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Feeling like Gumbee

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Ever feel like Gumbee? I constantly feel like I am being tugged in two different directions. Preschool land and baby land are so different! Will I ever feel less like Gumbee and more like a good mom?
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I think that when the baby gets to a stage where he/she (sorry, still getting familiar!) is moving around, playing and talking it will get better. My oldest 2 are 11 and 9 (2 1/2 years apart) and it doesn't feel like they are at drastically different stages. It might help that my 9 year old is a girl, I think she's maturing faster.

 

I do understand how you feel, there are so many things where I have to compromise between my big kids and the baby. Watching TV is a good example... I think it's okay for the big kids to watch 1 or 2 episodes of TV after supper. My husband has old DVD's of Smallville and the kids love that show, and they like Once Upon a Time. I think for my older kids, these shows are reasonable as far as content BUT there are scenes that are scary for the baby and I don't think 1 1/2 hours of screen time is appropriate for her. So what do I do? I haven't been able to find an answer that feels good, so the baby gets a little too much screen time and her and I spend part of the time in the kitchen. 

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Hi lovemylab, I just wanted to say that I am right there with you. I feel like there are so many demands on my time,attention and body (I'm tandem nursing), that I can never fully give myself to one person, myself included! I do feel like I was a better mom when there was just one kiddo. It sucks! 

 

My midwife suggested I evaluate each situation based on who's needs are strongest...my own included! I'm awful at that whole self-care thing, but I find on the days I do take some time for myself, I feel much better.

 

And, I suppose like everything in parenting (and life!) "this, too, shall pass".  

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Originally Posted by BushMama83 View Post

Hi lovemylab, I just wanted to say that I am right there with you. I feel like there are so many demands on my time,attention and body (I'm tandem nursing), that I can never fully give myself to one person, myself included! I do feel like I was a better mom when there was just one kiddo. It sucks! 

My midwife suggested I evaluate each situation based on who's needs are strongest...my own included! I'm awful at that whole self-care thing, but I find on the days I do take some time for myself, I feel much better.

And, I suppose like everything in parenting (and life!) "this, too, shall pass".  

That is exactly how I feel. One kid was so much easier.
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