Hi ladies, I have a slighlty random question. If you heard the name Quinn (for a boy), would it bring up any negative connotations/similar words for you? It doesn't for me but it does for DW which is putting her right off the name even though I love it. Apparently in the UK quim means vagina, and she thought it would be weird 2 lesbians calling their son a name that was very similar! I'd never heard the word before coming to the UK and it wouldn't ever have occurred to me!
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Quinn. Love it. But if your partner has even a remotely negative connection, then chuck it.
That's our approach in general. As two queers in their 30's, we had a huge list of exes names to veto, plus a whack more really cool ones from friends/lovers/exes who had transitioned. Man, those folks who transition and get to pick new names picks REALLY GOOD ONES. In our group of peeps, anyway. By the time we got through all the vetoed names, we didn't have that many left, actually. That made it a bit easier.
Even if your kid has a name that is untouchable by bullies, then the bullies will just make one up and stick it on them anyway. Or you could be named after a girl who gets pig-blood dumped on her in a Stephen King book and give the bullies YEARS of fodder with very little effort.
that's funny about the people you know. I only know 2 gay guys (both called Steve), no trans people & a few lesbians! It's a very quiet community over here so 90% of my friends are straight. DW has no exes and I have 1 so it means we have a LOT of names to choose from!!! If only she wasn't so fussy though...
Hi all, I'm cautiously ready to join yall over here on the pregnancy thread. I got a BFP on Sunday at 11 DPO and then of course I obsessively took 5 more tests throughout the week. AF is officially 3 days late.
Quick question. What do yall think about trampoline jumping this early? I've read various things online from it's fine to absolutely not. DW and I are having our bday party tonight at the trampoline park. I'm leaning towards it's fine, but if anyone has any knowledge to share I would reconsider.
Granite: How are you? Cuddling a little one or waiting out the last few days of pregnancy?
We're at 37 weeks! We're getting closer to ready, but I hope we still have a couple of weeks. My wife is continuing to function amazingly well for being this pregnant, but of course she feels huge and can't sleep very well.
Hi to everyone else!
Liz: My EDD varies depending on what calculator is use. We'll go with July 8th because that is also our anniversary. We'll get an ultrasound in a few weeks to get a better guesstimate.
madronedew: I've read that it's okay to travel, I would talk to your doc and see what they say. We are planning to travel at some point for a big baby shower in DC so I'd love to hear what you find out.
I was also wondering what folks are thinking about childbirth classes. We went through a queer childbirth class for number 1. It was really good. I'm not really sure what to do about a childbirth class for #2. Part of me thinks we should do it since our roles are very different this time, and I think it could give me peace of mind and a potential community of queer folks expecting around the same time, but I also don't want to feel like I'm spending a lot of time and resources on repetitive information. And of course this time we will need to find child care for our little one!
granite - you must be getting VERY impatient!!!!!
Redrock - will update that, thanks.
Beastie- how are things with you?
I had a midwife appointment this week & got to hear the heartbeat for the first time which was pretty exciting. 2nd December for anomoly scan & to find out the sex, hopefully. I've had 7 dreams now about having a boy and none about a girl so it will be interesting to see. Also I found out I'm due Easter Sunday so hoping on time as DW doesn't get any paid leave and bank holidays are great! Also 3 bank holidays over here in May (they fit them all into 2 months stupidly) so she'll get a bit of paid leave which is great.
Wishing a good weekend to everyone.
Liz: How exciting! I can't wait to hear the heartbeat. I think it will all seem more real then. I had a crazy baby dream last night. Are you and DW hoping for a girl or a boy?
Granite: That's great to hear that you are still feeling great. It's nice to hear the opposite of the usual narrative of the last trimester being unbearable. Hope baby decides to give some signs of readiness for you.
AFM: Not much going on here. We are interviewing midwives and hope to pick one by next week. The one we really want to use is up in the air because her admitting privileges are up for renewal and the hospital is being less than nice. I really hope it works out though because we really felt good about her.
Redrock it's an amazing sound and very encouraging. We don't mind either way as long as it's health, but I've now had seven dreams where I was having a boy and nine with a girl so I'm convinced it's a boy!!