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post #41 of 68

Spurred on by the rush I felt from a compliment received on another thread and probably out of my mind for sharing this without editing I present the list I referred to above.  I wrote this out tonight with the intent of posting it on Thursday. 

It's the first version - just like most of what I write here and probably in need of editing, but who I can't seem to care much these days.  A couple things are repeats of something I may have mentioned before, but I think you'll get a kick out of it and I have been dying to share it with somebody.  Number 8 is the one that really amuses me (and I think you'll like best), but I think I could write a short essay about that topic alone. Remember the audience is my mostly clueless Facebook peeps so . . . .
 

13 Things You Didn't Know About Me (and may regret learning  - some of them) 

 

1) Up until about a month and a half ago I was doing at least one hour of working out (usually yoga) every day! Now a trip to the bathroom requires an extraction plan.
2) I slipped off my diet plan and had gluten - repeatedly! - because my body said it needed it *and* I muscle tested for it (but did overdo it a couple times before exercising moderation).
3) The "pina colada song" made me cry and it's a shameful secret because I think it's a stupid song.
4) My verbal filter is down and I have been known to make shocking declarations without batting an eyelash.  While this used to happen occasionally, usually for comic-relief, it is now a near-constant truth.
5) I am alternately terribly in need of a good hug and thoroughly repelled by the way fragrance someone has used (even "unscented" products) makes them smell and drive them away.  Same goes for pressure anywhere near my torso, one minute a blessing, the next a valid reason for murder.
6) Like a toddler, if I say something is true in this moment (hungry for food, thirsty, need to pee), the truth is that it was likely true 20 minutes ago, I am more desperate for <blank> than I can state and everything will change by the time <blank> is actually presented to me.
7) After a couple years of steady improvement, I am experiencing what will hopefully be the last majorly devastating health change for a long time and I'm alternately thrilled and horrified.
8) I finally understand boob jobs.  These are so much better than the set I've been carrying around previously and I hope they get to stay.  They are the most consistent source of joy and wonder, even when all else is bleak.  
9) That last one and a half bites of the banana I ate while writing this was too much and now I just feel sick - again.
10) Nearly every stranger I've met from the guy taking my lunch order to the ladies at the massage place have known my biggest secret before 95% of the folks reading this.
11) It seemed like a great idea at the time and it's totally my fault, but I will shamelessly blame him and hurl accusatory pouts and he will accept them with a smirk and twinkle in his eye.
12) After months of increasingly improved self-care and attention to detail, I have taken to things like I "veteran" - not shaving because I'm too tired, drinking from dirty/"clean-enough" glasses, leaving laundry in stacks and calling it "good enough", etc. - and am strangely at peace with this devastation of any remaining sophistication.
13) Have you guessed the biggest reveal, yet?  It's Thanksgiving and we have a gift to be grateful for, but won't receive the full gift until June 2014. 
 

post #42 of 68

Having a bit of trouble with how / when to tell extended family.  I'll be 2 days shy of 11 weeks on Turkey Day, and I was expecting to tell everyone then because we will have LOTS of people, our whole whole family, there. But I was supposed to have a doppler / heartbeat check this morning so that I could feel confident that baby is okay in there....and that just got cancelled because she's at a birth. I guess that's what happens when you have a homebirth midwife :(

 

I'm truly not upset with her, or even with the situation. But I'm devastated that we won't get to hear the heartbeat for another whole week. We miscarried at 8 weeks about 5 months ago, and it's been TORTUROUS to make it this far without so much as a peek at baby. But I was proud of myself for making it to 10 weeks without freaking out too much.....until now. Now I'm freaking out.

