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post #21 of 32
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Originally Posted by chispita View Post

This was our first and we're definitely not done. We want two for sure, maybe three. I think we'll wait until Cailan's 9-12 months old before we start talking about the next one.

 

This is us, exactly. I am more in the "three" camp but my husband wants to just wait and see. Of course there are those sleepless nights when we wonder if maybe having an only child is not that bad.. ha! 

post #22 of 32
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Originally Posted by chispita View Post
 

I actually liked being pregnant during the Summer - PNW Summers are mild, and it meant less layers of clothes, skirts, flip flops for swollen feet, swimming pool outdoors available :)

 

Agreed - if you live in a decent enough climate (read: not sticky humid) I don't think being pregnant in summer is bad at all. We are in LA and I was fine (as long as I had air conditioning to sit in if needed!). 

post #23 of 32
Oh I hated being pregnant in the summer, we don't even usually get hot here in the uk, but this year we had a freak heat wave lol
post #24 of 32

OK so now that Ash is 4 months old, I'm wondering how people have more than 1 child (not even talking about twins)!  Even though I think I want one or 2 more, I don't feel even close to being ready anytime soon.  Not physically, not emotionally, not financially.  We still are barely getting sleep and we're still learning how to go out in public with a baby.  It's seems common to have kids 2 years apart but it feels like 4 years would be good, or more.  Or maybe not any more kids at all!  

 

Do you think me feeling this way means I don't really want more or is this normal to feel this way when he's on;y 4 months?  The thing is I turned 30 a couple weeks after he was born so if I wait 5 years my chances of conceiving might not be so great, especially if I want 2 more.

 

My husband always said he wanted 3 kids but since I got pregnant and especially since we had Ash he hasn't been sure.  He wants to just wait and see and he says he'd feel complete only having one.

post #25 of 32
Maybe you'll feel different in a year, ash is only small. And I had liv at 37 after trying for only 4 months!
post #26 of 32
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Originally Posted by KaliHekate View Post
 

OK so now that Ash is 4 months old, I'm wondering how people have more than 1 child (not even talking about twins)!  Even though I think I want one or 2 more, I don't feel even close to being ready anytime soon.  Not physically, not emotionally, not financially.  We still are barely getting sleep and we're still learning how to go out in public with a baby.  It's seems common to have kids 2 years apart but it feels like 4 years would be good, or more.  Or maybe not any more kids at all!  

 

Do you think me feeling this way means I don't really want more or is this normal to feel this way when he's on;y 4 months?  The thing is I turned 30 a couple weeks after he was born so if I wait 5 years my chances of conceiving might not be so great, especially if I want 2 more.

 

My husband always said he wanted 3 kids but since I got pregnant and especially since we had Ash he hasn't been sure.  He wants to just wait and see and he says he'd feel complete only having one.

 

i think if you just turned 30 then you have plenty of time for a second one! 

 

i wouldn't judge so soon. i imagine this is still the most difficult time of all. i'm confident we'll all be learning the ropes in time.. including how to be a functioning person again even when sleep-deprived! 

 

but i know what you mean. i also feel like we'd need outside help if we were to have another one. 

 

so in the meantime, my birth trauma has disappeared -- i don't remember the pain i was in. seriously!! the brain is a crazy machine. 

we are already talking about the next one, but i suddenly remember the pregnancy as having gone on forever. i want to enjoy my body and myself and my new family and also my couple life again for a while before we start trying again. i turned 32 a week after i had Sage, so i feel like i can't wait forever.

 

originally we wanted 3 kids, i'm not sure about #3, if there will be enough time or if we'll want a third one once we have two.. i'd love to have some kind of help available, there were days where i felt like i couldn't have coped if we didn't have such a flexible schedule, both of us. 

 

we're getting married this summer and are hoping for a honeymoon early in 2015.. i think i'd like to start trying for #2 after that. March 2015?? 

post #27 of 32
I never imagined myself wanting four kids, but I am having a hard time with the idea of never having a newborn again. greensad.gif. I am 33 now, have kids age 14, 4 and 4mos...last baby was a hospital birth and first I managed to do unmediated (and completely intervention free!) and I would loooove to experience that again...and do a homebirth. I just adore babies and birth...but not being pregnant. We are also a military family and move around a lot. I am just not sure I want to be the family doing that with four kids. Anyway, we need to stop somewhere wink1.gif likely we are done, but if not...I would want to get pregnant at 35 or so...
post #28 of 32
I really want another one, and want to be pregnant by the end of the year so I'll be 38 when I have it. The only problem is I hated pregnancy so much, it was so hard, painful, tiring and the constant sickness was horrible. I know it will all be made worse because I won't be able to be lazy and just sit around with a toddler to look after.😏 since going back to work I have so much more energy there, I didn't realise I was so tired while working there pregnant, I guess our brains block it out lol
post #29 of 32
Feeling good about the decision to wait till Cailan is two before trying for the next, but nervous about whether that means we might be closing the door on a third, which we both really want but are not sure we could make work logistically. Also a bit nervous about how long it will take us to conceive, since it took us seven months with this one
post #30 of 32
I'm 34 & not interested in changing diapers at age 40 while also stressing about teenagers, so the sooner I'm out of the baby game the better. But so not eager to be pregnant again!! Loathe pregnancy. And doing it with a heavy breastfeeder is much harder in every way. Btdt.
A conundrum!
post #31 of 32
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Originally Posted by Serafina33 View Post

I'm 34 & not interested in changing diapers at age 40 while also stressing about teenagers, so the sooner I'm out of the baby game the better. But so not eager to be pregnant again!! Loathe pregnancy. And doing it with a heavy breastfeeder is much harder in every way. Btdt.
A conundrum!
Serafina, do you have 2 older kids? I was 34 when I had my DS1, who is now 2 1/2. I felt the same way- really didn't want them too close because of how dificult that is (for everyone!) but didn't want spread it out so far that I'd be having another baby at 40. So we tried to split the difference. It is a conundrum, for sure!
post #32 of 32

I sure do, they are turning 9 and 11 this summer.  It was absolute hell dealing with a baby and a tot when DS2 was born, that I am still traumatized and don't want to do it again.  However, I just can't keep going through pregnancy and babyhoods when I'm close to 40, so .....  sigh.  Better get on the ball.

I try to reassure myself that it might be a bit easier with a more active and willingly participating father, and with the nature of my daughter so much more patient and easygoing than DS1 ever was (highly demanding child).

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