Oh, peacefulmama, how heartbreaking for you and all of your family.
I know it semi-sucks that everyone knows, but now, every is there to support you. After two consecutive miscarriages and me keeping quiet about this pregnancy to be safe, I found that my family was slightly upset about not being told earlier, precisely for this reason. I've had a D&C at 16 weeks and a natural miscarriage at 9 weeks: choose whatever you feel will be easiest for you (with the D&C, I asked the doctor to try and save the placenta so that I could bury it somewhere, which they did. It helped me. Innaa lillaahi wa inna ilayhi raaji'oon. And we all belong to nature as well).
I'm so, so sorry. Be gentle with yourself.