welcome jesepumpkin! My technical due date last time was Dec 2 so I joined both Nov and Dec DDCs. :) Feel free to stick around.
October chat thread - Page 2
I'm in my 9th week officially. The morning sickness has dissipated a LOT - I continue to take B6 religiously and unisom at night. I also bought a Boppy pillow that has changed my last 2 nights of sleep dramatically. My husband is starting to realize this baby is real. He is really nervous and says he "isn't excited yet". He seems to think he will be excited when he is holding the baby - I have got news for him! :)
Our family knows and everyone is excited. My Mom is visiting for a week starting tomorrow (pre-planned) so I am sure she will cook a TON of food that will drive me out of the house by the smell. She's from MN so you know it's gonna happen!
OH! I also bought those bands for your pants so you can wear them unbuttoned - total game changer!
I have two things going on: work and hemorhoids. Those little buggers get me every pregnancy and sure enough, started up right on cue, at the start of my 11th week. On the plus side, I "forgot" my lunch and just had an awesome lunch of fresh sushi and miso soup and it actually tasted good! Could this be the end of the nausea? Am I happy to trade dry heaves for butt discomfort? Ah pregnancy...I tried so hard this time to convince myself I was just being whiny with feeling blech in my last two pregnancies, but maybe I was just realistic!!! It's not my favourite time, no matter how much I try to pretend
My husband is already pretty excited about this baby. But with DD he had no connection until she was born. She was born at 27 weeks, so before movements got really dramatic, and he would only semi-jokingly respond when I had him put his hand on my belly to feel her, saying "that's just gas bubbles." Then she was born, and he was mesmerized, instantly in love, really positive even tho she was so sick and tiny etc, because he had just met his baby, whereas I felt awful because I had just lost her into an isolette. This time he has a mental picture of his baby living in my body that he never had before. Probably even more so this pregnancy because we will have lots of ultrasounds (we had none with DD) so he will have lots of proof that its more than gas bubbles!
Spots. 3 so far. light brown and light pink.
I checked cervix when I noticed them, and it had dropped back down. and then it disappeared again.
Boobs have not shrunk back either, like they normally do, well before I start to bleed with a miscarriage.
That, and my temps have not bottomed out either.
Could be run of them mill normal or not!
I'm having some bleeding myself. Moderate when I wake up in the morning and then quickly tapering off during the day. No big clots or anything, and it's all purple or brown, no bright red. So, I don't know what is going to happen. My morning sickness seems better today, but I'm ten weeks and it often improves around this point. So I'm not super hopeful, but not out yet. On top of that, work has been really stressful this week. I'm ready to go back inn vacation or put myself on bed rest or something (except I bleed less when out of bed, so that probably isn't a great idea), but I need every minute of vacation time for maternity leave because my job doesn't provide paid leave. Sigh.
I heard the heartbeat on the Doppler again today <3 I am 10w2d. My hemorrhage seem to have finally healed. I bled for 4 weeks straight and it has been quiet for 5 days now. It has put such an emotional toll on me, but today I am just relieved and happy and for the first time really believe I will hold a babe in my arms in May. We told the kids today and they are SO excited. I also facebooked it today and that was fun.
I also am so very sad about all the miscarriages, knowing very well myself how much it hurts:( Many thoughts going towards the mamas and their families.
Yes there have been a lot of losses, but I've never been in a DDC long enough to know if that's normal or not. I know it's definitely freaking me out because I keep thinking I'll be the next one to make that announcement. I almost called my OB today to see if I can have my first appointment earlier so I can have peace of mind but I know it won't stop the inevitable from happening so I'm just going to wait it out. Torture!!!!!
Ocelotmom, I hope your bleeding stops soon so you don't have to be bothered by that worry. Hang in there!
ChiaraRose, that's good news! I'm glad you're doing well. It probably feels good to have that reassurance!
