I'm struggling with whether we should say anything about our pregnancy on facebook. Our family of course knows and some of our friends know - I felt like it was different with our wedding and first home, didn't think twice about announcing it loud and proud. A part of me is also finding this as an opportunity to let some "friends" know where we stand - if we haven't talked in 9 months, we're probably not THAT close of friends. My husband is much more private than I am (I keep him up to date with his friend's events on facebook, he'd never go on there). I don't mind telling but I'm not sure what else to consider since this now involves a 3rd person. Any suggestions? We don't plan on sending out pregnancy announcements, haven't discussed birth announcements, can't figure out when to do a baby shower, so how will people know and how can our "Little O" (the O is for our last name, not "the big O") get gifts??
Baby tidbits - to facebook or not to facebook?
I paired down my Facebook friends list as well and then made the announcement. This is my third baby since having a Facebook account and I announced the other two pregnancies as well as the births (pics too). My DH is not as private about his friends list or what he puts on Facebook and it annoys me. He posted the ultrasound photos and tagged me. Then all these people I didn't know where "liking" the contents of my uterus. It feels creepy. He went down the list of likes explaining to me who each person was but some people he didn't really know who they were! He also has a bunch of ex-girlfriends on there, one in particular had expressed great disdain for me when he and I started dating and then she became furious with him when I was pregnant with our first child together (they had been broken up for two years before he and I started dating so I don't know why there was an issue). Last week she "liked" the ultrasound pics . . .WTH! He doesn't have children with anyone other than me. I have children from previous relationships and I am not FB friends with my Exes. I don't want them in my personal business and especially not all up in the business of my uterus. ( I am also a loss mama so FB announcements make me nervous anyway). I think DH and I are coming from different perspectives because he got upset with me because I didn't want to tell my ex or have him find out that I was pregnant yet, ex lives on the other side of the country and it's just not news I wanted to share with him.
As far as suggestions - I say just go with whatever you are comfortable with.
Thanks for the guidance - I have definitely been more sensitive about who is informed about what my uterus is holding (because once they know, then the "advice" starts rolling in!!). I didn't even think about the "ex factor"! You'd think after 2 yrs they'd move on...ugh. My mom has posted a few "hints" on her fb about my pregnancy - can't say I'm thrilled with that. Having a mom on fb ain't easy!! I think we may keep this news more private for a change :)
I announced it but I suspect that the people on FB I am iffy about don't actually read my page anyway. There are some classmates I keep around because I vaguely want to know what they're up to and I suspect they're about the same way about me. Everyone I actually interact with on FB is people I actually like.
i've said nothing about my pregnancy on fb. family and friends know, but via my own mouth or others in my family. besides, i've been pretty superstitious about it. facebook shouldn't necessarily be a forum for too personal stuff.. we mostly post funny things and pics of our dogs… or even some food. i don't even think i will post a pic of the child once it's born (here's a good article http://www.slate.com/articles/technology/data_mine_1/2013/09/facebook_privacy_and_kids_don_t_post_photos_of_your_kids_online.html).