when 2 of my others weaned.  just passed off the last of my frozen breastmilk.  it's like the end of the newborn stage for sure.  

 

 

-AF (this term kills me)

 

yup- i cycle.  i ovulated and cycled just like i always do at this point.  here's for something new though- i've gotten pregnant w/ a 9 month old EBF, a 10 month old EBF and co-sleeping (she EBF'd til 14/15 months while i was pregnant, whooohooo), a 13 month old and a 15 month old.  this time i'm planning on taking longer between this one and another if there is another...... 5 kids 7 and under is a LOT.  i love babies.  i love nursing.  it's really hard to do things w/ older kids when nursing kids and napping kids need so much focus and time.  so here's for a new season when my babies get older before i get another one.  i'd also like to address some health issues and see how that all goes.  i have a great Dr who only works w/ Creighton Model clients, and already started some low-dose progesterone for PMS (which seemed to help a lot) and will be running lots of tests that no one else has ever wanted to run.  since i have an autoimmune disorder, but treat it so well at home, dr's have been notoriously useless for helping me out and figuring out how to actually heal/address problems.  I'm really excited to start cycling and see what we can heal!

 

-planning for time change if applicable

 

eh.  i never remember these things!

 

-milestones/what is your baby doing now

 

Waving at his daddy and saying 'Dada! dada!!!'- he talks to everyone, but this is repeatable and clear!  and he gets really excited about Dada- had a friend over yesterday and she saw him do this and was like 'whooooa- he just said Dada to daddy and WAVED.' - so i can report it now officially.  crawling, crawling up stairs.  cruising.  climbing in the dishwasher.  feeding himself sometimes, allowing himself to be fed at least 1x a day (applesauce, butternut squash), and basically being the most loving, adorable, snuggly, wonderful baby in creation.  he's also started to go to sleep solo in the pack-n-play from 10-12pm, sometimes as late as 2pm.  then back in my bed til morning.  last night he woke up and was attacking us both (draped passionately over my head, cracking up and eating my nose, flinging himself on his daddy) so daddy put him back in the pack-n-play and he went back to sleep til 8am.  i don't know when he was put down, but he seems to enjoy going to sleep solo.  right now he's napping in the pack-n-play while i mop and the kids are loudly doing homework outside the door where he's sleeping.  this is all new and we'll see where it leads!

 

i have a new niece and a new nephew and man, i'm at that stage when i LOVE  new babies.  agggggh!!!  i really really don't know how i can say i'm totally done when this little bug just loves and wants to hold and care for and nurse them all!!!  

 

that said, i like my PP body a lot right now.  it's not skinny, but it's comfortable and easy and i'm just in a phase when i'm pretty happy in general.  

 

must go put on my dress-up clothes and play house w/ my girls.

post #14 of 88
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quiet in here!

 

i'm sick now too. i feel poopy poop poop. i haven't been sick since way before i was even pregnant, like a couple years maybe. if that. i don't remember the last time i was sick. yuck!

naomi seems to be perking up, sleep is progressively getting better and she's not as snotty/congested as she was before. i feel so bad for her.

i made some sprouted lentil vegetable soup full of garlic and other good things and pulled an alicia silverstone and chewed it up for her. weird? 

 

i forgot to add milestones in mine. sidetracked with time change stuff.

 

she can crawl, pull herself up to standing and walk as long as she's holding onto something, yells out "mama!" for me, says "hey" and waves, and can successfully crawl up the stairs without falling. i have videos of all these things but they're on facebook. i wish you could see on here!

post #15 of 88
We could always start a private Facebook group so we could share more pic/videos etc? You can make groups that are private and secret so they aren't searchable and only members can see things that are posted. I can start one if others are interested!

Sorry you're sick KB. That soup sounds good!
post #16 of 88
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We could always start a private Facebook group so we could share more pic/videos etc? You can make groups that are private and secret so they aren't searchable and only members can see things that are posted. I can start one if others are interested!

Sorry you're sick KB. That soup sounds good!

 

that sounds pretty great, actually. i can look into it right now. i would just pm the link to anyone interested?

post #17 of 88
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okay mamas, i started a "secret" facebook group, so that the public can't even see who's in the group, let alone posts. i know a lot of us value our privacy so i figured this would be the best option. pm me for the link! :heartbeat 

post #18 of 88
Cool! Thanks KB!
post #19 of 88

Great!  Thanks kb!!!

post #20 of 88
Yay!
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