Hello, my daughter may be on her way to a diagnosis of OCD. I wanted to ask here for those of you who are experienced what can I say to her that wont make things worse. I am a couple of weeks away from referrals and such, so I don't want to waste anytime saying or doing the wrong things for her. Do you have any one liners that could help a 4 year old. I need some mantras for me and DH to say to her. Do I ignore or talk her through it.
There is so much to share, but I will start with what is currently happening. First, she has been tested negataive for PANDAS. What has happened in the last month is she won't use her hands to climb the slide, hold the swing. If she does touch those things, she wants to wash, wipe or lick her own hands. She has played at the park for a full 2 hours not using her hands. I felt her suffering. She says her hands are sticky all the time and wants to wash, wipe or lick. She is not longer picking up bugs or acorns like she once did. Today, me and her baby brother (15m) are now a "dirty" she doesn't say this specifically, but if I touch her, kiss her hug her, she wipes it away with her own salavia or runs with a wet cloth to wash herself off. I PRAY that this is just phase but I am so worried it is not a phase. I have never cried in front of her but today, I felt my eyes tear up at lease 20 times as she washed me away or refused her baby brothers kisses. She has always been very affecionate, so this really hurts my heart to see. She doesn't know I am tearing up, I know that wouldn't be good. I just can't hold back the emotion. Her brother touched her teddy bear and she grabbed it away from him and started licking him clean. The first 2 weeks of this, I just ignored it hoping it would go away. Now I am saying things like "you don't need to wash that, it's clean...see, look." (and I show her my clean hand). Just yesterday it started with me and her brother. Up until then, it was herself or her toys and things outside. She would scratch her head and then lick her finger to wash off her finger from touching her head. She would scratch herself with her shirt and not use her own hand, b'c i guess she thinks her hand is dirty. I find myself saying somethings that i think are stupid and unproductive. I don't want to make things worse but I don't know what to say. Should I just ignore this? could this be a wierd quirky phase that will pass? Any advise please. IS there anyting else other than PANDAS that could cause all of this?