This was so not like when we had our first. Witg our first he couldn't get enough. We were shocked at how patient he was with him. Sadly things with the twins were far different. I even remember him telling me he got mad at them for looking at him. My husband couldn't stabd to hear them cry...not because it hurt him but because it was a reminder that they were here.
I a new mom with three kids under 2 was stressed enough, i didnt understand why my husband who was a model father with our first would yell at our newborns.
It was a huge stress on our relationship. We went from being a couple that couldn't get enough of each other to me not even being able to look at him. I didnt understand what was going on. He would come home And go straight for our 18 month old. Many times he would either leave with our oldest or stay secluded in a different part of the house.
Finally he told me with tears running down his face that something was wrong. He admitted he felt nothing for our newsest littke boys. He had tried but just couldn't.
After talking for a while he said "as stupid as this sounds i think i have post partum depression, can guys even get that?"
It was a struggle but he is now "normal" and just as in love with all our angels as I. Its important to know its a disease that can effect fathers too...not just mothers. Its especially hard for men to admit especially since its not well known. Our doctor said more men experience it but stay quiet. I just hope men can speak out before it destroys relationships.