 

Do I tell everyone anyway?  I don't have any proof that baby is okay this time. Other than nothing seeming to be going wrong (which I guess is all the proof that I really need...).  Blurg.  I just don't know. Any thoughts?

post #43 of 68
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Having a bit of trouble with how / when to tell extended family.  I'll be 2 days shy of 11 weeks on Turkey Day, and I was expecting to tell everyone then because we will have LOTS of people, our whole whole family, there. But I was supposed to have a doppler / heartbeat check this morning so that I could feel confident that baby is okay in there....and that just got cancelled because she's at a birth. I guess that's what happens when you have a homebirth midwife :(

 

I'm truly not upset with her, or even with the situation. But I'm devastated that we won't get to hear the heartbeat for another whole week. We miscarried at 8 weeks about 5 months ago, and it's been TORTUROUS to make it this far without so much as a peek at baby. But I was proud of myself for making it to 10 weeks without freaking out too much.....until now. Now I'm freaking out.

 

Do I tell everyone anyway?  I don't have any proof that baby is okay this time. Other than nothing seeming to be going wrong (which I guess is all the proof that I really need...).  Blurg.  I just don't know. Any thoughts?

That is a tough situation. I would go with your gut in the moment at Thanksgiving. It might be nice to have all the positive response from so many loved ones surrounding you and your baby on that day, no? Maybe you could make your announcement and add that you are still waiting for the heartbeat to make sure everything is okay. That way, you can still be a little reserved about celebrating since you still want to be cautious with your emotions until you feel that you are truly out of the danger zone. I told my office a week before I heard the heartbeat, and I announced it in a similar fashion. Then, before my appointment, they all wished me luck that everything would go well. It was nice having the support, but I think it is something you have to decide on that day. Good luck mama :Hug

post #44 of 68

I am planning on telling my extended family in a few weeks, after my cousin delivers her twins. I was thinking giving her at least 2 weeks with the new babies before I make my announcement.

 

For Facebook, I have decided to go for the shock-and-awe factor when my belly has grown substantially. My birthday is 2/23 and I will be 23 weeks that day, so while I will be getting a lot of birthday attention I thought I would post a "thank you" message to everyone with a birthday surprise photo of me and my belly announcing Baby Z.

post #45 of 68
@Michelle Murphy - that is an amazing announcement! I love the toddler reference as I often feel that way. It's like the baby has already taken over our lives with constant food demands. I'm sure everyone will find this hilarious and informative. While reading it I was trying to imagine if I would you were pregnant or on drugs. But the boob job part sealed the pregnancy deal.

@Water Mama- I like that also- cant decide yet how to tell Facebook world- but kinda want to wait til I have a cute pregnant belly to show off smile.gif
post #46 of 68
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@Michelle Murphy - that is an amazing announcement! I love the toddler reference as I often feel that way. It's like the baby has already taken over our lives with constant food demands. I'm sure everyone will find this hilarious and informative. While reading it I was trying to imagine if I would you were pregnant or on drugs. But the boob job part sealed the pregnancy deal.

@Water Mama- I like that also- cant decide yet how to tell Facebook world- but kinda want to wait til I have a cute pregnant belly to show off smile.gif


I do feel like like I'm drunk a lot and probably act like I'm "on something"  which is why I end up telling total strangers I'm pregnant.  It's my excuse for any misunderstanding or weird behavior (especially the chatty space-cadet stuff I was incapable of suppressing today). 
"Sorry I jay-walked, officer.  I'm pregnant and sometimes I forget how to cross the street."

 

post #47 of 68
HopefullyMama- I would go ahead and share your happy news. Odds are that everything is fine and there's reason to celebrate! And like Watermama said, you can always mention that it's still early and you haven't had a chance to meet with your midwife yet.

My close family and friends all know (they've had to put up with me updating them frequently on "hurl-fest 2013") but I'll probably wait awhile for the FB announcement. I'm considering making a shirt that says "I survived the first trimester" and posting a picture in it. Although it might be best to wait until I can come up with something a little more sweet and joyful wink1.gif
post #48 of 68

Just told last surviving grandparent (abuela) over Skype.  She was with my aunt, uncle, and cousins at the time.  There's a partial language barrier, but she was very happy (and I crept up on it slowly enough for her to get there first).  I got a texted saying she's thrilled from my aunt.  (And my mom was the one telling me to wait longer! Sheesh.) 
Feeling loved and happy about that. 
Horrified that I almost forgot to tell her before FB when L would have found out first and blabbed to everyone. 
Sent the excellent image from 9 weeks plus to my aunt's phone so that Abuela will have something to show to her bridge buddies and help her bragging a bit. 
So nice when things to go well.  My aunt was the only one who knew so I got to surprise 5 people at once.  Uncle Gary showed me how "preggo" he is, too.  <chuckle, snort>
May you all have such wonderful reveals to at least a few people! 

