I have been searching books and the web for help, but as it seems my situation is a bit unique, I am finally posting.
My DD is 16 MO. I am 25 weeks pregnant and have had milk supply issues starting around 10 weeks. DD was really frustrated at first, but quickly adjusted and was still happily nursing for the most part. However, recently, she has decreased feedings significantly and now I think my milk is completely dried up (because of the self weaning or possibly the reason for the weaning).
She has always nursed to sleep for naps and night time, and also been a very frequent night nurser.
Now that she is not interested in nursing, bedtimes have become a nightmare and night wakings as well.
She will still sometimes nurse to sleep for a nap, and nurse a bit in the middle of the night, but it is never pleasant for either of us and often results in DD crying/fussing/angry. We have also had major sleep issue which is DD waking up for two hours in the middle of the night.
I read NCSS and sadly found I was already doing many of the solutions to no avail.
This is how our nights has been:
6:30 - bathtime, night time routine (lotion, books, bottle of goat's milk, try to nurse, ect)
7 - tired, co-operating with routine
7:30 - angry, fussing, crying, don't know what to do (neither of us)
7:45 - fall asleep from bouncing/rocking exhaustion
after this, she can sleep till around 12-1 which is pretty good (i think), but then it's every hour fussing and tossing wanting to nurse but hating nursing, then finally around 4am she is up awake and nothing can put her to sleep till 6.
Sorry if this post is all over the place, but I am so tired.
I need help:
1. how to put her to sleep without nursing (obviously, because she does not want to) and without bouncing because i am so physically tired (25 weeks preggo here and totally sleep deprived)
2. how to help to stay asleep (i think this will fall into place one she learns how to sleep on her own??)
Like I said, i've tried and/or continue to use Pantley's methods but for one reason or another they are not working for us.
I need anything different to try.
We co sleep and i've also introduced a mattress on the floor next to our floor mattress which she has been doing well in, but it's been musical beds too. so i can't really leave to room (for safety) but dont mind being in there while she falls asleep, i just dont know WHAT TO DO.... PLEASE HELP!!!
ps. I know some don't consider it "self-weaning" if its during pregnancy. frankly i don't care what it's called - she isn't wanting to nurse anymore so that is that. no need to comment on that.