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post #21 of 44

That's so sweet, you mamas whose two-year-olds are happily, unofficially done. BeckyWheeler, that was a huge change in just two weeks!

post #22 of 44
Wow. Lots of self-weaning! My 2 year old is still dedicated to nursing at bed time and nap time (and a couple timed during the night). I don't think I'm
Making much milk though and he's pretty happy to take a bottle of milk during his nursing sessions as long as I let him still nurse. So it's like five minutes of bottle five minutes of nursing back and forth. I'm hoping he will self wean but we shall see.
post #23 of 44

I can't say it was really self weaning for Tenley. She was working her way down, but I needed to speed things up. Thankfully, she did REALLY well when I finally said we were done. She was down to once per day, at either nap or bed (I work shift, so I've only been home for one or the other lately). And then one night we just said "You know what, I think your milk is all done. It's all gone. Lets go get a cup instead", and she said ok, and then just never really fussed for it again. Two weeks ago if I told her that, she would still throw herself on the floor. But really, I've had virtually no supply for months now. I had NO noticable increase in size when I stopped, no soreness, and certainly no engorgement. It's funny because other mamas in my ddc still talk about being in PAIN if their DC go 6 hours or so without nursing. I'm like pfffff. I stopped getting that engorged just after she turned a year. AND I've only been nursing on one side the last month or so, so it was really done as far as I was concerned. 

 

And I feel like I can cuddle her so much better. She never used to want to cuddle before- it was milk or nothing. I'd nurse her almost to sleep, but as soon as I unlatched her, she'd jump down off my lap and be done with me. Now she'll climb up on my lap and snuggle to sleep. It's nice. I'm definitely glad to have this respite in between nurslings. I struggled a lot initially, because I did really want to get to that 2 year mark too, but honestly, it was becoming a bitter relationship on my part. Not good. 

post #24 of 44
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Originally Posted by redeyedvireo View Post
 

That's so sweet, you mamas whose two-year-olds are happily, unofficially done. BeckyWheeler, that was a huge change in just two weeks!

I tried to nurse that night after saying that and it hurt SO BAD! I think he's forgetting how to latch? Because his teeth were digging and it just stung and hurt.

post #25 of 44
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Originally Posted by Becky Wheeler View Post
 

I tried to nurse that night after saying that and it hurt SO BAD! I think he's forgetting how to latch? Because his teeth were digging and it just stung and hurt.

Ouch! Sorry.

post #26 of 44

You can encourage a big open mouth to try to get a better latch.  Toddlers tend to get lazy.  And also, same as with babies, instinct takes over when they are almost asleep and that's when they'll latch the best.  When they aren't really thinking about it, just doing it on instinct.

post #27 of 44

Well, I was putting him back to sleep and he was almost back to sleep when I started nursing him. Ah well. It was a good run and he doesn't seem incomplete without nursing, so that's good. My boobies will get a break before babe is born. lol

post #28 of 44
Ok so my milk dried up about 4 days ago and my 2 year old has been dry nursing at nap time and bed time and during the night. We have talked about how there is no more milk and he has to start drinking his milk from the bottle or sippy. But he just keeps nursing for up to 2 hrs at a time at night, frantically clawing at my boobs and waking up every hour to try and nurse ( we co sleep). So yesterday I had enough and told him that the nummies were all done, and there would be no more nursing. He took it really hard at nap time, screaming tantrum ing etc. we snuggled rock in rocking chair, and went for a walk and he finally fell asleep. (heartbreaking moment - he got his dr kit and tried to fix them). I really didn't want to wean but the dry nursing for hours has been rough and I tried setting a time limit but he has the same reaction as he does to "no nummies" so I figure right now I am replacing the comfort not the nutrition. Since there is no milk. I was dreading night time but we read books he drank a bottle, we talked about the change and I told him how much i loved giving him nummies and that I was sad the milk had gone too. He did really well and we built some blocks and he fell asleep in my arms in the rocking chair at 11pm (usual edtime 9pm). At 330 am he woke up in full on tantrum and the only thing that could console him was us walking him around the house till he dozed off in our arms. But he woke up as soon as we stop. My husband and I took turns and he finally fell asleep at 630 am. It was so hard emotionally. I feel like its the right thing because he was just getting frustrated with the lack of milk and I found that when he was clawing and biting my boobs I was getting irritable and resentful rather than enjoying our nursing time as usual. I feel like as hard as this is right now I'm able to cuddle him with only love and not be sort of just getting thru the nursing session and in pain. Anyway, I guess I'm sort of amazed we for thru one night and a little freaked out by what's ahead but hoping to get some feedback from some of you mamas who have gone thru this (he's my first). Right now I'm so traumatized by this process I'm like I don't know of I can breastfeed my next one! The weaning is so hard!
post #29 of 44
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Originally Posted by riverbliss View Post