post #49 of 68

We had a great time telling everyone this Thanksgiving! I put a piece of paper saying "Our first born is due June 2014" with a picture of the positive pregnancy test below at the end of our wedding album. It was the first time we were sharing the wedding album with them so as they turned to the end and read it...they were all surprised! One of my Aunt's literally started jumping up and down screaming and the other one was soo excited as well! Everyone was so happy and supportive it was really great!

 

I went maternity clothes shopping and bought a Christmas pregnancy t-shirt. I decided I'm going to wear that with my DH in front of our Christmas tree and take a picture. We'll probably try a few different poses... then we'll use that picture for the holiday card and to announce on facebook. We'll likely announce on facebook in a week or two.

post #50 of 68
Think we will wait and tell the rest of the family at Christmas... Then announce on Facebook on Boxing Day ( day after Xmas) with something cute like- " Joel gave me the best Christmas present ever this year- just have to wait til June 2014 to open it!" With a picture of us and somehow my belly showing.

Activia- your announcement sounds so lovely!
post #51 of 68

All these announcements sound lovely, I wish I could do the same!

 

As I don't expect any positive reactions to this pregnancy from family, I am trying to figure out the best way to tell everyone. I thought maybe on a day when everyone is together for a while at the house, have my ds somewhere else so he doesn't have to hear any negative opinions etc and just sort of say I have something I need to tell you all while we're all together. I know it will be a shock and you won't be very happy about it, probably take a while to sink in as it did for me too. It's been hard to keep this a secret but there just hasn't been an okay time to tell you because there's always been something happening causing stress etc, but I can't hide it any longer. I'm pregnant.....4/5 months gone, and it's a girl/boy (if I can find out the gender before I tell them) I did consider all my options and have decided to keep the baby. I know it will be hard but I hope once you have got over the shock I will have your support. -Then I'll shut up and wait for their reactions and probably questions about who the father is etc. I just really hope no one cries or I might too, no one wants to upset the people they love :(

 

Then once they all know and it's been discussed a bit, or they've told me to leave as they need time to process it....I will finally be able to tell my ds the news when we get home. His reaction should be a positive one :love 

post #52 of 68

Hahaha! So we told our immediate families over thanksgiving :) The way we did it was my DH took a selfie with everyone, basically saying, "3,2,1 everybody say Clare's pregnant!" and then take some snaps of the reactions...

 

DH's family thought we were joking and kinda went back to their post-dinner-cleanup/Christmas tree setup :rotflmaoThe photos are funny, but probably just for us. The only person who clicked was our sister- in-law whose face in the photos goes from a huge grin to a slightly confused look. 

 

DH's family always joke about us having kids (and about his younger brother getting a girlfriend - all in good fun) so they thought we were joking too. We've never joked about it though, so it was pretty funny to see DH just stand there and say, "No, guys, we're serious! No, we're not joking! No, really! Guys, we're pregnant!!" After that the congratulations and jokes about being uncles and aunts and grandparents started rolling.

 

hahaha!

 

The next morning over breakfast we did the same thing with my immediate family. They believed us almost instantly and the photos are pretty cute. I'll get them off DH's phone and post them soon :)

post #53 of 68
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Hahaha! So we told our immediate families over thanksgiving :) The way we did it was my DH took a selfie with everyone, basically saying, "3,2,1 everybody say Clare's pregnant!" and then take some snaps of the reactions...

 

DH's family thought we were joking and kinda went back to their post-dinner-cleanup/Christmas tree setup :rotflmaoThe photos are funny, but probably just for us. The only person who clicked was our sister- in-law whose face in the photos goes from a huge grin to a slightly confused look. 