My heart goes out to all the moms with early losses. But in my last DDC, this was pretty normal. This is the time when everyone is nausous and trying to get into gear with being pregnant and stuff, so unless they have a concern, many mamas tend to just kinda check in for this part. And the mamas most excited and eager to test/find out they are pg really early are often having fertility or other issues, so they might know about a pregnancy that a casually trying mama might not notice until she got a "late period". Second tri was when people became more active in general chatting and thread posting, but at first, the main people posting do tend to be the ones who need hugs and support. Sorry its stressing some of y'all out, but to those who asked, yes, its normal. Send them all the hugs and prayers you can.
eazer, I too am dying to see my MW for my first appointment. I set it up for 12 weeks but I really really just want to hear that heartbeat!
manysplinters, I am going to try and talk dh into sushi for our lunch today, he's not a big fan but it sounds yummmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmy.
Oh boy...I just overheard my husband talking on the phone saying that my sister is planning a surprise 30th bday party for me this Friday. This is nice and all except for the fact that EVERYONE will know I'm pregnant if I'm not drinking. I hope she thought of this when planning so I can walk around with a drink that looks like there's alcohol in it! I'm also so bloated that I LOOK pregnant so I need to find a big shirt to wear or something. I'm sure she started planning this before she found out I was pregnant, but I feel like this is going to be stressful seeing so many people when I'm trying to hide the fact that I'm pregnant and I'm so tired that I fall asleep around 9:30! Wish me luck...
eazer, uhoh party! I had the same drinking problem last thanksgiving. I just accepted the wineglass, took one sip while they were all watching, and then set the cup near a collection of look-alikes. And then grabbed some water. Alternately you can do what I did this pregnancy when a similar event arose - take the opportunity to announce.
I am 11 weeks and 2 days today and suddenly, i feel fantastic. My nausea seems to be totally gone, and I've managed to eat my lunch and wash dishes in the evening without gagging and heaving. I'm less tired, and feel like a cloud is lifting. Of course, I'm also panicking that it is the sign of a miscarriage, but I think that timing wise, this is when I'm "supposed" to be feeling better. I'm just hoping it lasts. I have my nuchal fold ultrasound next week, and I am hoping that everything will be all good and in order at that. Before that, i also have an awkward family dinner to attend. it's extended family I rarely see, and it seems that every darn time we get together for dinner I am pregnant, and early-pregnant, so I am doing the earlier than I want to announcement.
MrsGail, I never had much nausea to begin with which is still a source of worry for me, but I still have my other pregnancy symptoms so I'm hoping everything is still ok.
Fayebond, I like the idea of hiding your wine glass among the others! I think I might try that. I definitely do not want to announce the pregnancy because if my sister planned the party, there will be a LOT of people there and after having a loss in June, I don't want to have to break that news to that many people. I think I'll play it safe for now. Thanks for the advice!
Sourire and Manysplinters, if I were in your shoes (much further along than I am and having dinner with family) I would definitely make the announcement too. That must be exciting! Unfortunately, I won't even be 8 weeks by then and there will be a lot of friends and random people at this party so I'm going to hold off for sure as long as no one gets drunk and calls me out haha! Either way, I'm just going to try and make the best of it and have fun. I can't wait to hear how your announcements go!! :)
Can't wait to hear how the announcements go for everyone too! I am going to my first big social event at which everyone knows. I'm already preplaning things to ask people to deflect questions about how I feel (what do you mean, how do I feel? I'm green as a martini olive and I'm barely moving. How do you think I feel? And no, rubbing my belly DOES NOT FEEL GOOD AT ALL. Society needs a rewrite on our interactions with pregnant women, just sayin').
I'm not sore but I feel like I need DD to nurse alright already. And she is not interested. She gets one or two sips and looks at me and smiles. Like, hey mom, this is fun and all, but where's my newfound formula friend? She really digs the bottle now. She's had some off and on since 1 mo but never liekd it until now. I think my milk must be changing or something because its there for sure and she used to looooove nursing times. Now its like she doesn't even want me. :( Anyone successfully tandem nurse with this problem?