Ok so my milk dried up about 4 days ago and my 2 year old has been dry nursing at nap time and bed time and during the night. We have talked about how there is no more milk and he has to start drinking his milk from the bottle or sippy. But he just keeps nursing for up to 2 hrs at a time at night, frantically clawing at my boobs and waking up every hour to try and nurse ( we co sleep). So yesterday I had enough and told him that the nummies were all done, and there would be no more nursing. He took it really hard at nap time, screaming tantrum ing etc. we snuggled rock in rocking chair, and went for a walk and he finally fell asleep. (heartbreaking moment - he got his dr kit and tried to fix them). I really didn't want to wean but the dry nursing for hours has been rough and I tried setting a time limit but he has the same reaction as he does to "no nummies" so I figure right now I am replacing the comfort not the nutrition. Since there is no milk. I was dreading night time but we read books he drank a bottle, we talked about the change and I told him how much i loved giving him nummies and that I was sad the milk had gone too. He did really well and we built some blocks and he fell asleep in my arms in the rocking chair at 11pm (usual edtime 9pm). At 330 am he woke up in full on tantrum and the only thing that could console him was us walking him around the house till he dozed off in our arms. But he woke up as soon as we stop. My husband and I took turns and he finally fell asleep at 630 am. It was so hard emotionally. I feel like its the right thing because he was just getting frustrated with the lack of milk and I found that when he was clawing and biting my boobs I was getting irritable and resentful rather than enjoying our nursing time as usual. I feel like as hard as this is right now I'm able to cuddle him with only love and not be sort of just getting thru the nursing session and in pain. Anyway, I guess I'm sort of amazed we for thru one night and a little freaked out by what's ahead but hoping to get some feedback from some of you mamas who have gone thru this (he's my first). Right now I'm so traumatized by this process I'm like I don't know of I can breastfeed my next one! The weaning is so hard!

I've been a little daunted by my youngest's nursing habits as well and almost not looking forward to nursing this one. But I DO know what not to do this time, such as not giving any leeway for bad habits to form (twiddling, scratching, pulling both breasts out and switching all the time). If it's that hard, you might take him out of the room for a bit at night? My youngest has started sleeping in the other kids' room right now and he wraps himself up in his favorite plush blanket. hehe

 

post #30 of 44
Thread Starter 

That sounds rough riverbliss :( Hopefully things are starting to get better. I just spent 3 nights away from my nursling, so I'm guessing I'm mostly dried up by now. Our doctor just told me that colostrum is the best thing I could give her for her gut issues though, so I'm going to keep trying to nurse and hope she gets some of that. 

post #31 of 44
Yeah I definitely am not going to let bad habits form this next time around (my 2 yr old has been a twiddler and scratcher). I did let him out o the room last night and he snoozed on some sofa cushions in the living room for a while. I am kind of letting him do what he needs to do to find some comfort right now. I want that to be snuggling with me but when he gets really upset sometimes he just wants to get down and go to another part of the house and hang out with the dog or something. I wish he had older siblings to crash with!
post #32 of 44

So my husband and I have successfully night-weaned our 20 month old. It took about a week of him mostly dealing with her when she woke up crying for "nummies", but she no longer asks to nurse if she wakes up. Now that she doesn't nurse at night (which has lasted about 3 weeks), she went from routinely waking up at 11 pm, 2 am, and 5 am, to sleeping from roughly 9 pm to 6 am, then going back to sleep for another hour of two after some mild intervention.

