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Is calling someone's kid a "fatty" okay?

Poll Results: Would you be offended if someone called your toddler a "fatty."

 
  • 66% (10)
    Yes!
  • 6% (1)
    Not sure.
  • 26% (4)
    No, not really.
15 Total Votes  
post #1 of 13
Thread Starter 

Is it just me, or is it considered rude to call someone's kid a "fatty"? As in, "Wow, he's a fatty." Another mother (of a 1 year old) said this about my 2 1/2 year old when he lifted his shirt to expose his cute baby belly. No, they weren't laughing sweetly when they said it, just said it matter of fact. My son is by no means thin. He's a meteorite, stalky, and built like a linebacker—got a sweet personality just as big though. Would you be offended?

post #2 of 13
This mother... What planet is she from? Sheesh. She probably didn't mean any harm but that would bug the crap out of me.

I come from a culture (Hispanic) where calling people fatty and skinny is the norm. I HATE IT. Every time I see my grandmother she says something about my weight. My mom tried to tell me these are terms of endearment. Yuck. Can't stand it.
post #3 of 13

I wouldnt be offended - my 3 yr old weighs 65 lbs - so i know a thing or two about well-rounded toddlers!  (My DH was hoping for a quarterback - but its obvious we have the better part of the offensive line here...)  

my son has always been pretty big and i have to stop myself when i see small babies -(they all looked small to me!!!)   i try and use the word 'peanut'  -  like   "what a little peanut!"  - but i wonder if some parents would feel offended at that word....

no one has ever called my son 'fat' outright - but i have to say - he is, so i really cant feel offended at the truth.  Try and take away the negative connotation of the word - fat is just a descriptive word....it describes my son ....as does happy, loud, boisterous, and CUTE! 

post #4 of 13

Ugh.  People are awful.  I would feel totally compelled to pick out that person's worst feature and "cutify" it while pointing to it.  Who LIFTS UP a child's clothing and then makes that kind of remarks?

post #5 of 13
Thread Starter 

Sorry, no, the mother didn't lift my son's shirt, my son did.

 

I'm not completely offended by it, and I'm sure she just didn't think when she said it (not sure she didn't mean it negatively though). It just rubbed me the wrong way. I don't think people should use that as a "description" of a child. 

post #6 of 13

Maybe that's ok in a proud and joking way as babies when they tend to get chubby and they don't internalize it. Not past infancy. Then "wow he's a big boy" would be the limit.

post #7 of 13

LIke most things it depends on tone.  I had super fat babies, super chunk rolls, the kind you had to pull apart to clean and dry.  Then they developed into these chicken legged no meat preschoolers, I was sad.  So if I find a chunky fat rolled baby I'm all over them :)  I think anything over 2 though you have to be careful saying stuff like that to kids.

post #8 of 13
The commenting on babies/toddlers weight in adult terms drives me nuts. My daughter was delightfully round and well fed as a baby, lots of rolls up her legs, and a round little belly. When she started moving, she slimmed waaaaay down and now she's not much of an eater (too busy). My inlaws have made comments about how "it's good she's not SO into food, you won't have to put her on a diet later", "she's going to be a model - so tall and skinny!" Gag me. Seriously. Don't put your body image crap on my kid.
post #9 of 13
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Originally Posted by rainface View Post

The commenting on babies/toddlers weight in adult terms drives me nuts. My daughter was delightfully round and well fed as a baby, lots of rolls up her legs, and a round little belly. When she started moving, she slimmed waaaaay down and now she's not much of an eater (too busy). My inlaws have made comments about how "it's good she's not SO into food, you won't have to put her on a diet later", "she's going to be a model - so tall and skinny!" Gag me. Seriously. Don't put your body image crap on my kid.

OMG. I would want to slap them. That would drive me crazy!!!!
post #10 of 13

Rainface hit it on the nail with the "body image" issue.  I had a rolly polly baby who's slimmed down quite a bit (no rolls to speak of) but at 23mos she's still a solid toddler, both tall and muscled, wearing 3 and 4t (although they are a tad long on her still) and I HATE HATE HATE clothes shopping already because honestly who do they measure to get these sizes?  When she was 9mos old I needed a swim top for her.  She didn't fit into a girls 18mos (way too tight) yet wore 12mo zizes for regular clothing.  BUT fit fine into a boys 12mo swim top and had room to spare.  I was utterly disgusted at the fact that clothing manufacturers already play the body image card on infants.  What other reason would there be for a boys top to be differently sized from a girls top at 12mos old? There is NO difference in size of children at that age.  None.  Aside from individual differences, babies do not have different body "shapes" because they are male or female.  But the fact that people make assumptions is rude and demeaning.  Now to give it perspective, my LO is 34" tall and about 29lbs - I see her as a regular toddler.  Other people comment on how "big she is" - but then they also take into account her advanced vocabulary and that's also a poor assumption.  I'm not big, 5'2", 115lbs.  DH is about 5'11", 240?  So who knows what our DD will look like in 15 years.  To call her "fat" now, or comment on how "hopefully she will slim down like mommy" angers me to no end.

post #11 of 13

Uh. I'd reply to the offending party that they are exceptionally tubalicious and you know what honey? It's okay if you're chunky! I know lots of moms who are chunky, and you're seriously the cutest chunky mom I know. I wanna pinch your cheek, you so cute!

post #12 of 13
For me a chubby baby or toddler equals a healthy one. Both my babies are long and skinny and it's caused me alot of stress. My toddler was almost diagnosed as failure to thrive before she started solids and my 3mths old only recently stopped dropping percentiles.
I'm almost certainly guilty of commenting on other babies weight but I try to make sure I'm not being insulting or saying their baby isn't normal. Just remember whatever people say about your child they're either trying to give a complement or give themselves confidence that their own experience is normal.
post #13 of 13
One of my really good friends said that about my son when she compared him to her daughter. My friend was mostly anorexic during her pregnancy and her daughter never bf or like formula much. My son was a healthy bf baby boy who weighed 7 - almost 8lbs at birth. I told her he wasn't fat, he just ate like a normal child. Even now, she feeds her daughter whatever she finds but my son is df and loves fruit smile.gif
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