 

DH's family always joke about us having kids (and about his younger brother getting a girlfriend - all in good fun) so they thought we were joking too. We've never joked about it though, so it was pretty funny to see DH just stand there and say, "No, guys, we're serious! No, we're not joking! No, really! Guys, we're pregnant!!" After that the congratulations and jokes about being uncles and aunts and grandparents started rolling.

 

hahaha!

 

The next morning over breakfast we did the same thing with my immediate family. They believed us almost instantly and the photos are pretty cute. I'll get them off DH's phone and post them soon :)

I love this idea! I am going to try and do this with my 86 year-old grandmother when she comes to visit two weeks from today. She has never met DH, so after chating for a little bit, I want to take a picture of the 3 of us like you did and see if she gets it. 

 

I have been waiting to tell my dad's side of the family until a couple of weeks after my cousin gives birth to her twin boys. She was induced this morning, but we haven't heard any news yet. That means that I will probably call to tell everyone after I tell my maternal grandmother in two weeks on the 16th. I can't wait--my dad's side of the family will be thrilled, and I know my dad wants everyone to know :) Facebook will wait until my birthday in February.

post #54 of 68

We told immediate family on Thanksgiving. We went to my in-laws, and dressed ds in a Big Brother shirt (from Gymboree, has the most adorable little fox on it) and waited. It took them FOREVER to notice, and we finally had to point it out to them. They were happy, especially my MIL. Then we phoned/texted some other family members and close friends. I waited until yesterday to share it on fb. I had the NT scan done, and I wanted to make sure baby was still healthy in there before we made the HUGE announcement on fb. Then I posted a pic of ds in his big brother shirt in front of the xmas tree with the caption "Big news." Everyone is thrilled!

 

@snowydays My heart breaks for you that you feel like you won't get the support from your family that is so important. I can't even imagine sharing such wonderful news and expecting such negative feedback. You are in my thoughts.

post #55 of 68
My daughters birthday party was Saturday so we had her open a big sister shirt. Everyone caught on oretty quickly and was ecstatic.

For Facebook we did this:
post #56 of 68
Thread Starter 
Anyone else not completely public with their news yet?

We've told our parents and the friends we see on a day-to-day basis. Additionally, a lot of people have guessed/asked because there is no way for me to hide my belly and also be comfortable. But we still have yet to tell our siblings, grandparents, or extended family and friend networks. We plan to wait 2 more weeks to tell grandparents/siblings (around Christmas) and 3 to go public on Facebook (around New Year's), but if we see any of those people in public first, the jig is up!
post #57 of 68

I haven't told my extended family. My Grandma flies in on Monday so I will tell her in person--can't wait! I will tell the other side of the extended family the next day probably. Facebook has to wait until February 23rd--my birthday and my 23rd week of pregnancy. I want to post a nice belly shot as my surprise announcement on that day. Plus, I am not really showing enough for people to know. It's been kind of fun dragging the announcements out over several weeks :)

post #58 of 68
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Anyone else not completely public with their news yet?

We've told our parents and the friends we see on a day-to-day basis. Additionally, a lot of people have guessed/asked because there is no way for me to hide my belly and also be comfortable. But we still have yet to tell our siblings, grandparents, or extended family and friend networks. We plan to wait 2 more weeks to tell grandparents/siblings (around Christmas) and 3 to go public on Facebook (around New Year's), but if we see any of those people in public first, the jig is up!

We are telling everyone we see in public. Word is definitely spreading among even the extended family. After the ultrasound we'll announce on Facebook (January 9th)

post #59 of 68

We still haven't told my sister or Dad (we'll see them next week and tell then) or DH's family. Sis-in-law #1 was due two days ago and no baby yet, so I'm happy we're waiting. Hopefully baby will come soon and everyone will have a bit to give her all the attention before we share our news. 

post #60 of 68

We announced to our extended family on Thanksgiving via my turkey shirt idea(close friends and our moms already knew). My sister caught it on her iphone, so she put together a little movie for me. I posted it on FB today.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LBrgqgTkATI

 

You can go to the link above to watch. On The FB post I said "Lilly had on a very special shirt at Thanksgiving. Watch this video to see what it says."  My Grandma's face is priceless (second clip). lol

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