I feel huge. People don't comment much, though, but I am a bit of a recluse and when I do go out I stick to routine things, like our homeschool park days. When I go to church, that's when I get the most comments. Baby kicks a lot, and we felt it from the outside last week. Just once. I haven't caught it again yet. Baby must have been in just the right position.
I need a baby shower, even though this is my 5th, but I don't think I'll ask for one. I don't even know who would plan one for me. No family nearby. We got rid of everything. Our church does baby showers, but they are small and just for show, and generally after the baby is born on the day of the Baptism. (around 40 days old) My homeschool group wants to do something, but now I am not the only one due in my month- there are two others due days away from me! It's kind of amazing. So I'm focusing on collecting things second hand and making things.
Re: not showing, in a similar vein, I remember (esp. with my first and second) really disliking how people (other women, mostly) would dismiss my pregnancy when I wasn't past say 28 weeks. At LLL or out and about, at mom's groups and so on, they would just be like "Oh, not very far along then." as if I wasn't actually pregnant until I reached a certain point. Certainly when I was 36, 38, 40 weeks, I didn't treat newly expecting women that way. You're either pregnant or you're not, and no matter where you're at it's exciting!
For cloth diaper butt, I want to sew a bunch of these in a few sizes:
They are from Growing up Sew Liberated: http://www.amazon.com/Growing-Up-Sew-Liberated-Handmade/dp/1596681624