I'm feeling very defeated tonight. I had a conference with my DD's 2nd grade teacher. DD was accelerated last year, and is a young 6 year old in her 2nd grade class.
There are 2 problems. One is that DD is extremely introverted and uncommunicative in school. She does not like to speak, bottles up her problems, and gets through the day without demonstrating any joy in anything. I am so very sad about this. :( We are working hard on it at home--we encourage social skills, role play, take her out specifically to practice. It has been this way throughout her entire school career, even when she was in the age appropriate class. The teacher clearly attributes this personality to being skipped. She mentioned over and over again that DD is young.
The other problem is the attitude the teacher took with me today. Although I mostly just listened, she made several assumptions about me. She assumed that I had pushed for the grade skip. I didn't. The teacher also acted as though I am pushing DD. When she asked about DD's interests at home, and I gave a list (geography, space, chess), she told me that I was putting too much pressure on DD. Um...I put no pressure on the kid. The only thing I ask is that she does her homework and practice the violin. She is the most underscheduled kid in our entire state.
I'm not really sure what to do about this. DD's lack of communication seems to mean EVERYTHING to this teacher. She told me a few times that DD's academic success isn't particularly notable, and that she is EXTREMELY concerned about her socializing. I mentioned that DD socializes just fine in smaller situations, and that large groups have always posed a challenge for her. With guidance and patience, she will warm up.
thoughts? I just want her to be happy. And for something, anything, about my kid to be recognized in school. I don't care what it is.