Originally Posted by serenbat
I'm curious, if the father, and other relatives had a known predisposition for spectrum disorders, did you not receive genetic counseling prior to getting pregnant or during, to assess your chances? This didn't come up with the Ped or MD at check ups?
That was one of the first things I was asked (along with wanting to know the medical history as we knew it for other issues) at my first mid-wife apt - and again when I switched to an OB.
A valid question. I was in my early twenties. It was an unplanned pregnancy. The twins are now 18, and in those (nearly) two decades, there has been a major change in awareness of Autism. For example, in kindergarten the twins' special ed teacher of record had to come up with a semi-bogus reason to justify their services, because Autism was not yet an accepted one. Ten years later, that was almost unthinkable.
Their dad and his grandfather are both very high-functioning, intelligent, successful people, neither of whom has been officially diagnosed with anything. (Of course, when we were kids back in the 70's - and certainly when our grandparents were growing up - people only tended to be labeled Autistic if they were, say, a 10 on what we now consider a spectrum.) It never occurred to me that my boyfriend had any "worse" genes to pass on, than anyone else. Had I been concerned about genes at that stage, I suppose I would have guessed he had desirable ones, at least as far as intelligence was concerned. Only after the twins were born, did I end up reading enough about Autism to realize that it clearly explained the quirky personalities of my (now) ex and his grandfather.
I forgot to mention that one of the two sons my ex has now had, with his new wife, shows some signs of Autism (but has not been diagnosed) .