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post #21 of 120

Once DD had proven that her desire for pierced ears was serious, we had a mommy-daughter trip to the tattoo parlour and both got our ears pierced (not my first holes).  It was a lovely bonding experience, which would not have been as meaningful if she was an infant.  There is something very special about choosing whether to get pierced, and when and where to get pierced, and getting to pick out the jewelry, etc... Incidentally, I'm worse about twiddling the earings than dd is.

post #22 of 120
I simply don't support the practice of modifying someone's body without their consent.
post #23 of 120
I want to add, how does a baby reason that pain?
Ear piercing while quick is painful, they go from comfortable to being in sudden pain while mommy just stands there and doesn't help.
post #24 of 120

It's silly to punch holes in a baby so you can hang gems and knick-knacks in the wound. Some women and men like earrings; some don't. It's a personal thing, so definitely wait for them to be old enough to make that call.

 

I got my ears pierced at 13. My sister never got hers pierced because she didn't want to.

 

Wait, wait.

post #25 of 120

I had my ears pierced as an infant, because that was what was culturally expected and I find now that I cannot tolerate earrings.  I have not had my girls' ears pierced because I don't participate in ritual scarification.  I felt that it was in the same ballpark as circumcision. 

post #26 of 120

My parents waited until I could ask for it (which was about 4).  I don't remember how much I participated in the aftercare, but I loved having earrings.  I still do.  If my baby is a girl, or even a boy, I don't know that I would pierce ears at 4 even if it was asked for.  I may wait a bit, but I'm definitely not going to just do it just because I want to look at them.

post #27 of 120
My mother had no interest in ear piercing. But, she said it was fine if I could convince a relative to take me to get it done. So for my preteen years, my earrings were an important part of my self presentation, although you'd never guess it now.
post #28 of 120
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Originally Posted by sniffmommy View Post
 

I had my ears pierced as an infant, because that was what was culturally expected and I find now that I cannot tolerate earrings.  I have not had my girls' ears pierced because I don't participate in ritual scarification.  I felt that it was in the same ballpark as circumcision. 

I kind of do too, but I've been reamed for saying so on other forums. :duck

post #29 of 120

I don't like it and would never do it - but I certainly don't think it's the worst harm you can do.  My reasons against:

 

1.  WHY do something that causes even a little pain to your tiny baby when there's no reason to do so???

2.  For many girls, it's a rite of passage, a first step into womanhood, so why rush that??

3.  I personally think it looks tacky, not cute - like make-up on a child.  Just my opinion.

post #30 of 120
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Originally Posted by ShyingViolet View Post
 

I kind of do too, but I've been reamed for saying so on other forums. :duck

At least there are some (rather thin) medical arguments that can be made for circumcision. The "pro" argument for ear piercing is entirely cosmetic; nobody is claiming that there are any benefits in any other way (besides "she won't remember the pain", when really, ear piercing is not all that painful at any age). So I find it even less convincing than the arguments for circumcision, personally. 

post #31 of 120

I wouldn't pierce their ears until they wanted to, and then I'd make it a birthday or some other special occasion present. I don't know what age, I don't feel it would be fair to throw out a number. It would depend on the child and why they wanted to get their ears pierced. 

 

Although I feel my husband has other thoughts and would not let them pierce their ears for quite a long time, seeing as he barely understands the point in me wearing earings.

 

I think it's silly to pierce a baby's ears, for reasons others have already pointed out. I would never do it. I met a girl in school with a very noticeable scar on her ear from ripping an earing out as a baby, it got caught on a blanket.

post #32 of 120
I pierced my oldest ears at 8 weeks. She lost a stud at the mall, so I took the other out at 2. She's 5 now and doesn't like earrings in at all.
My youngest is 5 months and I won't get them done until she asks. When you know better, you do better. There's absolutely no reason to pierce a baby's ears. None. It's as bad as circumcision.
Edited by alaskanmomma - 10/8/13 at 11:18pm
post #33 of 120
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Originally Posted by tasiaz View Post

I pierced my daughters when she was 2 months old... Her pediatrician did it and even recommended to pierce that young because she's too little to fuss with them.. She didn't even realized it... No crying no pain. And taking care of them is so simple. Just a little bit of alcohol under posts every night after her bath. Mine were pierced at a couple months old my sisters also... I've never seen it as a big deal. Little girls look adorable with little pink studs :-)

It's almost like you're saying your daughter wasn't cute enough without the earrings.
post #34 of 120

I find it strange that people get their babies ears pierced. Do people do it because they don't want others to call their girls boys?  I was pretty much bald until I was 2 and expect my daughter will be as well. I'd rather correct people on her gender than pierce her ears without her consent. If she decides when she's old enough that she wants earrings, I'll bring her to a professional piercer. I still have built up scar tissue inside one of my holes from when I got pierced with a gun when I was about 10.

post #35 of 120
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Originally Posted by swede View Post

It's almost like you're saying your daughter wasn't cute enough without the earrings.

While you have every right to disagree with her reasoning, don't put words in her mouth that she didn't say.
post #36 of 120

I like the idea of giving it some meaning, like a rite of passage or first step into womanhood, as kcc said--if the child wants it. My daughter has asked for pierced ears since she was 8 and I told her she must wait until she is 13. However, if she gets her period before then we will get her ears pierced as a celebration of that milestone. It was hard to convince her Latin father to wait, though, as he didn't like the idea that people wouldn't know that his baby was a girl.

post #37 of 120

I have never liked the idea of piercing a child's ears... Personally body adornment is a CHOICE. My daughter who is 5 likes my pretty earrings but when I showed her how she would need to take care of them every day she said she would like to wait. I think it is a good idea for children to be able to make a choice and be able to mostly manage the care of them on their own. In our house though piercing is likely an issue not limited to the sex of my children. Their father has pierced ears as well and we both agree that there isnt a hard and fast age but that the child needs to be responsible and make the choice.

post #38 of 120
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Originally Posted by TCMoulton View Post

While you have every right to disagree with her reasoning, don't put words in her mouth that she didn't say.

I wrote what I perceived her saying. I think that's still allowed.
post #39 of 120
I dont believe this is wrong or right, it's actually everyones separate decision to do it or not. Yes of course the kid should decide if she wants or not a piercing but shouldnt they also decide if they want to be in the family's preference of religion? Or any sort of decision one takes for them way before they even know what they want, if a parent does such a thing is because we believe its right. If they for instance dont want a piercing when they grow up it can be removed and it's going to leave a tiny hole but live leaves us memories all the time.

I just wanted to ahare my side and say that its not wrong at all. The child will grow just as loved as before her family will love her and if any of the society rejects her its just on them because thats what people do all the time reject and judge. Everyone should just be loved as is. smile.gif
post #40 of 120
So what most of you people are saying is that when your kids are oldder and can decide, ya'll are just going to let them because they wanted to?? If they want to smoke at 8 or drink or do drugs or anything its just going to be ok because they said so?? No... Well you see letting them decide isn't always the best and we always have to be there for them that's why we are parents, to guide,protect,and understand them throughout live not just a piercing that could be removed when desired to.
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