 

The big substitute we made was that now if she wakes up, which she does less often, instead of yelling, "Nummies!" she yells, "Wub!" (meaning rub, as in "rub my back"). We co-sleep, so it's usually easy and either one of us can do it and she's back to sleep in a minute or two. HOWEVER, the past couple nights the little monster has decided that I'm the only one who can adequately perform the operation, so she screams, "Mama Wub!" and if my husband tries to do it she screams "Daddy No!" and "Stop it!" at him. So annoying. (But honestly, I'm still grateful to routinely sleep more than 3 hours in a row now.)

post #33 of 44

That's awesome! It's been a month since I've had my 24 month old weaned. He tried to pull my shirt up today to nurse, while I was napping. Um, no, sorry dude. Those are dry and sensitive now.

post #34 of 44

My 27 month old is still nursing occasionally.  Usually to sleep at night and at nap, on the rare occasion she'll ask during the day, but that's about it.  I don't have any soreness and I have no idea if there is still milk or not.  My breasts haven't changed at all since getting pg this time yet.

post #35 of 44

Just wondering if anyone else was still nursing. We're down to just one time at night for about 10 minutes as she's falling asleep, but it's starting to get REALLY painful, especially the latch on. I don't want to make her quit before she's ready, but I'm pretty sure she must not be getting anything. She doesn't seem willing to give it up though. She still asks several times though out the day, but I can usually hold her off by telling her "at bed time". Except then I have to do it, because I don't want to be a liar.

post #36 of 44

Still nursing here!  This is my 4th pregnancy to nurse through.  I'm just really intentional to make sure she opens big and wide before I latch her on and I'm fine.  She only nurses on one side and it's been that way since several months before I got pregnant.

post #37 of 44
my 30 mth old is nursing a couple times a day and at bed time. DS stopped around his third birthday. DD will turn 3 two months after baby arrives. She doesn't nurse at night anymore as long as she's in her own bed and not sick or teething.
post #38 of 44

Still nursing here also. It's been painful the entire pregnancy. i think my milk completely dried up around 10-12 weeks, although I'm not sure. My daughter doesn't seem to care. I've been limiting the time and trying to make her open her mouth bigger, although that doesn't help much. She totally doesn't seem ready emotionally to wean though, and I think after the baby is born it will be helpful to have her still nursing. I had supply issues in the beginning with her, and I really want to avoid that this time. I'm just trying to make it through I guess.

post #39 of 44

we've officially weaned.... dd (3.5) took a few days break because my nipples were/are so sore, and when she relatched, she forgot how to nurse! she seemed ok w/ this because she'd been acknowledging that they were empty anyway. bittersweet.....

post #40 of 44

Onetwoten - I know what you mean by more cuddling. My LO had adapted to cuddling more when 'mommy's milk hurts'.

 

My DD is 28 months and it has been excruciating since day 1 of this pregnancy. In the early months I think she increased her nursing during the night (we were just about night-weaned pre-conception) due to the attachment and hormone changes.

 

Now the pain is on the initial let down, then go away if she breaks from nursing and comes back to the same boob. Everything is still very sensitive though.

 

She has been very patient with sticking to occasional morning, daytime nurse, naptime and bedtime. She says to me pointing to each breast "Lucy boob and baby come, other boob" with a milky smile. I'm glad I haven't dried up yet, and believe the concentration gets higher, though there is less than before. I think it will be very interesting 'sharing' mommy's milk when this one arrives.

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