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Trying to decide about saying no to early morning nursies

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My almost 17mos old has been in a pattern of getting very unsettled, crying, wanting milk from about 3am to 7am. She has done this for a long time, even when she has a nice long sleep in the first part of the night. She seems to be getting more unsettled about it and I wonder if limiting milk would help her be calmer at that time. I believe in letting her lead on weaning, I just wonder if she needs something other than milk, since it doesn't really seem to calm her down. Does mama-led weaning lead to more problems than waiting for her, or will she benefit from my being clear?

 

She is still sometimes needing two naps a day, but does better with the afternoon one if she just plays through the morning. I think the need for that first morning nap is because her early morning is not restful. I have no idea how to go about saying no to her and having it be effective. She is a demanding nurser and I don't want to get into a power thing.

 

I am also fine to wait it out, it's hard on my sleep but I try to nap with her and we make it work. I do not work outside the home so its easier. I just wonder if she is expressing a need that I am not meeting by just continuing to nurse. She is teething pretty hard (those "eye teeth: I think) Any thoughts about this?

 

 

On a side, which might have something to do with it, I have a hard time keep her temp comfy. We co-sleep but she is technically in a different mattress with different sheets and no blankets (she doesn't like them or footie jams) She seems cold when she comes over to me but doesn't want to stay under the covers. I just ordered some wool long-johns...anyone have good luck with these?

 

 

Thanks for your thoughts!

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I don't think I'd limit night nursing during eye teeth. Those are the worst! My opinion (and that is all it is!!) is that 17 mos is a little young to introduce the idea of limiting nursing. There is a major difference between 17 mos and 22-24 months, in terms of being able to explain things to toddlers, such as how long you have to wait or why you have to wait until sun up.  It's tough but you're coming along through a tough phase! Many toddlers at that age are very unsettled because there is so much going on in development and growth and exploration!!!

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This is where my heart is so I appreciate the reply. I feel like giving her what she needs right now will mean she'll come through it more independent and solid in herself and will sleep well, but this is just my hope and thoughts, not sure if it really happens...but i think i've seen it in other self-weaned kiddos

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Could you warm up the room? I always found that helped with my two.

Even after I night weaned, my two still nurse for a few hours before we get up.

It is such a precious age!!
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